Breast is Best!!

Lindsey - posted on 12/23/2013 ( 28 moms have responded )

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I have 2 baby girls. My first, Scarlett, was breastfed only 4 weeks... And I have always felt so much guilt! Formula is expensive and most of them are horrible for your child. Do your research on commercial formula... It's shocking. Breast milk is amazing. And free! I know it's a huge commitment, but I would encourage anyone who is pregnant or wants a baby, when you breastfeed it is better for your child and you really do bond with your baby! On a very special, intense way. I'm still Breastfeeding my second baby girl and I wish so much I would have breastfed my first. I know it is a huge commitment, but it is only a year and it is the best choice for your baby.

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Jodi - posted on 12/27/2013

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Sorry to say, Lindsey, this post was not an encouragement to new mothers. It was a scare tactic to stop new mothers feeding their child that "poisonous" formula. If you want to encourage new mothers, you should be able to do it without telling them formula is poison. Something like, "here are the reasons breastfeeding is best for your baby if you can do it" rather than "here are the reasons you shouldn't feed your baby poisonous formula". That's all I'm saying.

Lindsey - posted on 12/24/2013

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Evelyn Witt,

I am not an idiot and I very much understand the challenges that go with breastfeedingg. I was simply trying to encourage NEW mothers and mommys- to-be. Clearly you are more of a grandmother at this point.

And I recently did use the WIC program for my 18 month old and during both of my pregnancies. It is a great program, however, they do not offer organic or natural infant formula or foods. Obviously you are oblivious to the facts... Here are just a few articles to get you up to speed on what really is happening in America with infant formula. Which is why I was trying to encourage new mom's to breastfeed if they can, because it is shocking and sad that we can't buy formula without worrying that our babies become poisoned or deathly ill... Or worse, having cancer.

I'm not judging anyone by posting that breastfeeding is best for your child. And I honestly don't care if I offended you. It's the truth.

By the way, I have two very young babies to take care of so I really didn't have time to read the book you posted as a "comment" or whatever. You really should be aware of the facts before you defend something you are obviously ignorant about.
Check out this great article:

http://www.naturalnews.com/042866_infant...


http://www.naturalnews.com/035010_arseni...


It's really interesting.


💗 Sent from Lindsey's iPhone 💕

Ev - posted on 12/23/2013

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Lindsey,

I applaud your efforts with your first child and your second child. Breast feeding does not always work for everyone. I tried very hard with my first one and she never could get the idea of latching on. We had so many hits and misses that we finally had to go to formula and today she is nearly 24 years old and is healthy having had to go to that formula. She succeeded in breast feeding her first child where I could not do so well. I think she will do so with any other children after the first but only if it works well. I did have more success with my son and he could latch on very well. But after 1.5 months of it, he was not getting enough because I was not producing enough to fill him up when he wanted to eat. He has also been raised mostly on formula and is a very healthy boy. He is almost 17.

Yes, formula is very expensive. That is why there are programs like WIC that help those that can not afford it get it. But it is next to the best option for a lot of people who can not breast feed.

Yes, you do bond with your child while breast feeding, I have not heard that its more special than bonding without the breast feeding. I have close relationships with both kids and had that from well before they were born. I bonded with them before the birth. I can't explain it, it just happened that way.

Now I have a few things to add to the reason why other mothers have had to chose formulas:

1) Sometimes there are medical conditions that are a concern for either the mother or child. Sometimes it is an illness that the mother has and breast feeding is not a viable option. Every hear of cleft palate? I am not sure about much of it but that could cause the child not to be able to suckle the right way or even latch on the breast. There is also the issue of the baby not being able to nurse at all because of medical issues that cause them to have to have a feeding tube and they have to have a special formula for that. Some children can not drink the breast milk because they have an allergy and need a special formula. I know of my kids' one cousin who was on a special formula until he was at least in kindergarten because of reflux issues. So there are a lot of reasons why formula are needed for medical issues.

2) It just does not work. It has nothing to do with the mother not wanting to breast feed but sometimes it just does not work at all like with me and my daughter and she could not figure out how to latch on. Once we got home and gave her formula in the bottle she settled down and slept better. Sometimes its a hit and miss thing as well. And I could not afford to buy a pump to pump the breast milk out. Also, some women never produce the milk or if they do its not enough or they dry out before they can feed via the breast.

3) Sometimes the mother makes the choice to use formula because of work. She may not be able to pump because of her job and how it is.

I am a firm supporter of breast feeding but sometimes it is not feasible. And would you have these babies starve if it were not for formula. You can not condemn people for not going breast milk all the way because some things are not within their control.

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Gena - posted on 12/29/2013

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I didnt read all the comments but i would like to say that my son was formula fed because i couldnt breastfeed...and i DONT feel guilty :-) Neither did i feed him "horrible" formula. Yes Formula is not free and its also not cheap..but what should i have given him if i cant breastfeed.
My son grew (actualy taller then avarage) healthy with formula(his height has nothing to do with the formula i am aware of that). And i have a close bond to my son,just because he wasnt sucking on my nipples doesnt meen i dont have a bond with my son. You are right that breast is best,but its mean towards mothers who cant breastfeed to say that the formula is horrible etc.

Savannah - posted on 12/28/2013

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I actoully praise the ones that do an don't/can't breastfeed cause either way it is a lot of work I myself breastfeed but my sisters an few friends don't I'm not gonna say "oh my god wat ru doing" it's everyone's personal choice my sister tried breast feeding but my nephew wasn't getting enough so she had to switch him theirs a lot of people that discourage breast feeding parents as well but it's a natural thing to give ur child wat they need weather it be home or out somewere iv had quite a few people come to me an say u should be ashamed of urself breast feeding in public some mothers who breastfeed aren't comfortable doing that I myself breast feeding for 3 years got use to it but those people also put down the mothers that formula feed keep up the great work weather it be breast feeding or formula an obveisly their isn't anything in formula to harm ur babies or they wouldn't have it in the stores

Dove - posted on 12/28/2013

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Breast IS best and I've spent a total of 4.5 years of my life w/ a kid (or two) on my breast, but formula is not the poison that some breastfeeding advocates make it out to be. Obviously your first child is still alive.

I'll do you one better and 'argue' that you shouldn't stop breastfeeding at a year... WHO recommends til 2 or beyond. ;)

For the record... breast milk or formula, less than a year, 1, 2, 3, + whatever... not my business and I support it.

Savannah - posted on 12/28/2013

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How does breastfeeding benefit the baby?

Protects against ear infections, colds, and viruses: If the child does have any of the above, the severity will most likely be lessened because of the protection from the breastmilk Helps the brain to grow and develop Less learning and behavioral difficulties Less diaper rashes and other skin problems Protects against Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, leukemia, some childhood cancers, and juvenile-onset diabetes Easy to digest: It is almost impossible to have a constipated breastfed baby! I think these r verry good reasons to breastfeed a baby my children r 13 months and my oldest is 32 months old they have only been sick twice in the last three years as my two nephews that r formula fed have been sick half a duzzon times in the past year

Savannah - posted on 12/28/2013

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I am a mother of 2 an I have to say I have never though about giving them formula I breastfed my first till he was 18 months old that's wen his sister was born I decided to tandem feed both of them then till he was 23 months old and I'm still feeding her now I'm going to continue to breast fed her till number three comes it's the best desicion iv ever made I have known women that have breastfed their child up untill they started pre-k but I must say their are quite a few women out their that aren't able to breastfeed or choose to formula feed I no breast is best for most but not all I love ur post

Ev - posted on 12/27/2013

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Lindsey-

My post was not so massive. There are a few I have seen that look more like a book. Yes, mine was opinion but also based on experience. I know of children who have had cleft palette for example. I have read articles on children who have had to be tube fed for all sorts of medical issues. I have read and hand known a child who had to use formula because of reflux and milk intolerance that soy formula and other similar ones were not enough to help with the issues and he had to have a doctor's order and prescription to have this special formula to drink until he was almost seven years of age when he was finally able to tolerate other kinds of milk or no milk at all. I have known moms who could not nurse for the lack of enough breast milk to give their child. The list goes on. My own experiences were there too. The point is I do believe breast feeding is best, but being so blunt about it can trigger others to be upset.

Lindsey - posted on 12/27/2013

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No one said others couldn't share their opinions. It was a bit much I'd say and I have a tendency to be blunt. I really did not have time to read all of that post! It was massive! That's also an opinion btw.

Lindsey - posted on 12/27/2013

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Well I'd say it's a little bit obvious that my opinion is not popular by majority. So sorry imp defending it.

Jodi - posted on 12/26/2013

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"By the way, I have two very young babies to take care of so I really didn't have time to read the book you posted as a "comment" or whatever. You really should be aware of the facts before you defend something you are obviously ignorant about." ~ comment from the OP.

Yes, it is sad when disagreements lead to disrespectful, unproductive or unhelpful debates and there are attacks and snobby remarks that discourage others from sharing their personal experiences.

Roxanne - posted on 12/26/2013

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Everyone is entitled to their beliefs and opinions, disagreements can be just FINE when they lead to respectful, productive or helpful debates and not attacks and snobby remarks to discourage others from sharing their personal experiences.

Jodi - posted on 12/26/2013

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Actually, it is perfectly okay to take someone's opinion and disagree with it. I'm not sure why the OP can have an opinion, and yet others can't.

Ev - posted on 12/26/2013

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Roxanne-

It is the way that the OP's post reads. It makes some feel like they are doing wrong in not feeding their child by the breast. I had to point out those things in my posts back a couple of days ago or so. I think it is important to remind others what those things might be and some may not know them whether or not they are breast feeding. And blogs are not proof of what is in or not in formulas either. It is just another set of opinions. If someone wants to point out that things are bad in a product or formula in this case; they need to find a legit place that has the proper information on said subject. A blog is not one such place unless it contains the links to back it up to those sources.

Roxanne - posted on 12/26/2013

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I breast fed for 2 months while I was in school and I loved breast feeding but our routine got ruined because of school. I also felt a little guilty I couldn't breast feed anymore but my son didn't want to anymore because he got used to the bottle. I only felt bad because I knew he could have been getting better nutrients but I got over it. Obviously breast milk is the better choice and should be attempted for as long as the mother and child want and can, while they can. Nobody is trying to guilt trip anyone, it is simply the feelings some people have for different situations and other mothers should understand it and not assume it is an attack. It's also common knowledge that there are many reasons why some mothers or some babies can't breast feed and there is no need to take someone's personal opinion and advice and turn it into an argument.......

Bethany - posted on 12/26/2013

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I formula fed all of my children. I work. I have other things I have to do. All my children turned out absolutely fine and healthy. I plan on formula feeding my triplets when they arrive in February. In fact, my eldest daughter is in the gifted and talented program at her school and has received national honors for her academics. She was formula fed from day one, just like my other daughters. I feel no guilt for formula feeding them. I was proud to tell others they were formula fed, to show it isn't going to ruin my baby and give them horrible diseases. A mom can feed her child however she wishes. I made the choice the was best for *me.* Every mom has a different best.

Melissa - posted on 12/25/2013

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I'm reading into this thread a bit late but would like to add as a new mother of a 12 week old baby girl, who only breastfed for 6 weeks that there IS A SEVERE LACK OF SUPPORT for formula feeding moms.

I had to switch to formula do to issues with supply. When I swapped to formula, I noticed that there was little to no support for mums who formula fed. Some blogs/websites referred to formula as "poison" or "toxic".... Umm what exactly is that telling new moms who cannot breastfeed and are looking for some support? It's a horrendous message!

New moms who are having challenges with breastfeeding (which may lead to switching to formula) are already dealing with a severe lack of sleep and possible postpartum depression. The last thing they need is being told what they are feeding their child is "poison". What is that doing to their self-esteem and confidence in parenting???

If you want to promote breastfeeding, then by all means do it, but Nicole, please do not add links about the "toxins" in formula. You are not helping mothers who are already dealing with the guilt of not being able to breast feed who don't have other options.....

Also, bonding is still very much possible with a bottle fed baby. Me and my little gem do it skin-to-skin and maintain eye contact through-out :)

Charity_knox - posted on 12/25/2013

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Ok, Wow people... Calm down. I do not know Lindsey Nicole but, I imagine she is trying to offer some sort of encouragement and not trying to guilt trip anyone. I realize this may have not come off as completely encouraging but,yes, breast is best there is no doubt that is true and formula is the next best thing if you cannot or choose not to breastfeed.. I do believe many women could use more education on the art of breastfeeding as there are many factors that deter or prevent a mother from breastfeeding for a year. Many of those things can be overcome. To each there own. Still the fact is that breast is best.

Ariana - posted on 12/24/2013

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I don't think it is right for you, or anyone, to push breastfeeding on anybody. I wasn't breastfed, am I somehow lacking as a person? I also think saying formula is HORRIBLE for your children is not true and is simply going to make others feel guilty about their decision. My son was only breastfed for a month and I ended up having to supplement him because he wasn't taking enough milk. Should I feel guilty forever for not being able to breastfeed him for a whole year?

Breastfeeding is good for a child yes, but to say 'it's a huge commitment BUT it's ONLY a year' is unfair to all those mothers who simply cannot do that. I was going to school when I had my child and it was unrealistic for me to breastfeed him for that long. There are mothers who work and mothers who have complications and mothers who decide not to breastfeed.

We all need to make decisions for our children and just because you've decided that breastfeeding is the best choice for YOUR baby does not mean others need to be guilted into making your decision.

Ev - posted on 12/24/2013

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I was not being defensive Lindsey. I was stating my own experiences. And I have to say you do not know me but I am a grandmother. Be that as it is, I have to agree with Jodi. And I am not oblivious to things either. I also know that for a fact that all those things listed as organic are also not as organic as we once thought. Where things are grown, and what things are fed to the animals we consume and also down to the very eggs we have in this country are all very susceptible to the things that can cause harm to anyone anywhere. From infant to adult.

Everything we women consume goes to the baby via the umbilical cord or via the breast milk. And you do not know where all that "organic" stuff is grown or comes from. They get away with so much on labels that you have to be careful of that as well. I keep up with Dr. Oz. He is a good source of information.

Jodi - posted on 12/24/2013

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Oh, I am far from ignorant, Lindsey. I know all about women like you who try to make formula feeding mothers feel bad for feeding "poison" to their children. Everyone know breast is best (and yes, I mostly breastfed in the early months myself), but formula is not that horrible for your child. As I said, you don't have the right to state things like that and make formula feeding mothers feel bad. Great, promote breastfeeding as a wonderful thing. But don't then ADD to that promotion by trying to insinuate that formula is some form of poison and that formula feeding mothers can't bond with their children.

A formula feeding mother should not feel guilty about how she is feeding her child. It is hard enough for them when they can't breastfeed, then they get self-righteous mothers like you trying to make them feel they are poisoning their child. Just because YOU felt guilty not breastfeeding your first, doesn't mean it's ok to make other mothers feel guilty.

"I simply feel if you have the opportunity to breastfeed, than do it. If not, it's perfectly fine."

So just say that then.

BTW, arsenic can also be found in breastmilk, as are many other contaminants, and you wouldn't necessarily know it. There can be just as much arsenic in breastmilk, depending on the sources. It also crosses the placenta when you are pregnant, as do contaminants such as lead and mercury. Breastfed babies are not immune to these same contaminants. Just saying. I find it interesting that these reports from a biased source only target formula as being potentially hazardous but fail to report on the same contaminants found in breastmilk.

Lindsey - posted on 12/24/2013

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Evelyn Witt, no one is condemning anyone! You are awfully defensive. I'm just stating facts here. I'm not judging anyone. I was only sharing my experience. Why is it that that is condemning you? Never once did I say "the women who feed their babies formula are just horrible!" NEVER once! I feed my baby formula sometimes!! I simply feel if you have the opportunity to breastfeed, than do it. If not, it's perfectly fine.

Jodi - posted on 12/23/2013

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Oh, yeah, formula is virtual poison....seriously, it's the next best thing to breast milk. Stop scaring women who can't breastfeed, it isn't that bad. It certainly isn't full of "shocking" stuff.

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