Kelly - posted on 07/31/2011 ( 10 moms have responded )
I met my boyfriend when I was 16 in 2006. We had an on again off again relationship up until 2009. We found I was pregnant in May of that year. A couple months after we found out, he was sent to jail for 8 months. We had an amazing relationship before and while he was in jail. He got out three days before I gave birth to our son. He was a good father and fiance for about a month and a half. Then, he started hanging out with his old friends, lying to me, cheating on me, and going weeks at a time without seeing his son. I kept going back to him hoping that things would change. Everytime we broke up I would try to hangout with my friends and have some nights out just to forget about him. In November of 2010 he was sent to jail again and I swore I was done with him for good. He stayed in jail for 2 1/2 months and for the first month and a half I kept turning him down everytime he tried to appologize to me and get me back. Finally, I gave in and believed him when he said things would change and he had realized what he was loosing. We've been living together since Jan. of 2011, and we were doing great whenever he first came home. He also stopped doing drugs, hanging out with negative people, and began working a full time job. We found I was pregnant with our second son in march of 2011. We slowly started fighting again and he started breaking the promises he had made to me while he was in jail. He still works and is clean, but it seems like he never wants to spend time with just me or both his son and I. I feel like I'm the main one taking care of our son and he is almost always with his friends. He say that we're ALWAYS together, because we live together, but I don't really count sleeping as hanging out . Also, he says he's just trying to spend as much time with his friends as he can now, because when the baby gets here he knows that he needs to be at home to help me with the kids. Sometimes I feel like he's out cheating on me also, because sometimes he doesn't come home until 1 in the morning on week nights. Whenever we argue he just leaves and doesn't try to talk things out and tells me if I'm unhappy then to leave and find someone that makes me happy. Then, he always appologizes when he gets home from where ever it is that he goes when we fight. What should I do ??? I feel like he should be here for me most right now, especially after all I have done for him and that he just doesn't care anymore !!