Breastfeeding???

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I have noticed that alot of people are bottlefeeding their children in this world of "breast is best". I was just wondering how many people are breastfeeding and how old is your child? or if you have stopped how old was your child when you stopped?and why?

I am still breastfeeding my 5 month old by the way and plan to until at least 12 months.

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Benefits of Breastfeeding



• Children receive the most complete and optimal mix of nutrients & antibodies

• The varying composition of breastmilk keeps pace with the infant's individual growth and changing nutritional needs

• Have fewer incidences of vomiting and diarrhea in the US (20-35 million episodes of diarrhea occur in children under the age of 5, resulting in over 200,000 hospitalizations and 400-500 deaths in the U.S.)

• Protection against gastroenteritis, necrotizing entercolitis

• Reduced risk of chronic constipation, colic, and other stomach upsets

• Reduced risk of childhood diabetes

• Protection against ear infections, respiratory illnesses, pneumonia, bronchitis, kidney infections, septicemia (blood poisoning),

• Protection against allergies, asthma, eczema, and severity of allergic disease

• Reduced risk of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) Statistics reveal that for every 87 deaths from SIDS, only 3 are breastfed.

• Protection against meningitis, botulism, childhood lymphoma, crohn's disease and ulcerative entercolits

• Decreased risk of tooth decay (cavities)

• Nursing promotes facial structure development, enhanced speech, straighter teeth and enhances vision.

• Breastfed infants develop higher IQ's, and have improved brain and nervous system development; IQ advantage of 10-12 points studied at ages 8, 12, and 18. (Breastfeeding is considered the 4th trimester in brain growth and development...there are specific proteins in human milk that promote brain development))

• Reduced risk of heart disease later in life

• Increased bone density

• Breastfeeding plays an important role in the emotional and spiritual development of babies

• Breastfed babies enjoy a special warm bonding and emotional relationship with their mothers

• Antibody response to vaccines are higher

• Are hospitalized 10 times less than formula fed infants in the first year of life

• The colostrum (first milk) coats the GI tract, preventing harmful bacteria and allergy -triggering protein molecules from crossing into baby's blood

• Decreased risk for vitamin E and Iron deficiency anemia

• Decreased risk for acute appendicitis, rheumatoid arthritis, inguinal hernia, pyloric stenosis

• There are factors in human milk that destroy E coli, salmonella, shigella, streptococcus, pneumococcus....and many others

• Less risk of childhood obesity





Health Benefits to Moms Who Breastfeed

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• Reduced risk of breast, ovarian, cervical, and endometrial cancers

• Reduced risk of anemia

• Protection against osteoporosis and hip fracture later in life

• Reduced risk of mortality for women with rheumatoid arthritis (RA) has been associated with total time of lactation

• Helps the mother's body return to its pre-pregnancy state faster - promotes weight loss...1/2 of calories needed to manufacture milk is pulled from fat stores... can burn from 500 - 1,500 calories per day.

• Helps delay return of fertility and to space subsequent pregnancies

• Develops a special emotional relationship and bonding with her child

• Breastmilk is free- reducing or eliminating the cost of formula (in the thousands of dollars/per year)

• Breastfed babies are sick less thus reducing healthcare costs to family in Doctor office visits, prescriptions, over the counter medicine purchases, and hospitalizations

• Moms miss less time off from work due to child related illnesses

• Helps the uterus contract after birth to control postpartum bleeding



Formula Feeding



• 20 times more likely to develop Necrotizing Enterocolitis

• 6 times more likely to suffer from gastroenteritis

• 2-5 times more likely to develop respiratory diseases

• 3-5 times more likely to die of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)

• 6-8 times more likely to be diagnosed with lymphomas

• 2-7 times more likely to develop Type-1 diabetes

• 3 times more likely to contact ear infections

• at greater risk of breast cancer

• at greater risk of juvenile rheumatoid arthritis

• at greater risk of Hodgkin's disease

• more likely to suffer from gastro-esophageal reflux disease (GERD)

• more likely to contact urinary tract infections

• more susceptible to allergies

• more susceptible to asthma

• more likely to develop obesity

• more likely to be diagnosed with multiply sclerosis (MS)

• be tested with a lower IQ (up to 8-10 points)

• 26.5% more likely to die before his/her first birthday



Just some statistics of formula feeding vs. breastfeeding.



I fed my first son until he was 14 months and I am currently breastfeeding my 4 month old son and I have no plans on stopping until he is ready.

Rebecca - posted on 03/19/2009

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Hi Katie,



My daughter will be 2 next week and I am still breastfeeding. It's great that breastfeeding is going well for you and that you aim to breastfeed untill 12 months. I've found that hanging out with other mom's who breastfeed is really helpful esp if it seems like everyone is bottlefeeding. You might check with local Lactation Consultants or start a Meet Up group. I think some moms don't nurse because they and their babies had a hard time with it and some because they have to go back to work and pumping sucks. But even if you have to go back to work and don't want to pump, you can still nurse in the morning and evening and most mom's milk supply will adjust.

Barbara - posted on 03/18/2009

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Quoting Amanda:

Um. Wow, what a pointed post. Perhaps some mothers decided to formula feed for their own personal reasons and didn't even try to breastfeed (The shock! The horror!) It doesn't matter how a mother feeds her baby, as long as she's feeding her baby. Formula is not only "not poison" as a previous poster pointed out, but it's an excellent food for babies. Frankly, I don't think that a lack of support for breastfeeding moms is the issue so much as elitists such as yourself looking down your nose on those who decide to formula feed. I breastfed my son for one week, had supply issues, latch issues and was recovering from a c-section. I hated every second of breastfeeding and have no plans to try with any subsequent children I might have.

Yes, more education, support and awareness about breastfeeding would be beneficial to many, but the judgmental attitudes from some pro-breastfeeding advocates towards formula feeders need to stop. Now. It doesn't matter how you feed your baby, just feed your baby!


I understand your frustration, but I think you should re-read that post.  She's not attacking people who choose not to breastfeed in general, she's saying that she feels bad when people end up giving up on breastfeeding due to lack of information on the subject or simply from lack of support from other people. 



I'm sorry if any of you have felt attacked by pro breastfeeders in the past, but I don't think that attacking is the goal of this post.  The original question was about how long people here have been/ are planning on breastfeeding for.  I think we should try and stick to that subject from here on out.

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Jessi - posted on 10/17/2011

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I just stopped breastfeeding my 13 month old last week! bittersweet! I nursed my first until he was 15.5 months old, my second until she was 8 months old (milked dried up/ I was 4 months pregnant).

Angela - posted on 04/09/2009

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I breastfed my girls until 12 months of age.  I had to pump for the first month of my firstborn's life as she was a premie and in hospital for 36 days.  I am expecting arrival of #3 anytime in the next couple weeks and plan to breastfeed him until 1 yr as well.  They are all 2 years apart.

Angela - posted on 04/09/2009

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I breastfed my girls until 12 months of age.  I had to pump for the first month of my firstborn's life as she was a premie and in hospital for 36 days.  I am expecting arrival of #3 anytime in the next couple weeks and plan to breastfeed him until 1 yr as well.  They are all 2 years apart.

Lenora - posted on 04/09/2009

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I have to kids, young mother breastfed my oldest till about nine months that went well but with my second it wasn't the same just begin home alone with a 2 year old running around wasn't easy. cause he got into everything I only breastfed my youngest till 3 months. I don't find nothin wrong with formula....he actually gain'd alotta weight since then lol

Lenora - posted on 04/09/2009

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I have to kids, young mother breastfed my oldest till about nine months that went well but with my second it wasn't the same just begin home alone with a 2 year old running around wasn't easy. cause he got into everything I only breastfed my youngest till 3 months. I don't find nothin wrong with formula....he actually gain'd alotta weight since then lol

Lenora - posted on 04/09/2009

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I have to kids, young mother breastfed my oldest till about nine months that went well but with my second it wasn't the same just begin home alone with a 2 year old running around wasn't easy. cause he got into everything I only breastfed my youngest till 3 months. I don't find nothin wrong with formula....he actually gain'd alotta weight since then lol

Lenora - posted on 04/09/2009

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I have to kids, young mother breastfed my oldest till about nine months that went well but with my second it wasn't the same just begin home alone with a 2 year old running around wasn't easy. cause he got into everything I only breastfed my youngest till 3 months. I don't find nothin wrong with formula....he actually gain'd alotta weight since then lol

Audrey - posted on 03/27/2009

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I am breastfeeding my 1 month and 1 week old son, and am loving it... I plan on breastfeeding him till his teeth come in and then using pumped breastmilk after that for as long as is needed, but at minimum a year. I read the book "So that's what they are for: Breastfeeding Basics," laughed my way through it and learned so much about it that it convinced me in the benefits of it.

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Breast-feeding is not for everyone. My son cried and cried for the first 4 months despite my efforts to console him and find a reason for his discomfort.  I would have gone insane trying to nurse him in that state.  I did it for a month, mostly out of guilt.  Breast is only best if it doesn't cause more stress and frustration than it does good.  I will try again with my next, but I will do it guilt-free knowing that only a mother knows what is BEST for HER child.

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2009

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I breast fed my son until he was 2 1/2 months old.  I had support from my mom and others.   My son was born 4 days early by his choice so my milk supply was slow comming in and arrived 5 days after he was born.  I saw  a lataction specialist and everything.  Had to start supplementing because  my son was slow at gaing his weight.  He was 7 lb 13 oz at birth and when brought home was 7 lbs 3 oz which they say is normal for them to lose after birth.  saw the lataction specialist three days after he was born and everything was going fine til I got sick for a week what ever i was taking in was not staying in.  At his two week check up he as only 7 lbs 5 oz.  I had to start suppplementing one bottle of formula a day then went to 2 a day.  I could go without feeding him while at work and he in daycare and would not even leak or feel heavy.  I would pump and only get like about 8 oz for the day from missing three feedings.  Only would get 2 oz from each side at every pump otherwise.  So some mothers are unable to breast feed due to not producing enough milk.  It is OUR CHOICE and should not be frowned on upon if we choice not to breast feed.  My son started to gain his weight back with the supplements then when I went strickly to formula I noticed a big difference in him.  He is now drinking 8 oz a day and is getting solid so DO NOT CONDEM MOTHERS WHO CHOICE NOT TO BREAST FEED OR ONES THAT STOP REMEMBER IT IS A WOMEN'S CHOICE NOT SOCIETIES.  Sorry to offend but that is my opinion.



 

Trina - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Dani:



I was not lucky enogh to be able to breastfeed my daughter.  After almost two weeks of lactation appointments and unsuccessful latch, I made the commitment to pump and feed to our daughter.  She is now 6 months old and I have been exclusively pumping.  I plan to pump until she is 8 months old and have about two months of BM stored in the freezer.  I feel for those of you, like me, who were not able to breastfeed their child....you feel like you've done something wrong, but I feel better that she is getting the breast milk, I just have to do double duty.....during the first few months, daddy was a great help by feeding her while I pumped.  It's a lot of work, so if you are thinking about this it just takes a lot of extra time and less sleep!  Good luck!






You are amazing!  I hate the pump and if my baby couldn't latch I am afraid I would give up.  I really admire moms who have that kind of dedication!



 



I had never really had any problems that were not easily fixed until my newest baby.  My supply was so low that she wasn't gaining.  I tried once to supplement with formula.  We tried it in a bottle, then with a syringe and she would have none of it!  She screamed so much she threw up.  So formula was not an option for supplementing.  So I looked online for ways to increase my supply.  I still have to take lots of supplements (fenugreek, fennel, barley grass, etc.) and make sure that I am eating enough lactogenic foods (nuts, dark greens, etc) or my supply drops.  She is nine months and I hope to breastfeed for at least two years.

Nebt - posted on 03/26/2009

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Quoting Kirstie:



This reply is for all those who cannot breast feed for what ever reasons!






There is nothing wrong in my eyes for feeding a baby formula as long as the baby is fit and healthy thats all that counts, i have to say though that with all the medical science around that you would think they could come up with something for people who cannot produce enough milk i.e like a tablet to bring it on.






I was like that with my first daughters shes now 15 and the way you feel inside cannot relate to anything else, but i realised i wasnt a failure and got on with it the best i could.






When i had my 2nd child i was over the moon that i had milk so done it both ways






Me also my son will be turning 15 and he was a bottle fed as i was not educated to the benefits of breast feeding i was 17 and the thought was like yeah right So i too have done both. My son is awesome and i dont knock anyone for there choice of feeding there kid as long as the y love them!

A - posted on 03/26/2009

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I'm still nursing my 7 month old.  He had jaundice and a not-so-great latch after he was born which made things difficult, but I knew that I could continue if I didn't give up.  He's taken a while catching on to solids and I don't have the energy to try it every day (he's a higher-need baby and most days you just have to take the road of least resistance to survive!), but he's still gaining well and I plan on nursing him until he's ready to quit or around 2ish (my husband's wishes).  We'll see how it goes!

Kirstie - posted on 03/26/2009

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This reply is for all those who cannot breast feed for what ever reasons!



There is nothing wrong in my eyes for feeding a baby formula as long as the baby is fit and healthy thats all that counts, i have to say though that with all the medical science around that you would think they could come up with something for people who cannot produce enough milk i.e like a tablet to bring it on.



I was like that with my first daughters shes now 15 and the way you feel inside cannot relate to anything else, but i realised i wasnt a failure and got on with it the best i could.



When i had my 2nd child i was over the moon that i had milk so done it both ways

Kirstie - posted on 03/26/2009

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hi katie i breast fed my son from birth to 1 year and i have a 2 year old and did the same with her, she then went straight onto cows milk, i think everyone should breast feed i call it the lazy mons feeding lol well its true you just stick it in, no making bottles up or washing and sterilizing BREAST IS BEST!!!

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I could not breastfeed, had no milk. I was made to feel so bad in the hospital. I did buy a pump and try for about 6 weeks, but nothing. So my 4 month old is formula fed, weighs almost 8kgs, and is healthy as..

Tara - posted on 03/25/2009

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I had no choice but to bottle feed as my son would not take to the breast, it was so stressful as i had so many people telling me it was better for him but i couldnt force him on it, he was on breast milk for 5 solid weeks of me expressing and thats as much as i could do as he took to the bottle with no problems and i didnt feel guilty about it, aslong as he was eating.



Hopefully with my next baby i can atleast experience it even if i dont do it for long :)

Patty - posted on 03/25/2009

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We are exclusively breastfeeding and plan to for at least one year.  It is amazing to me that folks would want to pay so much for formula when breastfeeding is free and better for your baby.

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I like this discussion. Thanks for bringing it up. I am still breastfeeding my daughter, who is almost seven months old. I work Mon-Fri and pump 2 times a day now and still am overproducing what she actually drinks, especially now that she eats some food. I have kept my expectations low for myself - at first I said 3 months, and then six months, and now 9 months (well, actually 10 since we have to fly with her at 10 months and I want to nurse on the plane). We'll see how I feel then. I enjoy it, although the pumping is tiring. I would love to go all the way to 12 months or longer. I was thinking that you might see people giving bottles, but it might be breastmilk. I often bring a bottle of pumped milk with me when we go out in public, since I've never figured out how to breastfeed discreetly in public. She's so loud - she smacks her lips and makes coo-ing (ooohhh...ahhhh) sounds. It's hilarious!

Sarah - posted on 03/25/2009

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WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so excited that other mothers have chosen to breastfeed their children. I breastfed exclusively through mastitis, rips tears you name it, for seven and half months. My milk supply diminished over the holidays and extra pumping, eating and sleep did not help so when he began to lose weight I reluctanly had to switch to formula. I cried my eyes out on Christmas day in front of my entire family!

Holly - posted on 03/25/2009

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My baby is almost ten months old, and since she was about 10 days old she has been bottlefed breast milk.  Nursing just didn't work out for me, but I wanted to give her the benefit of breast milk.  I pump everything and have never had a problem with supply.  

Amy - posted on 03/25/2009

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My son will be 2 next month and he still nurses. I pumped at work until he was 16 months old and then switched him over to "stage 2" formula for the babysitter's because there is more nutrition in the formula than in straight milk. I was afraid of drying up if I stopped pumping, but he is still able to nurse every morning before I go to work and every evening before bed. I have no immediate plans to wean him, I would rather he wean himself (which may be soon--he is slowing down). The reason I have not stopped is because at 6 months he had a bad reaction to his shots and ever since, I have not allowed them to give him any more. He needs all the protection/natural immunity I can give him.

Hannah - posted on 03/25/2009

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Breast is best! I have exclusively breast fed my 8 month old daughter. She is eating solids as well now and loves them. I love nursing my baby, and I feel confident that it was the right thing to do for her.

Naty - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hi dear, I am a nurse and i advocate breast feeding for your little one. Not just because i was taught that but it worked for my daughter. I invested in a good breast pump. And expressed my milk and stored it in the fridge when i started work. I was so upset that at months when i started the formula that she started getting the flu and rash because of reacting to the milk. My daughter was nice and plump on breast milk only. No water, nothing else. Until the horrible formula... continued until she was two and a half. Worth every drop...

User - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Erinna:




My son is 14 weeks and I'm breastfeeding him. I had a lot of trouble at the beginning. If my friend hadn't assured me that it would get easier with time I would have quit very early on. I was and am dedicated to breastfeeding. But with the agony at the start, the only thing keeping me going was support from my mum and the knowledge that it would get better. And slowly it did, by about 6weeks it was pain free and starting to be enjoyable. I respect every mothers right to choose how to raise their baby. I just wonder if any of the women who quit because it was particularly hard or painful, would have continued if they had known it would get better. The benefits of breastfeeding have been well documented, and something with over 200 ingredients can not be compared with something with only a few. Women should not be made to feel guilty about their choice, but they should be well informed of the pros and cons and well supported. I'm soo glad that I persisted with it, knowing I have given my son the best start I could. All that you can do is your best, and I know a lot of women are in a harder position than I am, they should be congratulated for doing what they can. 










There's no doubt that bm is good, but PLEASE do not act like it is far superior to formula - it isn't.  Are you implying that women who don't bf are not giving their child the best start they can?  And gaping open wounds that bleed constantly and never get a chance to heal is really not simply dealing with pain that would get better.  It never would've had the chance to get better.  And my daughter had blood trickling down her little cheeks while she nursed.  So, please, spare me.  I beleive that you should probably do a bit more research yourself on formula.





Despite people's desires to be politically correct and not make any mom feel guilty for not breastfeeding, the truth is that breast milk is far superior to formula, which is why even formula makers claim that breast milk is best and why they are forever trying to mimic the ingredients in breast milk.  I am saddened when I see posts that describe women hearing of no benefits to breastfeeding after 12 months, which is also blatantly untrue.  Breast milk contains live antibodies that continue to boost a child's immune system for as long as he/she nurses.  There is no reason breast milk would lose its health benefits at 12 months; I am genuinely perplexed at how this rumor is perpetuated.



Having said all that, I breastfed my daughter until just before her 3rd birthday and my son is still nursing at 2 1/2.  I feel for all of the women who have difficulty getting started and give up early on because I was almost one of those women.  I had cracked, bleeding nipples (one looked like a flip-top cap on a tube of toothpaste), but with some help from a lactation consultant, a lot of reading, and the desire to push on despite the pain and frustration, I made it through that rough introductory period.  It is so much different after those early months.  I always say that breastfeeding went from being the hardest part of my day to the easiest. 



But I want to be clear:  choosing to go with formula over breast milk does not mean you don't love your child, but it is absolutely not as nutritionally beneficial as breast milk and will always lack things that man cannot make in a lab.  As long as formula is dairy (cow)-based, there will also always be a component of formula that the human stomach was not meant to digest.

Trina - posted on 03/25/2009

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I have breastfed 6 babies.  The shortest time was 12 mos.  The longest 29 mos.  And I am currently nursing my nearly 9 mo old girl.  I stopped with most of them because I was ready to have another baby.  Only once have I gotten pg while breastfeeding and that was with my last.  And that time I quit because my milk dried up.

Trina - posted on 03/25/2009

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I have breastfed 6 babies.  The shortest time was 12 mos.  The longest 29 mos.  And I am currently nursing my nearly 9 mo old girl.  I stopped with most of them because I was ready to have another baby.  Only once have I gotten pg while breastfeeding and that was with my last.  And that time I quit because my milk dried up.

Angel - posted on 03/25/2009

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My daughter is 17 months and I am still breastfeeding. I had planned to introduce cow's milk to her at 12 months and switch her from breastfeeding to cow's milk, but she had other ideas. She refuses to drink any other kind of milk still, so I am still breastfeeding. I plan to start weaning soon as I am unable to take medications I need while I am breastfeeding.

Nebt - posted on 03/25/2009

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i dont judge bottle fed babies becasue once i got to work i had to supplement with prosobee as i was unable to pump enough and found some daycares wouldnt even give her the expressed milk. You do what you got to ya know. I had a hard time getting the brest feeding thing down i went thru a lot of pain and trial and error in the begining....a nurse gave me a nipple shield and then the journey began.....breast feeding isnt easy at all i am glad i was able to do what i could

Nebt - posted on 03/25/2009

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I am still breast feeding my 17 month old ( at night mainly) hopefully by 2 she will be weaned

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I breastfed for 5 months, and stopped only because he started to push away. If he would have kept at it I would have continued for a year. Our beginnings were highly stressful and I think my body started to shut down so I had to start intro the bottle.

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Quoting Sarah:
i totally agree, i had such a horrible experience with BF, the pain was unbearable i had bleeding and infected nipples, the doc said it's still ok and continue BF..i gave up mainly because it grossed me out feeding me son from bleeding nipples, and secondly the pain was torture. He was also tongue tied so this latching on bizness was never gona work for him.  However the mum feels is right then do it, there is no rights or wrongs, u can only do ur best and try. If u cant continue this does not make u a failure nor does it mean u havnt given ur child the best start in life. My son is turning 1 soon, he teethed at 6months, spoke at 7 - 8months, and walked at 10months and very healthy and active. So im sick of hearing BF babies are more intelligent and active etc..I did whats best 4 him and wats best 4 me without being selfish.



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My son is 14 weeks and I'm breastfeeding him. I had a lot of trouble at the beginning. If my friend hadn't assured me that it would get easier with time I would have quit very early on. I was and am dedicated to breastfeeding. But with the agony at the start, the only thing keeping me going was support from my mum and the knowledge that it would get better. And slowly it did, by about 6weeks it was pain free and starting to be enjoyable. I respect every mothers right to choose how to raise their baby. I just wonder if any of the women who quit because it was particularly hard or painful, would have continued if they had known it would get better. The benefits of breastfeeding have been well documented, and something with over 200 ingredients can not be compared with something with only a few. Women should not be made to feel guilty about their choice, but they should be well informed of the pros and cons and well supported. I'm soo glad that I persisted with it, knowing I have given my son the best start I could. All that you can do is your best, and I know a lot of women are in a harder position than I am, they should be congratulated for doing what they can. 













There's no doubt that bm is good, but PLEASE do not act like it is far superior to formula - it isn't.  Are you implying that women who don't bf are not giving their child the best start they can?  And gaping open wounds that bleed constantly and never get a chance to heal is really not simply dealing with pain that would get better.  It never would've had the chance to get better.  And my daughter had blood trickling down her little cheeks while she nursed.  So, please, spare me.  I beleive that you should probably do a bit more research yourself on formula.









 





 

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I am currently nursing my four month old and plan to until she is one.  My first I breastfed until 10 months and that was because I got pregnant and couldn't keep up my milk supply.  My middle I nursed until he was 14 months. I started to wean him at 12 months, but he still wanted to nurse at night until about 14 months.  Keep it up! It is also the easiest way to go especially if you plan to travel with your little one. You have all the supply they need! 

User - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Erinna:




My son is 14 weeks and I'm breastfeeding him. I had a lot of trouble at the beginning. If my friend hadn't assured me that it would get easier with time I would have quit very early on. I was and am dedicated to breastfeeding. But with the agony at the start, the only thing keeping me going was support from my mum and the knowledge that it would get better. And slowly it did, by about 6weeks it was pain free and starting to be enjoyable. I respect every mothers right to choose how to raise their baby. I just wonder if any of the women who quit because it was particularly hard or painful, would have continued if they had known it would get better. The benefits of breastfeeding have been well documented, and something with over 200 ingredients can not be compared with something with only a few. Women should not be made to feel guilty about their choice, but they should be well informed of the pros and cons and well supported. I'm soo glad that I persisted with it, knowing I have given my son the best start I could. All that you can do is your best, and I know a lot of women are in a harder position than I am, they should be congratulated for doing what they can. 










There's no doubt that bm is good, but PLEASE do not act like it is far superior to formula - it isn't.  Are you implying that women who don't bf are not giving their child the best start they can?  And gaping open wounds that bleed constantly and never get a chance to heal is really not simply dealing with pain that would get better.  It never would've had the chance to get better.  And my daughter had blood trickling down her little cheeks while she nursed.  So, please, spare me.  I beleive that you should probably do a bit more research yourself on formula.





 

Erinna - posted on 03/25/2009

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Quoting Sarah:



Quoting Erinna:




My son is 14 weeks and I'm breastfeeding him. I had a lot of trouble at the beginning. If my friend hadn't assured me that it would get easier with time I would have quit very early on. I was and am dedicated to breastfeeding. But with the agony at the start, the only thing keeping me going was support from my mum and the knowledge that it would get better. And slowly it did, by about 6weeks it was pain free and starting to be enjoyable. I respect every mothers right to choose how to raise their baby. I just wonder if any of the women who quit because it was particularly hard or painful, would have continued if they had known it would get better. The benefits of breastfeeding have been well documented, and something with over 200 ingredients can not be compared with something with only a few. Women should not be made to feel guilty about their choice, but they should be well informed of the pros and cons and well supported. I'm soo glad that I persisted with it, knowing I have given my son the best start I could. All that you can do is your best, and I know a lot of women are in a harder position than I am, they should be congratulated for doing what they can. 










There's no doubt that bm is good, but PLEASE do not act like it is far superior to formula - it isn't.  Are you implying that women who don't bf are not giving their child the best start they can?  And gaping open wounds that bleed constantly and never get a chance to heal is really not simply dealing with pain that would get better.  It never would've had the chance to get better.  And my daughter had blood trickling down her little cheeks while she nursed.  So, please, spare me.  I beleive that you should probably do a bit more research yourself on formula.





Formula IS a good alternative to bm for those mothers (such as yourself) who can't bf. And we are lucky we now have it available if we need it. My post was not directed at you, but more at a few of my friends who CHOSE not to bf because it was inconvenient or didn't have the support to continue with it. I gave my son the best start  I  could, most others do the best THEY can, and like I said before they should be congratulated. There are other areas in child rearing where I have deviated from the accepted norm, but I know I have done my best in the situation I'm in. And all you can do is YOUR best.

Suzanne - posted on 03/25/2009

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Hi Katie.  My youngest is now 9 but i breastfed him perhaps longer than i should as he was 3 when we stopped.  But the bond i have with him is wonderful.  My girls i only fed for around 6 months.  I do believe that breastfeeding helps prevent infections as my son didnt suffer from the usual stomach upsets or colds or anything whilst he was breastfeeding. He is growing up to be fit and healthy.  Hope this helps.

L - posted on 03/24/2009

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I breast fed both of mine for a year each. It mainly became a morning and night thing toward the end. I totally loved it!!!

Kim - posted on 03/24/2009

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I breastfed all 3 of my children and highly recommend it.  :)  My oldest will be 17 next month - I nursed him til about 9 mths I think it was - and even then it was mainly in th morning before work and evenings/night after work; my daughter (just turned 3) was til about a yr - but she was also bottle fed some (expressed and formula) and my youngest son (2 in May) was about a  year also, and he too was bottle fed some as well.....he was just a big baby (11lbs)!  My personal feelings -  I don't think I could go much over a yr....it just seems weird to me to still be nursing/breastfeeding them at age 3/4 or more....I couldn't imagine still nursing my daughter right now.   

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In defense of some Mommies who are bottle feeding....Do not be to quick to judge those Mommies, I tried with all my heart to breast feed my now 5 month old baby and would have preferred to, but unfortunately I would not produce. I tried everything under the sun, I had a lactation nurse coming to my house, you name it I tried it. After my baby lost more than 14% of her body weight it was time to give up for her safety. I am just saying don't be so judgemental of those Mommies, especially if you don't know the circumstances.....

Tracy - posted on 03/24/2009

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I have four kids and loved nursing. My last I fed until she was 18mo. old. Happy and glad I did. I miss it a little. If it's working for you two then keep on feeding until your ready to stop.

Bonnie - posted on 03/24/2009

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I pumped exclusively for the first year, my baby is 15 months now. She gained weight and never had spit up problems. Pumping exclusively allowed me to have a surplus in milk. I donated 5673 ounces of milk to Mother's Milk Bank in North Carolina, the nearest bank. Thats on top of the 20-25 ounces a day that my baby was getting. I thank the good Lord above that He gave me the desire to see her through her first year by providing her with breastmilk only, no formula, and He also blessed me beyond measure for other babies benefits. You need to donate if you can, there is a huge need for breastmilk for premature and critically ill babies.

Gwen - posted on 03/24/2009

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A year is awesome! I stopped at 6 months due to job stress and crap that I let get to me. Enjoy this time as much as possible, it goes SO fast!

Best wishes!

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I breast fed all 4 of my kids. The oldest is 11 and the youngest is nearly 2. I fed 3 of them for over 12 months. I have a lot of friends who did the same. Don't be put off by all the bottle feeders. You're doing the right thing if you're comfortable with it.

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Quoting Barb:



About the bottlefeeding - are you talking about breastmilk or formula? You can still obviously bottlefeed with breastmilk not just formula, and I do know some who breastfeed just by pumping because they have to work. But, yes, breast is best not just because of the milk, it is just the perfect delivery system as well, they get what they want and no overfeeding like can happen with bottlefeeding.




As I said previously (this is rather big now, was probably hard to spot), when I say bottlefeed I mean formula.



I too have expressed and my husband or mum has feed my girl. Not as often as I first thought would happen though. 

Angela - posted on 03/24/2009

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I breast feed for 15 months.... I fully breast feed til he was 12 months then I only breastfeed mornings n nights and he got a sippy cup with regular milk during the day.... Then at 14 monthes I cut out morning feedings and then I cut out nite feedings at 15 monthes....he is a very healthy kid now.... He hardly ever gets sick... And he is now 5..... I never gave him a bottle and he never wanted one.....i think you are doing an awesome job... it is so healthy for babys... i'm so glad i breastfeed and if i do have another baby i will do it the same way...Hope i helped....

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Quoting Morag:

For babies in the Western world, formula is just as safe as breastmilk and as mothers we should be ever so grateful that we have the choice. But in 3rd world countries where clean water is difficult to come by, sanitation is poor, 1 tin of formula costs a months wages, formula feeding is absolutely deadly, it kills. Formula was never intended to be used above breastfeeding. Mr. Nestle never wanted that, it was intended to help babies who would otherwise die (orphans, foundlings etc) being fed on pure cows milk.

I decided to breastfeed both my girls. One until 9 months, where she was rushed into hospital with meningitis and rota virus and the other is still breastfeeding at a year. Both times, I have had bleeding nipples, mastitis, people telling me I'm psychologically and physically harming my children. When I had my youngest, because she was rushed into SCBU they physically stopped me feeding her, tried to get me to take tablets to dry up my milk. Apparently for sick babies in Spain formula is better. I don't think I've come across anyone else who was physically prevented from breastfeeding, continue to breastfeed. You can't get any bigger barrier to breastfeeding than that, other than not having breasts that work. You have to be pretty determined to get past that, relactate and continue for a year afterwards.

Breastfeeding is not the best for your child, its just normal as nature (or God) intended. Its a cunning marketing ploy, if you label one product as best then your product becomes normal in comparison, but formula isn't normal, its not the way babies were intended to be fed and this is proven by the fact that babies guts can't digest completely the formula. Best would be a product better than breastmilk but they haven't invented that yet. Formula companies know that formula isn't harmful in western countries, and they quite happily use the money from us to promote their products in less developed countries, who see us feeding formula as the norm and believe that they too can be like us. If anything breastfeeding should be encouraged as the norm, so that formula is relegated back to being only needed in extreme circumstances and babies the world over are better for it.

I think the breast is best campaign should be scrapped, it does nothing but make mothers who give up for whatever reason feel like crap and that money put into lactation consultants in every hospital and formula be made only available on prescription. Breastfeeding didn't do the human race any harm for 1000s of years, why has that now changed?


Formula being made available only on prescription is an interesting idea. I was always a believer that breastmilk is best for babies in most situations, however reading some of the stories about people feeding and having blood running down their babies face I think there are definitley some situations where breast might not be best. After talking to friends and family, I have discovered that I am surrounded by many people who were breastfed and many who were formula fed and I can't tell the difference.



 Breastfeeding was definitely hard to start with. For the first few weeks there were many tears and a case of mastitis. I ended up expressing and bottle feeding with breast milk until by nipples healed (mostly grazing, bruising and a few blood blisters) and then going back to breast. I'm really glad I stuck with it as I am enjoying it now and nothing seems to make my baby happier than a bit of boob ;). I still express some mornings and keep a supply of milk frozen. This enables me to go out on my own while bubby has some Nanna time.



Anyway...I've been a bit off topic. My little girl is 3 months old - I am planning on breastfeeding exclusively for 6 months and then I'm just going to see what happens after than.



 

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Quoting Morag:

For babies in the Western world, formula is just as safe as breastmilk and as mothers we should be ever so grateful that we have the choice. But in 3rd world countries where clean water is difficult to come by, sanitation is poor, 1 tin of formula costs a months wages, formula feeding is absolutely deadly, it kills. Formula was never intended to be used above breastfeeding. Mr. Nestle never wanted that, it was intended to help babies who would otherwise die (orphans, foundlings etc) being fed on pure cows milk.

I decided to breastfeed both my girls. One until 9 months, where she was rushed into hospital with meningitis and rota virus and the other is still breastfeeding at a year. Both times, I have had bleeding nipples, mastitis, people telling me I'm psychologically and physically harming my children. When I had my youngest, because she was rushed into SCBU they physically stopped me feeding her, tried to get me to take tablets to dry up my milk. Apparently for sick babies in Spain formula is better. I don't think I've come across anyone else who was physically prevented from breastfeeding, continue to breastfeed. You can't get any bigger barrier to breastfeeding than that, other than not having breasts that work. You have to be pretty determined to get past that, relactate and continue for a year afterwards.

Breastfeeding is not the best for your child, its just normal as nature (or God) intended. Its a cunning marketing ploy, if you label one product as best then your product becomes normal in comparison, but formula isn't normal, its not the way babies were intended to be fed and this is proven by the fact that babies guts can't digest completely the formula. Best would be a product better than breastmilk but they haven't invented that yet. Formula companies know that formula isn't harmful in western countries, and they quite happily use the money from us to promote their products in less developed countries, who see us feeding formula as the norm and believe that they too can be like us. If anything breastfeeding should be encouraged as the norm, so that formula is relegated back to being only needed in extreme circumstances and babies the world over are better for it.

I think the breast is best campaign should be scrapped, it does nothing but make mothers who give up for whatever reason feel like crap and that money put into lactation consultants in every hospital and formula be made only available on prescription. Breastfeeding didn't do the human race any harm for 1000s of years, why has that now changed?


Formula being made available only on prescription is an interesting idea. I was always a believer that breastmilk is best for babies in most situations, however reading some of the stories about people feeding and having blood running down their babies face I think there are definitley some situations where breast might not be best. After talking to friends and family, I have discovered that I am surrounded by many people who were breastfed and many who were formula fed and I can't tell the difference.



 Breastfeeding was definitely hard to start with. For the first few weeks there were many tears and a case of mastitis. I ended up expressing and bottle feeding with breast milk until by nipples healed (mostly grazing, bruising and a few blood blisters) and then going back to breast. I'm really glad I stuck with it as I am enjoying it now and nothing seems to make my baby happier than a bit of boob ;). I still express some mornings and keep a supply of milk frozen. This enables me to go out on my own while bubby has some Nanna time.



Anyway...I've been a bit off topic. My little girl is 3 months old - I am planning on breastfeeding exclusively for 6 months and then I'm just going to see what happens after than.



 

User - posted on 03/24/2009

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I breastfed my daughter for 11 months exclusively... and now still nurse her - she's 15 1/2 months... along with her soy/rice/almond/coconutmilk supplements. I only nurse her 1-2 times a day... but we both enjoy it... and we're not ready to stop... yet.

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My son is now 3. I breastfed him. He was 16 1/2mths when he stopped nursing. I started to ween him at 10mths wanting to be done by 1yr. I was happy he continued longer, it was the best thing I ever did for my son.

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