Katt - posted on 10/22/2009 ( 161 moms have responded )
So my boyfriends parents want me to sign this paper saying that if anything were to happen to us that I do not get anything involving the house as they put 60.000$ into the house i'm not the type of person that if anything were to happen I would take him for all he has... I personally don't want to sign it because i'm left with nothing. I don't care for myself as much but mainly my daughter...I don't know what to do but I do know that if I don't sign it, it will seriously be like world war 3 with his father and I don't really want to start anything with the family... I'm stuck and need some advice HELP!
I live in Canada, Alberta to be exact. The situation is, before we even moved in together his parents bought this house and he was renting it and 2 of his friends were living with him, well after about 2 months of renting it, his parents were like oh, were going to give you the house to help you out a bit so they transfered the mortgage into his name. Then I found out I was pregnant and we moved in together in August 2008 we had our daughter in January 2009 since then we were considered common law because of our daughter. My boyfriend is completely against it, it infuriates him...but since his parents have so much money in this house he feels like he has to agree...he told me it comes down to me because it's really mainly effecting me but I don't want to start anything with his family, so i'm stuck. I told my boyfriend today that i'm not signing it until we have a will in place because if he dies a will voids this paper. Now hopefully he never ever dies!! Hopefully nothing bad ever happens but I want to be able to protect my daughter if anything does happen. I came into this relationship with nothing, we started dating when I was in high school, I lived on my own for 8 months then got pregnant and moved in with him so I didn't have a chance to get anything of my own all I have is what I brought with me so thats what concerns me, I can't raise a child with that! And just so everyone knows, were not married or even engaged and he has never said he wouldn't marry me if I didn't sign it. Like I said he's completely against it. But in Canada once we've been living together for 12 months or have a child together weather or not we live together we're common law, which means i'm entitled to half.
As for my boyfriend, he has told his parents he is completely against this, he has gotten into huge fights with his parents over this. It's mainly his dad that was doing this, his mom disagrees with it too. He has even told his mother that he wouldn't be surprised if I don't ever want to come to any family function ever again. His dad just won't let it go so he said whatever because his dad is so bull headed, you can't ever win with that man.