Vicky - posted on 12/06/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
I'm a 30 year old mom of a wonderful 3 year old boy. My sons father disappeared when I was pregnant never to be heard from again.
In January I met a wonderful man and father of three great kids ( 7 yr old girl, 9 yr old boy & 11 year old boy).
We introduced the kids in spring and moved in together in July.
My dilemma is this. My boyfriend often bring his children to bed with us. I feel very uncomfortable with this so I go sleep in another room. I have no problem with him sleeping with his children and I herald him for being such a devoted father. But I have never slept with my son and for many reasons don't feel comfortable sleeping with his. My problem is he gets upset when I go to another bed/couch. It has caused arguments and animosity. I've made it clear that I'm not asking him to stop sleeping with his children, just that he respects my choice not to. But I find myself repeating myself and having the same fight.
Also we once babysat his friends 8 year old daughter and to my dismay he carried her into our bed. I was mortified and left promptly. I really don't think it's appropriate for him to be sleeping with his friends 8 year old daughter, especially since he hasn't cleared this with her mom. When I brought this up to him he be and upset and made me feel terrible for suggesting this.
Am I wrong? He is a wonderful man but this is eating away at me.