Boys hygeine...advice needed

Chesnie - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I have 2 stepsons I see every other weekend when they come over. They are 8 and 11. I also have a daughter of my own 11 months! Every time the boys go to the bathroom, they leave pee all over the seat, lid underneath and bottom of toilet. Just how boys are I guess, but I think its gross after it has collected there for several days. Would I be in the wrong to ask them to wipe it up when they are done peeing? Someone recommended leaving wipes by the toilet and ask them to wipe it if they get pee on the seat. Maybe its just boys are or they are just plain lazy (I mean they are 8&11 not like 2&5! Either way any advice, no haters please I just never dealt with young boys before. thanks

P.S. my husband doesnt wipe the seat after he uses either!

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Charlotte - posted on 04/21/2011

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my son is 13 and he does this also, I make him clean the toilet, he hates to do it, but I told him when he stops peeing everywhere he won't have to do it.

Dana - posted on 05/10/2010

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I don't know...I just asked my husband if he wipes it off because I never see anything. He says he doesn't because he doesn't drip pee.



Tell them to lift the seat when they pee, make sure they aim properly and wipe off any pee if they miss . They need to learn how to have proper bathroom etiquette before they grow up and live with a women who's in the same boat as you. ;)



P.S. you should teach them to lower the seat when they're done too. lol

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Carly - posted on 04/21/2011

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Yep, maybe if you tell them they have to sit down they will clean up their act hahaha. Thank God you don't live at their Mother's house - imagine what that toilet looks like!!!

Carly - posted on 04/21/2011

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I agree with Crissy - what you describe is completely disgusting, unacceptable behaviour for boys their age! They obviously need 'retraining' from your husband - imagine what their friends' parents think when they visit - how embarrassing! My son is 5 and you really have to drill into them early on how to go properly, aim properly, put the seat down, flush and wash your hands. My son does it (reluctantly) and I make sure he does as when I hear him go to the toilet I listen. After a while it will become habit but you really need to keep on it. I must be a boy thing as I don't have the same problem with my daughter, although my hubby is a bit slack like yours too and doesn't provide a good enough role model (to my standards anyway!) I am very strict on bathroom hygiene and think it is very important. It is also something which is noticed by others and I didn't want my kids teased about it because I didn't teach them properly.

Mary1959 - posted on 04/20/2011

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I am lucky . my husband raise and lower the seat. my 8yr son sit like me and his older sister does when we we pee. I guess we are the lucky one.

Iridescent - posted on 05/17/2010

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I expect my boys to pee in the toilet, not near it, and when they miss they get bathroom duty. This consists of cleaning the bathroom floor, the toilet, and also cleaning the potty chair, and the bathroom sink. Same goes for their dad and he was not happy when I informed him HE was the one guilty of leaving that gross poo streak at the back of the seat...he now wipes it off when he's finished without being asked.

Jodi - posted on 05/17/2010

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Chesnie, I understand where you are coming from. I have a step-son and I make him accountable at my house, just as my own children are. The number of times I've had to deal with him leaving clothes on the floor, not cleaning up in the bathroom, leaving his dishes on the table after dinner. i never do it for him, but his mother picks up after him ALL the time at home, which has made him a bit lazy. He is nearly 11, but he is getting better at knowing our expectations.

Jennifer - posted on 05/17/2010

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i have a 9year old and 6year old both boys and there chores include the bathroom and checking the toilet area because i get grossed out if there is pee on the seat or if the seat is left up i call one or both in there to put the seat down or clean the mess. they make the mess they clean it up.

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I live in a house with 4 boys My husband And 3 sons ages 6,4,3. If I walk in the bathroom and the toliet seat has pee on it My kids now someone is in trouble. Even my 3 year old. So I think You need to punish them for that just like you would for anything else they did wrong. At 8 and 11 They should now better by now. Not trying to say anything to cause someone to get upset but that is something that is taught to boys when they are potty training.

Chesnie - posted on 05/17/2010

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thanx you all.. My husband just said it will be a tough situation but he was not opossed to it. He thinks I pick on his boys alot, but I guess I am just a clean freak and make them do all sorts of things..Put their plate in the sink, say PLEASE and THANK YOU (that was a long conversation) and put their stuff in their room. They always do it with no attitude. I just wonder if their mom ever makes them do this stuff at home..hmmm

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Definately get your husband to talk to them - and not from the point of view that you are a pain in the butt woman making outragous requests - but from the point of view of consideration to other toilet users and hygiene.

I've found men's attitudes to the whole toilet thing to vary so much and it seems to boil down to having some respect for other people. Their dad needs to teach them good toilet manners and lead by example. It should be a fun do good thing, not a nasty lesson thing.

Tanya - posted on 05/16/2010

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Talk to your husband and see if he see's your point and supports you. If he is willing to wipe the seat and keep it clean ask him to talk to the boys about doing the same thing. Make sure it is a light convo and not something harsh.

If your hubby doesn't seem to understand your point you could always get the boys to clean the bathroom together after a day or two of using it and making a mess and see how they react to the mess.



Good luck on it!!

Sarah - posted on 05/16/2010

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I like the idea of putting some disinfectant wipes or something next to the toilet and trying to make it a habit to clean up after themselves. I think I'll try this with my 25 year old husband. :)

Sarah - posted on 05/16/2010

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absolutely not i have 7 boy thats and i make him clean his pee up , its not gonna put a complete stop to it but it will be awhile before it happens again and if it does make em clean it up, what i did was drained the tiolet got some ceramic paints and painted a fly inside the toilet bowl, i showed my son and said when you go you aim at the fly, i havent had a problem since boys and even men love the tiolet fly.

Crissy - posted on 05/10/2010

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I would definitely leave wipes for them to clean it up and tons of handsoap for them to wash their hands with afterword or have their father have a VERY stern talk with them. My brother just turned 11 and he has not, for many years, left any pee on the toilet seat. Occasionally he leaves the seat up, but that's the extent of it. There is no reason for such sloppy, disgusting laziness. It's not their age - they need to knock it off!

Jodi - posted on 05/10/2010

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Boys are boys. I have a 12 year old son and an 11 year old step-son, and they still get pee everywhere occasionally. If it is noticable I make them wipe it up, especially if I wasn't planning on cleaning the toilets that day. I understand how annoying it is. However, I will reassure you, they are getting better, it is much rarer now than it used to be. Maybe your husband can have a talk to them about it? If they have to wipe up after themselves, they may be a little more careful, because, yes, I do think they get lazy sometimes.



Also, just so you know, little girls can get it everywhere occasionally too :) Just giving you a heads up.

Kathryn - posted on 05/10/2010

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its a male thing i think, i have boys myself and my 2 younger ones do the same every now and then and it is gross, i tell them ta lift the lid when u go to the loo.. no i dont think it would b rude of u ta ask them ta wipe the seat, if u dont its just gunna keep goin ur not askin for much and its teachin them ta clean up after them selves. hubby should know better and as the sayin goes: like father like son

Deanna - posted on 05/10/2010

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just leave them specific instruction on what they should do when they miss the toilet... leave the disenfectant and mop etc for them to use , make it a open funny conversation so as not to make them feel shameful...

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