Abby - posted on 01/02/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
I have a boyfriend that has a son that's almost 2 years old now, and I have no problem with him having to talk to his ex to communicate with her about things that are specifically about their son. The problem is his ex's attitude towards him having a girlfriend. She is always saying that he doesn't spend enough time with his son, just so he can be with me which is not true at all. He works from 6 am to 4 pm Mon-Sun, with every other Saturday off. His ex-girlfriend goes to school from 8 am to 12, in which hours their son is with her mom. From 12 to 2 he naps, and from 2 to 4 his ex spends time with her son. At 4 pm he picks him up from her house and has him until 10 pm. His ex picks him up and it's the same thing everyday.
The thing that bothers me is that she currently told him that she was going for a vacation in Mexico for about a month, and was taking their son with her. He didn't agree, and her parent's didn't agree either. Their son has his last name, so she needed a letter to take him out of the country, but she said nothing was going to stop her and that she didn't need his permission at all. She has never filed for child support, but he gives her a good amount of money, but she keeps on asking for more. She always uses their son to get her way, and I'm starting to get pretty upset because of this.
I've asked him why he doesn't go to court and try to get some sort of custody, but he's too scared to go to court because of his legal status here in the U.S, he's from Mexico and is here illegally, but he does have a clean record, he's loving to his son and his son spends most of his time at his dad's house.
Can we get some advice on what to do?