break up after 6 years

Jessica - posted on 07/04/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




hello .iam 22 years old and i have recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 years .we do have a 11 month old son and this is just one of the hardest things i have ever ex and me have been off and on but have pretty much lived together for 5years .i dont know what to do .my ex is acting like iam nothing and not talking to me at all .iam so sad that my family is broken up i feel like nothing will ever get better :(.its so hard for me to deal with him now going out and doing things with out me it tares me up inside and i just need some advice on my situation .


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Janeta - posted on 07/04/2011




Remember all of the good times, know that if its meant to be then God will bring the two of you back together, I know that it is hard but you need to just be there for your baby. If you are depressed and sad all of the time then you can not be there for your baby like you need to be. Iys okay to think about him and have sad moments that he is not there but letting it get to you all of the time is going to make you nor your pretty baby boy happy and its going to cause tension between you and your son because he can tell mommy isnt herself!

Katherine - posted on 07/04/2011




You can get on state aid. I don't know where you live though. You need to call your local DHS office and get the help you need.
Mommy groups are good. Hang in there. Make sure you stay busy and get all the help you need.

Jessica - posted on 07/04/2011




thank you ladies i do have a play group and iam trying to stay busy i think im hurting and stuff because i feel like nothing i had a job about 3 months ago but we recently decided id be a stay at home mother and now i have no job and just trying to get back on my feet.also because i have been with the same guy since i was 15 so i never really got to grow as myself i grew with him so i think that is hitting me pretty hard too! thanks so much for th advice you ladies have given me :)

Monda - posted on 07/04/2011




Hugs! What a hard situation to be in. I vote that you shore up your own support system ASAP so you don't feel so alone and when you do still feel alone you will have people to turn to. Maybe join a playgroup or a local Mom's group.

Tamara - posted on 07/04/2011




Right now focus on you and your son that is the most important thing, the healing will come it just takes time. Maybe journal to get some of your feelings out so you don't explode on someone. I am sorry you are hurting I know how hard it can be.

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