Break up with my kids father

Merceydies - posted on 11/23/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have no idea how to break up with my kids father . I don't want to have any feelings for him , I want an UNDERSTANDING with him for the sake of our kids ONLY ! I don't want to know what's going on with his other babymama . I just want my OWN LIFE .

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LalaBoom - posted on 11/25/2013

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Dump him #'nuffsaid

You have reason enough. If he refuses to work out an arrangement for you and kids, then let the courts help...

You are so so young and so full of life- cliched but so true. At 20, you can still create a fabulous life for yourself and the babies.

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/23/2013

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Yeah it doesn't sound like the relationship is too healthy, especially if he's one of those in-and-out-of-jail people.. you should get on some sort of assistance and find a place for you and the kids and start over. Once they are in daycare you can do the whole search for work thing.
And it's creepy because the Allan guy you described almost sounds like one that is the father of my cousins baby but he's in jail right now because he's a sex offender.

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Erica - posted on 11/26/2013

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You have to get better for your self he is not faithful in he's playing both of you .you sound like you want more in dont no were to began so start with leaving him I know your scared in you have know other place to go.but I have a friend who is 22 in she was having the same issues as you. She has twins in a 1year old all girls.in she had know extra help from family I couldn't help her at the time because I was to far in she wouldn't take my help but she took my advise I told her if she wants better .she has to start with taking care of her in her kids dont let him dog you anymore in make a ass out of you. He would tell her he love her in I'm sorry baby she is his number one in his other baby mother would turn up pregnant with twins after that .honey my friend went to the shelter she now is a nurse she has 3 bedroom townhouse in her new man is a cop .he spoils her in very faithful he has a son.his wife died . But my friend is happy. her baby daddy is single in trying to get back with her .she lets him see the kids but she said he make her sick in will never go back with. If he was the last man on earth .HaHaHa That's What Happens When Dogs Are Left In Laying in there Own S..t. Erica Negron it's time for you to shine in be happy

Erica - posted on 11/25/2013

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Oh hell no I didnt know all that run for the hills there a man waiting out there for you .you just got find egather life's to short to waist it on him .you in your kids deserve better you only got one life in he chose to f.Ck his up

Erica - posted on 11/25/2013

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Is that why you want to break up because of his other babymother . Your tired of her in you just want to give him over to her? Is he worth fighting for? EricaNegron?

Courtney - posted on 11/23/2013

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I couldnt agree more with momofto! Seriously girl you deserve better and u dont need to ask for a reason to kick him to the curb bc u just answered it urself doll...like momo said-get assistance ASAP! I promise they will help and have emergency services even housing..even if its a home living with others in ur situation just do it bc theyll find u and ur lil ones a home faster if they see ur serious:-) wish u the best of luck...and keep ur head up...ALWAYS! much love ...courtney

Merceydies - posted on 11/23/2013

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Because , I am fed up with bending over backwards for him and I don't get the respect I deserve . He's not messing around with her since he's got out of jail . He's been out since August . He went to.jail because she called the cops on him . When he was in jail , he was selling me all kinds of bull .. Saying we around get married and move in together but all that talk faded 3 wks after he was released from jail . I was living with my mentor., she kicked me and told me to move in with him since that's I was spending majority of my time . Now that I bit the hand that feeds me , I have nobody but him to depend on . He promises me all this stuff but in reality I feel like he just wants me here with him to have sex with me . When I tell him that sex is uncomfortable for me , he treats me as if he don't give a crap . I'm fed up with being sold wolf tickets !

Courtney - posted on 11/23/2013

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So what exactly is the reason you want to leave? Bc you guys are cramped in a one bdroom apt? Or is he still messing with the other girl? Im sorry i just cant grip WHY exactly you want to leave him

Merceydies - posted on 11/23/2013

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I've been with him off and on for almost 3 years . When I first met him , he had a little girl who is now 3 years old with Tiffany which is his 1st babymama . Now we have a 1 year old daughter ( Allanè ) 2mos after my daughter was born , his 1st babymama gave birth to another little girl from him ( A'moni ) who is now a year old as well and I'm pregnant with his 1st son due January 19th, 2014 . Me & Allen have been the typical ups and downs that all babymama & babydaddy have . But I just turned 20 years old yesterday , I still have not gotten my own apartment like I planned on doing . Instead I'm damn near 8mos pregnant with his 4th child , and we live in a 1 bedroom apartment which belongs to his brother and me and my daughter sleep on a freaking air mattress . He seems to be perfectly fine with being 21 years old living with 3 other people , no privacy , no nothing . NOT ME

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/23/2013

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Is he involved with the other baby mom? Did he cheat? I'm not understanding fully why you want to break it off, what did he do?

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