Breastfeeding Complications

Kelly - posted on 06/29/2009 ( 165 moms have responded )

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Ok so I had my daughter almost three weeks ago now and i have been breastfeeding. My daughter is a very lazy eater and it makes it really hard and frustrating. She falls asleep everytime i feed her or she will just feed on one of my breast and doesnt want to wake up for the other one until about a half hour later. So needless to say there is no sleep happening. I have already went through two breast infections and am about to give up. But i dont want to cause i know that this is so good for her. On top of that she is going through her 3 week growth spurt so she wants to eat every hour. She was draining me completely to where when she wanted to eat again an hour later i was still empty and she wouldnt get anything which is really frustrating. I am on the verge of quiting but really dont want to. Any suggestions or anyone who went through this same problem?

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Guggie - posted on 06/29/2009

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Quoting Rhionna:

Keep it going hun, you're doin a great job! It does get easier I know how hard it is when you have an infection and are in pain, I have thrush in one breast at the moment so I'm sort of going throyugh the same thing. My little girl is 8 weeks old now and is doing really well, but I felt like giving up when she was having a growth spurt. Just make sure that she is feeding properly and not using you to suckle on for comfort, you should be able to see her swallow as she feeds. Most babies fall asleep whilst feeding, try stripping her down to just her nappy so she can also have some skin to skin contact, also being cooler tends to keep them awake to feed.
Make sure that you are well rested, I know it's hard and make sure you're well hydrated and eating plenty, BF uses a lot of energy so have that bar of chocolate and know that it's for your daughters good lol.
All my babies only took from one breast per feed, I'd put them on the other side so that I wouldn't get too engoraged but then wouldn't worry about it until the next feed and start them on that side.
Don't be discouraged or put yourself down if you do use formula just do what is right for you and your family, and don't think that if you do give a formula feed that you won't be able to BF, I gave mine a bottle when my infection was really bad, it just gave me chance to recover a little!
Good luck, hope it gets better for you soon! x



That is a good thing to point out. I think doctors and nurses and even websites have very outdated advice telling mothers to switch sides and time nursings. Until your supply is well-established, switching sides and scheduling can cause annoying problems and even dangerous problems.



 



For example, in the OP's case, a lazy nursing baby typically is not suckling to the point of getting a lot of hindmilk. Switching sides will simply fill the baby up on the watery foremilk. This can cause weight loss, indigestion and deprivation of important calories! Block feeding is very important for lazy nursers. (and block feeding can help mastitis, especially if you pump the other side).

Rene - posted on 07/03/2009

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My first child was like this. She was a lazy eater, and I was getting really frustrated with the whole situation. I ended up stopping nursing her at about 2-3 weeks. She is now almost 4 years old, and she is SO smart. She can spell her name, knows her alphabet, and numbers. Needless to say, not nursing is not going to be the end of the world. I did nurse my second child for about 6 months, he is no 2 1/2 and he is extrememly smart as well. Nursing is a personal choice, when I decided to stop with my daughter, my doctor said that when one of you is done, it is time to stop. If you are getting frustrated, then you need to make that choice. Your daughter is not going to suffer if you choose to quit, mine didn't. Best of luck to you!!!!!!

Elizabeth - posted on 07/02/2009

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kelly,
my son developed a milk protein allergy at 3 weeks, before it was diagnosed as that he was taken off bmilk for close to 2 weeks. he never would go back to the breast but i was pumping after every feeding hoping to up my production....it never got better. he is now 18 weeks and i just stopped pumping last week...he was only getting one bottle of bmilk a day. you have to be able to have a life that is not surrounded by feeding and then pumping. it is ok not to breastfeed...but you have to get to a point where you are ok with it yourself. i still feel bad that i cannot give him breastmilk but i know that i tried and thats all that really matters. anyway good luck with whatever u decide!

Pamela - posted on 06/29/2009

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My baby did the same thing, what I did was not feed her every half hour, make sure she was really hungry before I fed her --NO I did not starve her or hold out-- but I gave her a chance to get hungry, then she started feeding on both sides. You have to encourage her to stay awake. Also, I suggest pumping to help increase your supply, she may be falling asleep because she's not getting anything, and if you are getting drained, you may need to increase your supply.

Good Luck!

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Bilhah - posted on 12/29/2015

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Exact happened with my daughter I gave her babies magic tea now she is healthy and eat well;)

Tammy - posted on 07/06/2009

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Hey I thought I was the ONLY person to have gone through this!!!



my son is now 8.5 months. It took me the first 6 weeks to really feel like i knew what i was doing..i wanted to quit so many times too!



My little guy only ever fed on one side, regardless of all of the advice i recieved from lactation specialist and doctors, i stopped listening to everyone else at about 3-4 weeks in and JUST LISTENED TO MY BABY



Feed on demand, especially in growth spurts, and for goodness sake just lay down and sleep when the baby does.



I found co-sleeping helped, and allowed me to get some rest during growth spurts



I was always full and had over active let down, what a mess! But i wouldnt change a thing! I gave my baby the best start possible!



At about 3 moths we finally got onto an every 3 hour feeding and sleeping through most of the night..I weaned at 6-7 months



P.S he is on solids and is still a lazy eater!



Hang in there, don't give up you are giving him the best possible gift

Elizabeth - posted on 07/06/2009

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I went through almost exactly the same thing but without the infections. I feel your pain.

When it got to the point that I would cry at the thought of yet another feeding we started supplementing her with formula. She would get full enough to sleep for a heavenly 3 hours so I could get some rest too. Once we got through that hardest of times she has eased up and doesn't need the formula any more. Like others have mentioned (and I know it's hard to believe right now) IT DOES GET EASIER!! :) Also I have to agree with others too -if it doesn't work for you don't let people make you feel bad or judge you, it's not your fault and your child will be fine. You tried your hardest and that's all that should matter. Best of luck to you!

Angela - posted on 07/06/2009

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I hope you stuck with it. It does get easier. My dd struggled at first too and so we ended up stripping her down to her diaper to keep her awake. Plus, a pacifer worked for soothing her. We did the Baby Whisper method that worked really well - EASY - Eat, Activity, Sleep and You. Since your daughter is so young the activity will be short but as time goes on, she will be busier. Best of luck to you.

Deanna - posted on 07/06/2009

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I had the same problem with my first child. As you have more kids you will see the supply of milk will come. But for now i suggest either the washcloths suggestion you had or what i use to do is get the baby undressed. or even just keep her alert by talking to her or tickling her feet don't keep her comfrotable because she is sure to fall asleep. i use to for my last one let him feed on one side then later if he feel asleep (even after trying to keep him up) i would change him diaper then with the wet wipes he would wake up. then i would feed the other side. but once she is awake for second breast try to play with her a bit before feeding so you know that she is fully awake and ready to feed. Hope this is helpful.. and to let you know with my first child i had lots of infections also try to wash your nipples after every feeding it can help and also there is a cream you can buy that helps moiturise the nipple so they don't chap and it makes breast feeding so much better. I stopped breasfeeding my children early not past 3 months because i had problems with all my breasfed children but today they are healthy and full of energy, very intelligant and i think that they had just as much in my milk than the prepared milk and once i change they would sleep better because daddy could feed. try pumping your milk and the supply will come faster and let daddy feed every second feeding and she will get more out of daddy because it is less comfy on daddy. Hope this helps thnks for listenning.

Amanda - posted on 07/06/2009

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have you tried expressing to help with your breast tenderness. Also could give you a break for someone to bottle feed bubs expressed milk. Are you keeping up fluids? If you could hang in there, once she starts it will be rewarding, but I had problems early on and came really close to giving up, so understand your exhaustion and frustration.

Brandie - posted on 07/06/2009

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Hi there, I really do feel for you. I have four children and I was very lucky enough to breastfeed all of them, with the longest at 14 months and the shortest at 10 months. But not without may problems. (My mother told me that she never saw anyone who put up with so much for the sake of breastfeeding!) I remember with my third child that I had a similar problem that you are having now. I also had mastitis, thrush and cracked and bleeding nipples all at the same time1 It isn't something that I will ever forget! (mind you I had those problems with all my babies, but not at the ame time as I did with Amber) You mentioned that your daughter is feeding hourly due to a growth spurt that she is going through. I wans wondering how long has this been going for, as if you daughter is feeding more oftern than what your body is used to, your body is suppoed to respond to this by producing milk more oftern and vice versa if things slow down. I know that this is very difficult for you, like I said I have gone through the same thing myself. And my maternal nurse advised me that, even though my daughter was feeding so ofetern, but try to express into a bottle, even if its only the smallest amount, to help encourage your body to produce more milk. If your daughter still has a tendancy to fall asleep during feeds, what I used to do was lay my daughter down and fiddle around with her nappy as if I'm changing her, or her clothes, or unwrap her and wrap her again, just some kind of fiddling with her to stir her up out of the drousy state that she was in. If your daughters demand feeding for every hour is only a recent thing, like in the last few days, your body need to get used to her needing more milk and your body will respond to this. But don't dispair if this doesn't work out for you, you have given your baby girl the best start she could possibly need to grow strong and healthy. Its not a failure if you find that your body isn't able to provide for you daughters hunger. The bod you have while you are breasteding your daughter is just as strong as it is if you bottle feed her. Our closeness, your scent, touch and voice doesn't change, and your baby girl will still have that closeness with you. I truely wish you the best of luck with your little blessing. I hope that I was able to give you some helpful tips. And goodluck! Becomming a mother is the best thing I have ever done, and i am hoping to have one more to my happy foursome! I'm just so greedy for the happiess they give me!

Brandie - posted on 07/06/2009

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Hi there, I really do feel for you. I have four children and I was very lucky enough to breastfeed all of them, with the longest at 14 months and the shortest at 10 months. But not without may problems. (My mother told me that she never saw anyone who put up with so much for the sake of breastfeeding!) I remember with my third child that I had a similar problem that you are having now. I also had mastitis, thrush and cracked and bleeding nipples all at the same time1 It isn't something that I will ever forget! (mind you I had those problems with all my babies, but not at the ame time as I did with Amber) You mentioned that your daughter is feeding hourly due to a growth spurt that she is going through. I wans wondering how long has this been going for, as if you daughter is feeding more oftern than what your body is used to, your body is suppoed to respond to this by producing milk more oftern and vice versa if things slow down. I know that this is very difficult for you, like I said I have gone through the same thing myself. And my maternal nurse advised me that, even though my daughter was feeding so ofetern, but try to express into a bottle, even if its only the smallest amount, to help encourage your body to produce more milk. If your daughter still has a tendancy to fall asleep during feeds, what I used to do was lay my daughter down and fiddle around with her nappy as if I'm changing her, or her clothes, or unwrap her and wrap her again, just some kind of fiddling with her to stir her up out of the drousy state that she was in. If your daughters demand feeding for every hour is only a recent thing, like in the last few days, your body need to get used to her needing more milk and your body will respond to this. But don't dispair if this doesn't work out for you, you have given your baby girl the best start she could possibly need to grow strong and healthy. Its not a failure if you find that your body isn't able to provide for you daughters hunger. The bod you have while you are breasteding your daughter is just as strong as it is if you bottle feed her. Our closeness, your scent, touch and voice doesn't change, and your baby girl will still have that closeness with you. I truely wish you the best of luck with your little blessing. I hope that I was able to give you some helpful tips. And goodluck! Becomming a mother is the best thing I have ever done, and i am hoping to have one more to my happy foursome! I'm just so greedy for the happiess they give me!

Rachel - posted on 07/05/2009

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Just remember that your body knows what your child need and will catch up with her demands! Try using a cold rag on her feet while she is nursing to keep her awake or rub her face to get her suckling again when she stops! You can also try to burp her when she falls asleep to wake her... however that might put her to sleep also... just depends on the baby! The most important thing to remember is that your baby has to learn to nurse and that she is still learning! DON'T GIVE UP!!!! I promise it will all get better!! I have been nursing now for 9 months and I also has the same problems and they all just seemed to fix themselves! I mean my milk did not come in for 5 days and that had me freaking out, then my daughter seemed to forget how to latch on and put me in pain for like two weeks but I stuck with it and she suddenly started doing it right again. Who knows why things happen but all I can say is it always comes together!! So hang in there!!....



However if you do decide that quitting is what is right for you remember that you are still a wonderful MOMMY and your baby girl will love you just as much!

Rachel - posted on 07/05/2009

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LLL woman! Le Leche League! Its a breastfeeding support group that is wonderful. Also the lactation consultant at the hospital you delivered at can help you as well. Call them.


That said, get a breast pump or even rent one. If you live near a baby store or Babies R Us, they rent them. The unit never touches the milk and you purchase a box of tubes that you'll attached to the pump and use for while you rent it.


There are many different ways that you can incorporate this. Also know that there are organic formula's that you could supplement with for the odd feeding or the day or two that you start breast pumping to get your milk back up and in at regular intervals.


I had alot of production problems but mine were based on reflux. My daughter couldn't lay flat at all, and even when elevated once the acid flowed she'd stop eating. The pump helped me. I initially supplemented when needed but would pump and store. Then the next time she wouldn't feed I had the stored milk to use via bottle and would pump again.


The best breast bottle that I found was an ADIRI. And after the boob, its the only one my daughter would want. Not to mention making it easy to switch back and forth from since it literally looks like a boob.


The only organic formula that I could find without lactose or soy, was Similac Organic. They also offer 2oz ready made bottles that were perfect to have on hand so we didn't waste money on huge kegs of powder formula or throw away the bigger ready made bottles.


Best of luck...hope this helps!

WAANI - posted on 07/05/2009

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Keep trying and dont give up!try to get some supplement to produce more milk..

Karen - posted on 07/05/2009

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I didn't have the breast infections, but I can remember feeling very much like a milk-factory in the early days postpartum (moo!). Keep going, mom. It will get easier in the weeks ahead. Right now, she needs to breastfeed on demand. Maybe when she goes to sleep if you try unwrapping or undressing her, that may help her to wake up so she can eat some more. Or play with her feet. Sometimes that helps to arouse them. Anyway, don't give up, mom. Baby needs your milk. And you do have enough. Just b/c your breasts may be soft at the next feeding doesn't mean that you don't have any milk. I'm not sure that there's a such thing as "running dry" literally.

Marianne - posted on 07/05/2009

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I went through the same thing with all 4 of my babies. I got really sick with a breast infection with my first and i had to quit, but with the others it was rough at first but got better. I went to a lactation consultant every week until it got better. Seems they feed better when you go to someone about your problems! When I went they could let me know if they just weren't getting enough milk or if there were other problems. If it is lack of milk, which it was for me, there are things they can help you with to fix that. Keep it up. You're doing the best for your baby!

Kim - posted on 07/05/2009

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Kelly, first of all congratulations on breastfeeding ! It is an awesome responsibility. I have breastfed all three of my kids for at least 2 years each, and I am a RN specializing in lactation. Some tips are FIRST OF ALL DON"T GIVE UP!!!!! This is a cooperation between you and babe, so remember she is learning too. Second, believe in your ability to completely feed your baby. It's what females were made to do.


Try to keep her awake between breasts by changing her diaper in between breasts, keep a cool cloth nearby to gently stroke her cheek if she starts drifting. They do go through growth spurts, not much you can do but maintain your nutrition and drink Constantly.

If your breasts become engorged sometimes pumping will help, but remember the more milk you express the more you will make. Let your baby demand what she needs. Infections are usually caused by a blocked milk duct. Applying moist warm pads to your breasts before feeding will encourage let down. Massaging also helps. Be sure and try to feed in different positions as much as possible, and don't forget side-lying allows a tired mommy some nap time too. My kids called nursing "nap" because that is what we would both do in the day. Also remember if you are nervous or upset at feeding time your baby will pick up on that. Try to relax, put your feet up and enjoy the miracle that you can do. I will be the first to admit that breastfeeding is hard, and different with each baby. It is an immense undertaking. I felt like the feed cow at times. You also need good support, from you sig. other or loved ones who can help with babe while you rest. My spouse used to get them up between breasts to change them, then bring them back to me to finish.


PLEASE trust in your ability, and remember she is learning too. Perseverance is the most important part!


Kim

Kim - posted on 07/05/2009

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Quoting Kelly:

Breastfeeding Complications

Ok so I had my daughter almost three weeks ago now and i have been breastfeeding. My daughter is a very lazy eater and it makes it really hard and frustrating. She falls asleep everytime i feed her or she will just feed on one of my breast and doesnt want to wake up for the other one until about a half hour later. So needless to say there is no sleep happening. I have already went through two breast infections and am about to give up. But i dont want to cause i know that this is so good for her. On top of that she is going through her 3 week growth spurt so she wants to eat every hour. She was draining me completely to where when she wanted to eat again an hour later i was still empty and she wouldnt get anything which is really frustrating. I am on the verge of quiting but really dont want to. Any suggestions or anyone who went through this same problem?


 

Laura - posted on 07/05/2009

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Hi, firstly I think you're doing a great job. It can be hard work at times but it's really rewarding when you see them growing and putting weight on and you know they're getting the best start in life.

If your baby prefers to feed from one side, try expressing from the other side so your partner can feed her during the night. Expressing milk will help to relieve engorgement and help to prevent blocked milk ducts resulting in infections like mastitis. Also the more you feed/express the more you will make. But if it's really not working for you and it's making you unhappy, it's time to have a rethink.

I really hope everything works out for you. Keep up the good work!!

L.xx

Shana - posted on 07/05/2009

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Hi Kelly!

Don't worry! Being cuddled close to mommy is comforting, your baby is content when she is falling asleep! That's a good thing. However, to make sure she gets enough milk during a feeding, just wake her up if she dozes. Be sure to feed her in a well-lit room and tickle her ear, rub her back, talk to her, whatever it takes to keep her focused! As for not taking both breasts in one feeding, that's okay. You can try two things: 1) pump the other breast while your daughter nurses. This can keep up your milk supply and storing extra milk can allow you some much needed rest while another person feeds her once in a while. 2) You can have her empty out one side, then be sure to have her empty out the other side during the next feeding.



Good luck!

User - posted on 07/05/2009

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I can sympathize with you. I developed mastitis when my daughter was one week old and had a whole host of problems in the early stages of breastfeeding. First and foremost you need to develop some sort of a "schedule", albeit a loose one, you need to allow time in between feeds to allow your milk to be replenished. I was told by a lactation consultant that within one hour (beginning at the end of a feeding) 75% of the milk supply is restored. Perhaps you are feeding too often and your daughter is not getting enough milk and is therefore falling asleep or perhaps she's not really hungry and she's just snacking. I never followed the "feeding on demand" schedule that many people do. I fed my daughter religiously every 3 hours and she was gaining weight faster than most babies apparently do in the first few months (on average 1.5 to 2 ounces per day). In order to keep your baby awake, try blowing on her face gently in order to wake her or try using a cool washcloth on her. As well, I found frequent burps would help. Not necessarily to burp her, but just to change positions and keep her awake. When you burp though, don't change breasts. Alternate breasts with feedings, not burpings. Finally, if you decide to switch to formula, don't beat yourself up about it. There is nothing wrong with feeding a baby formula if you're having difficulty breastfeeding or if you cannot for some reason. There is so much pressure to breastfeed and to be quite honest, I don't know how accurate a lot of the information is. I know breastfed babies who are sick all the time and I know formula fed babies who never get sick. Do what is best for you and for your baby. It's better to have a formula fed baby who is sleeping (which is also important for baby's development) and content, than to have a breastfed baby who rarely eats or sleeps and who is unhappy and crying all the time. Good luck!

Jen - posted on 07/05/2009

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i had all the problems you can think of with my now 21 month old daughter. i am breastfeeding my second one (9 weeks) now and it is so much easier. dont give up!it will become easier as she gets older. dont worry if you just fed her and she seems to want to nurse again right away and you feel you have no milk because a lot of the time they just want to nurse for comfort when they cluster feed like that. your milk is designed for her and she will not starve if you feed her on a regular basis, and to get more milk each time try pumping after each feeding for a while and giving her that milk too. the more you nurse or pump the milk you will make. your body knows how much she needs even if you see bottle fed babies drinking much more than her.in most cases bottle fed babies are being overfed.and do whatever you have to to keep her awake,take her clothes off,use a wet towl,tickle her cheeks or feet.make sure she eats at least fifteen minutes of good eating.she doesnt have to nurse both sides every time just make sure you offer both sides every time. and start with the one she didnt nurse for the next time. i hope this helps.i know it is hard in the begining but it gets SO much better and you will be able to relax and love bonding with your baby in ways that some poeple dont ever experiance. i nurse my first one for 8 months and it was wonderful!!!(after about 3 months of infections and latch problems and on and on...lol)

Mel - posted on 07/04/2009

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well i didnt go thru that personally maybe for the first week i was always having to keep her awake to feed, my nipples were killing me plus she was hungry all day and night and did not sleep the whole night even for a few seconds. so of course i did the right thing and switched her to formula. but if you want to keep BF-ing that is your choice. spkea to your child health nurse or a breast feeding counsellor, i know when i had mine they shove it all down your throat with the phone numbers and all that so i am sure they have done the same to you

Barbara - posted on 07/04/2009

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Keep feeding her often and your milk should keep up with her demand, try stripping her clothes off when she falls asleep, this helped with my son when he was that age, plus that skin to skin contact helped increase my milk supply. Call your local La Leche League, they have been a great support group for me and the leaders in my area have always been able to help me out.

Amy - posted on 07/04/2009

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I am so sorry to hear about your horrible struggle with breastfeeding! You must be so exhausted!!! I had some troubles as well, because my son was jaudiced so he was very lethargic and didn't want to eat. Then, because I couldn't get him to eat, his bilirubin levels didn't go down so he would be even more lethargic. I am so sorry to hear about your breast infections...those are the absolute worst most painful times. It sounds like you want to keep at it, which is so great! You are so strong and so right to want to do that. I agree with some of the other ladies when I say if you can keep at it for a little while longer, than it WILL get easier. And after a while she will be able to take more in at a time and not need to nurse as much (though not to make you sad...my son didn't sleep through the night until he was done nursing at 20 months!!!) I really wish I had better advice for you. I just wanted to give you a little pep talk and tell you that you are doing the right thing. It will get easier, and will start to be your most favortie quiet time of the day. Hang in there and GOOD LUCK!!

Jeannette - posted on 07/04/2009

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Quoting Kathy:

There are a lot of good suggestions. I breast fed for a full year. And the nurses told me some tricks. Try tickling her toes and undress her down to her diaper. Try different nursing positions. Make sure she's latched on well, she may not be getting enough, that's why she's eating so often. A couple of things to help produce milk are beer and a tea you can get in the supplement tea section at Giant Eagle. Darn if I can't remember the name right now. And definitely try pumping in order to keep you from plugging up. That usually leads to infections. And if you do get plugged up,put a warm (as warm as you can stand it) wash cloth on the plug and cover it with a heating pad. If all else fails and the plug still won't unclog, dip your breast in a bowl of epsom salts. It sounds crazy, but I got plugs all the time and was able to avoid Milk Fever as its sometimes called by doing all that I've typed. Good luck and don't give up, you can do it.



Don't drink beer to encourage milk. That is bad for the baby. Talk to a lactation consultant to see what they recomment. There is also a pill you can get from your doctor if you need to. i think it is domperidone.

Jeannette - posted on 07/04/2009

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Growth spurts are hard in the beginning, but it does get better. My son fell asleep on me all the time too. I would tickle and keep him awake as long as I could to get a decent feeding. He could be colicky too, which just takes time to pass through. For the yeast infections the best thing I found was grapefruitseed extract. You can buy it at health food stores. I had yeast infections in my breasts from 2 weeks to 10 months, but the grapefruit seed extract worked the best and kept in under control so it didn't bother me most of the time. I just couldn't stop it for a long time. I also used that purple stuff you paint on your nipples when it was bad and that helped too. Good luck. Remember you need to do what is best for both of you. If it doesn't work and you need to change to bottle feeding, don't feel bad. New mothers have enough stress without worrying about that. I would encourage you to keep at it for a few more weeks at least. It will get better.

Sabrina - posted on 07/04/2009

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My daughter (now 9weeks) wasn't so much a sleepy eater but she did act like she was starving all the time.The problem ended up being my milk supply and her having a bad latch. When she hit her 3 week growth spurt she would feed for about 3-4 hours in the middle of the night (literally sitting on the couch with her on one breast or the other from about midnight to 4am). I went to see a Lactation Consultant (highly recommend doing this!) and she put me on Domperidone which is a prescription pill and told me to make sure my daughter finished one breast before I switched her to the other and if she fed again within an hour start on the breast I finished on last time. The hindmilk is more filling and has more calories to it so they *shouldn't* feed as long if the get enough of it into them. She also told me that the most common cause of babies falling asleep while feeding is slow flow, the domperidone helped with that too. Make sure you get your latch checked because that is where all my problems started. Good Luck and hang in there, you're obviously dedicated if you've made it threw 2 infections!!!! (Good Job, btw!)



Oh and check out http://www.drjacknewman.com/ he had lots of tips and videos.

Rebekah - posted on 07/04/2009

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You can use a pump.I had problems with my oldest and lazy breastfeeder as well.My mom told me to undress him and dress him again to wake him up,but that didn't keep him awake.I was bound and determined that he needed breastmilk that I pumped and stored it in a playtex nurser bottle (that has disposable bags) and he got the nurishment he needed and I could have more sleep when my husband shared the job of feeding the baby too! The 1st 6wks are the most crutial for the antibodies to strengthen the immune system in your baby.So after that I just switched to formula with my son.But if the pump works for you then you can always keep pumping and storing it in the freezer.Frozen breastmilk will last in the freezer for a couple of months.

Kathy - posted on 07/04/2009

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There are a lot of good suggestions. I breast fed for a full year. And the nurses told me some tricks. Try tickling her toes and undress her down to her diaper. Try different nursing positions. Make sure she's latched on well, she may not be getting enough, that's why she's eating so often. A couple of things to help produce milk are beer and a tea you can get in the supplement tea section at Giant Eagle. Darn if I can't remember the name right now. And definitely try pumping in order to keep you from plugging up. That usually leads to infections. And if you do get plugged up,put a warm (as warm as you can stand it) wash cloth on the plug and cover it with a heating pad. If all else fails and the plug still won't unclog, dip your breast in a bowl of epsom salts. It sounds crazy, but I got plugs all the time and was able to avoid Milk Fever as its sometimes called by doing all that I've typed. Good luck and don't give up, you can do it.

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I had the same problem with my older son. I gave up after a month then found we had the same problem with formula. Don't let people make you feel guilty about stopping. You need to do what's right for you. She will do just fine either way. Good luck.

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Depending on where you live, you can also contact the hospital where you gave birth. When my son was an infant the lactation specialists at the hospital were EXTREMELY helpful. I did not want to give up but was having a hard time - I scheduled an appointment and after that things went much better. I breastfed him until he was 11 months old - he had all his teeth by then and kept biting me. At that point he was more interested in our snuggle time in the rocking chair with a story and milk - he didn't care where the milk came from :>) Good Luck - there are lot's of resources if this is something you really want to do :>)

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hiya, my name is chalie n i am a breast feeding peer councilor, i have breastfeed all of my 3 girls, you are doing a great job, breast feeding is hard work at the start it feels as though u are constantly feeding, when u r feeding her n she falls asleep just nodge her cheek to stimulate her again, also you dont always need to feed on both breasts, babys at 3 wks only have a stomach the size of a walnut, so they tend to eat little and very often, so sleepless nites will be there for a while, but things even out once they get in a routine of feeding which they normally just happen, also about the feeling empty it might feel as though you are empty but your milk just keeps topping up you wont go empty untill u stop breastfeeding, just remember to keep your fluids up and also eat lots, gd luck hope you crack it and things turn out ok for you and if you need any more help just respond, chalie wood

Sharon - posted on 07/04/2009

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dont give up it will get easer, i have breast fed my 3 boys each time it was different. my middle boy was very hungery and i could not supply milk fast enough so i added a bottle feed untill i could provide enough, dont feel that you have failed if you need to do this because it helped me and him to sleep, it return produce more milk so making us both happier. hope this helps.

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there is an herbal tea called Mother's Milk. It works really well, it helps you produce milk. I work in a pediatricians office and we recommend it all the time. My daughter had trouble producing milk and this tea helped ALOT. Try it, it won't hurt, let me know how it works for you. Good luck.

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I know you're frustrated. Contact La Leche League in your area. They are wonderful breastfeeding women who have been where you are. They offer excellent tips, etc and never judge you. They were a God-send to me.

Amanda - posted on 07/04/2009

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I nursed all my kids and there is a tea you can drink that will help you produce more milk. The herb is called fenu-greek. Its totally safe for the baby. Call a nutritional store near you or look it up online. I know nursing can be hard, once you get through the first month to two months its alot easier.

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I went through the same thing! My son fell asleep all the time, I would strip him down to just a diaper, tickle him, move this legs, anything I could. I also battled low supply. The only thing I can tell you is that despite all the tears I went through, as soon as week 4 came around it all got better, amazingly better. Now he is just 15.5 months old and we are just weaning. Keep with it, your baby will thank you and you will thank you. Once you get over this it is great!

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If she is feeding every hour I would feed on one side at each feeding to ensure she gets the hind milk. I would also reccomend fennugreek tablets. You should be able to get them at a health food store. They help boost milk production. If you have a "tea/appothecary" store where you are go in and ask they have great teas that can help. You can also feed only on the one side and pump the other and supplement. That way you can help boost production and she gets enough. Check out your local library for this awesome book: The Nursing Mother's Companion by Kathleen Huggins. I wish I had came across it with my first child. An electric pump may work better than a hand pump. Good luck!!

Ann-Marie - posted on 07/03/2009

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If she's falling asleep, it's throwing off your milk production. I went through the same with both my boys. I finally talked to my lactating nurse, she told me to start pumping to keep my milk going, take up where baby leaves off on start breast, then go to other side, the more you express the more you will make, and drink lots of clear fluids and NO caffeine. I also soaked in a hot basin of water to keep from getting infections from baby staying on one side too long.

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TRY NO TO GIVE UP BECUZ IT IS THE BEST THING FOR HER. I TOO HAD MY BABY 4 WEEKS AGO BUT WAS LUCKY ENOUGH THAT SHE LATCHED ON WHILE STILL IN THE HOSPITAL. AND SHE'S BEEN FINE EVER SINCE. WHAT U CAN DO IS TRY AND PUMP OUT AS MUCH AS U CAN AND HAVE SOMEONE FEED HER WHILE U TRY TO SLEEP. USE A HOT TOWEL ON UR BREAST TO GET THE MILK OUT..... GOOD LUCK

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I read somewhere that if you can get through the first month, you can last for as long as you want. YES the first month is HARD...but DONT give up!! It is so worth sticking it out...you can do it! I wanted to quit too during the first few weeks....I was also not getting any sleep. BUT I stuck it out because it was something that I really wanted to do for her....and I nursed for 14 months.

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Hi Kelly! Congratulations on your new addition. My daughter nursed exactly how you describe your daughter's nursing habits. Very frustrating! I found that if you start undressing her - make her slightly uncomfortable (rather than cozy and snuggly) it will keep her awake long enough to get her fill. I took me a while to figure this one out - so I hope it helps!



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How long are you feeding her on each side? You should only feed 10 minutes on each side. If you are doing this and she is falling asleep, give her a bath before she eats (not every time but when she is mostly likely to fall asleep) or open up her clothes to let a little bit of cool air in. If she is eating a lot she might not be getting enough from your milk. So you can supplement with a bottle of formula. The longer you breastfeed the better for your baby. (It's also the best thing for you too). I hope some of these suggestions help you.

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Quoting Elsje:

 Some things that did help though was drinking lots of gingerbeer, fennel tablets, Vit B complex and a type of berry elixir I unfortunately cannot remember the name of right now. Perhaps one of the other moms will know.


I had good results with Schleean Berry Elixer, oats and milk stout!. Some of these work well for some moms and then not at all for others - try out the usuals and see which one works for you - you will see results within 2 to 6 hours. The Pumping is a good idea, but I overdid it to the point of bleeding nipples.... pretty gross, and tended to make the baby throw up if she got blood mixed in her milk (not surprisingly!) Eating well is very important and Avo's are a good instant food that is easy to snack on with salt and pepper.  Try not to let the stress get to you, it really does influence how much milk you produce. If your health suffers though, don't feel bad to supplement, but keep on trying and it will eventually settle into its own flow. La Leche League is always helpful, their trained people have many years and millions of mother's worth of advice. It is a world wide league, and should be easy to find in your area.  



hang in there.

Elsje - posted on 07/03/2009

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My son was born 2 months prematurely and he had jaundice. The jaundice made him sleepy so that I had to wake him while he was feeding and a premie's sucking abilities aren't that great + my breasts wasn't ready, I suppose, with the milk 2 months earlier. I was determined to breastfeed though and did. I could not breastfeed exclusively though. I had to give up that idea or my son would not have been able to pick up enough weight to survive being a premi. I simply could not get my breasts to produce enough milk for that, so I had to supplement with formula. It was all fine though in the end. The tiredness and the stress along with everything else all worked against me. Some things that did help though was drinking lots of gingerbeer, fennel tablets, Vit B complex and a type of berry elixir I unfortunately cannot remember the name of right now. Perhaps one of the other moms will know. I also used a breastpump as often as I could to make sure that there was milk read if I did not have any when he was awake enough to feed and to keep my breasts stimulated enough to keep on producing milk. I had to switch over to formula completely after about 6 months. I was sad at first and felt like a failure. Looking back and remembering how I sat up with the breast pump once until my one breast started bleeding, I know I really did try and I have nothing to feel bad about. He is an active, healthy young four year old now. Good luck and just relax. :-)

Elsje - posted on 07/03/2009

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My son was born 2 months prematurely and he had jaundice. The jaundice made him sleepy so that I had to wake him while he was feeding and a premie's sucking abilities aren't that great + my breasts wasn't ready, I suppose, with the milk 2 months earlier. I was determined to breastfeed though and did. I could not breastfeed exclusively though. I had to give up that idea or my son would not have been able to pick up enough weight to survive being a premi. I simply could not get my breasts to produce enough milk for that, so I had to supplement with formula. It was all fine though in the end. The tiredness and the stress along with everything else all worked against me. Some things that did help though was drinking lots of gingerbeer, fennel tablets, Vit B complex and a type of berry elixir I unfortunately cannot remember the name of right now. Perhaps one of the other moms will know. I also used a breastpump as often as I could to make sure that there was milk read if I did not have any when he was awake enough to feed and to keep my breasts stimulated enough to keep on producing milk. I had to switch over to formula completely after about 6 months. I was sad at first and felt like a failure. Looking back and remembering how I sat up with the breast pump once until my one breast started bleeding, I know I really did try and I have nothing to feel bad about. He is an active, healthy young four year old now. Good luck and just relax. :-)

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I know it's tough going, I also had some really hard times. I have five children and breastfed them all for different lengths of time. I have not read the other posts, I am sure there is some good advice in them. All I can say is don't give up yet. It will get easier.

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i'm sorry that i can't really help as i ended up switching to formula because of the same problem .. my son was only 10 days old .. but it upset me because everytime i put him to the breast he fell asleep .. i put him down and he would wake up crying .. the cycle kept repeating .. i tried pumping but i found it hard work so i ended up just switching to formula .. my sons 5months old and seems to be thriving

Melody - posted on 07/03/2009

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First dont stress I know its easy for someone else to say it but its true, as for keeping her awake for the feedings I had one do the same thing it drove me nuts till I started to give him a little tickle on his foot everytime he starts to fall asleep run you finger from toes to heel or the other way round and it will wake her up. As for her wanting to nurse every hour, she's not getting enough quality time at your breast because of whats been going on which leads back to RELAX and dont STRESS. even if she's not getting milk by her suckling longer helps to bring in more milk for the next time. Hope this helps. good luck and enjoy it they grow way to fast.

Kelly - posted on 07/03/2009

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Something similiar happened to me when I had my son. At the hospital he ate fine off the breast but the day I brought him home he would not latch on. My milk had dropped and he was not latching on like he needed to to nurse. I went frantically to the nurse at the hospital and showed her the problem. She knew right away what was wrong. She called him a "tongue sucker". She said every once in awhile babies that suck on their hands or thumbs a lot in the womb form a condition where there cannot latch on to the breast and cannot nurse because their tonge gets in the way. She gave me a couple of nipple guards. These can be bought at any Wal-Mart or KMart. I placed the nipple guard over my nipple and my boys tongue under the nipple like a pacifier and problem was solved. I sat there in the waiting for over an hour nursing him. It was such a relief. I went on to nurse him for over a year. The nurse also set me up with a good hospital breast pump and told me about the freezer bags that you can store your milk in. This will allow Hubby and other family members to help in the feedings and allow you to get some occasional much rest. Good Luck!!!!

Wendy - posted on 07/03/2009

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When I had my first child, I went through something similar. I would get really sore

and red and would have to put cream on...after a while it became a little easier. Also

you had mentioned that she is wanting to eat every hour, that happended to me also. I

was not producing enough milk so I had to supplement formula and would breast feed on the next feeding, this also helped me with the soreness as I was not breast feeding for every feeding...but your right, it is healthy to breastfeed,,my daugther does not get sick very often.

Maribeth - posted on 07/03/2009

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My son is 2 months old and a very slow/easily distracted eater. When he was about 2 weeks old I started pumping and then feeding him from a bottle. I would pump after every feeding so it would be ready when he was. Just heat up water in a big mug for 2 minutes and use that to warn up your milk. Any extra you have at the end of the day you can freeze for when she has her growth spurts and needs a bit more. It is much easier to help him control his eating this way and I'm a lot less stressed. We do nurse in the evening before he goes down for night, it keeps that connection and helps him relax.

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