boyfriens and kids don't get along

Kristi - posted on 01/18/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Help! I've managed to loose my most treasured gifts my teen girls. Let me start from the beginning I started dating someone who is 9 years younger than me but before I started the relationship I talked with all my kids about how they felt about him and his age no one he a problem so the relationship went on. Eventually he moved in and thing slowly went down hill. My girls did not like anyone telling them what to do. To give u a little bit of background on my girls my oldest is living with her grandma because she got into some trouble at school and he to be pulled out and now lives with her grandma. My middle schooler has threatened to shoot teachers, pushed her brother down stairs, off bunk beds and pulled a knife of him. So when I say my guy had his hands full he truly did. How can u walk into a room with a kid cussing and expect not to say anything to that child. Anyways though things got really bad when my oldest tried to go to a girls house who tried to beat her up months earlier and when I said no needless to say things got out of hand the police were called when she was threatening people. After the even she told one of her friends she should of lied to the police officer and say that my boyfriend tried to rape her. Wtf just because he tried to get her into the car when she walked away and yes I'll admitt cussing and yelling.we moved on from that and found out that we were pregnant I wanted to wait and tell the kids because I knew how they would react. Well they snooped in my room and found the papers from the doctor and were upset. My middle told me she hoped the baby would die and she would throw it down the stairs my oldest said she was going to stress me out till I misscarryed. Sadly I did just a few days later. There was a huge blow out and my Odest threatens to call people to come beat him up because he did yell at her and cud her out but wasn't he protecting his unborn child. Now I've lost my girls and my u borne child the girls are living with thier dad but I'm having a hard time how do I choose the man I love over my girls but at the same time the relationship between the girls and I will never b the same.

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Kristi - posted on 01/18/2015

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My oldest has been in counseling for over a year now also diagnosed with depression and on medication my middle is also in counseling but started recently she was diagnosed with ODD

Dove - posted on 01/18/2015

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Well... you can't go back in time and HIS baby is going to be here too... but yes, you really need to focus on your kids. You should have been getting them professional help a long time ago and NOT moved any guy in on them w/ their serious psychological issues.

Hopefully their father will get them the help they need now.

Sarah - posted on 01/18/2015

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I think you need to focus on your kids right now. Your children sound like they have a lot of issues. You need to spend your time and energy on that right now and not dating. You will always have time to date later, but your kids will not always be kids and if the problems they have now are not resolved it will only get worse.

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