Breastfeeding or bottlefeeding... which do you prefer and why?

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Trina - posted on 04/25/2009

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I'm sure this question was not meant to cause a huge debate, HOWEVER I am so tired of hearing asinine comments from breast feeding mothers. Something to take into consideration when you're spewing your holier-than-thou attitude on bottle feeding mothers: regardless of what you choose to believe, NOT EVERYONE IS CAPABLE OF BREAST FEEDING!!!!!! Your comments are hurtful and insensitive and meant solely to make a mother who made a different choice than you feel inferior.

Of course, midwives & La Leche League would have people believe that ANYONE can breast feed - it's their JOB! However, unless you were one of the women that CAN'T for whatever reason, you refuse to believe that for some it's just not possible. Do yourselves a favour and do a little research - ever wonder why wet nurses have been around since the beginning of time? Whether or not to breast feed is not always a choice a mother gets to make - sometimes that choice is made for her and no amount of medications, herbal supplements, pumping and extensive suckling by the child can change that.

I was unable to breast feed either of my children. It's kind of hard to feed a baby when there is no milk! With my daughter I tried for 1 month, with my son for 3. It didn't change the fact that both children were only getting less than an ounce from me per feeding - if any - and still needed to be fed formula at EVERY feeding.

Personally, I'd much rather feed my baby what you have referred to as "inferior" and "the worst thing you can do" than have them STARVE!

As for the bonding issue, I assure you, bottle fed babies are capable of bonding with their mothers JUST as easily as breast fed babies are, not only that, but they can bond with their fathers as well, and anyone else who feeds them. My baby doesn't need to suck on my breast to feel close to me - he just needs to be held close and loved. If you feel cheated out of a relationship with your mother, I assure you it's NOT because she didn't breast feed you. I'm sure if you talk to other women who don't have a good relationship with their mothers, you'll find that a lot of them were in fact breast fed.

Breast feeding mothers certainly don't like it when they are told that they can't or shouldn't breast feed in public places or around certain people, so perhaps they should think about THAT when they decide to make hurtful comments to bottle feeding mothers!

Okay, stepping off my soap box now!

Cindy - posted on 04/25/2009

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I wanted to breast feed my eldest child, and believed that women who didn't want to breastfeed just didn't care. Until I was the one who had trouble breastfeeding.



I was permanantly feeling guilty because I couldn't breastfeed my son, I felt like a failure when I told my husband that he had to go and get formula because the baby was hungry, and because of those feelings I "lost" the first couple of weeks with my son, and it also didn't help with my post natal depression. Every time he cried I cried because I am such a bad mother that I can't breastfeed. And all of the guilt was because of people who say that breastfeeding is the "ONLY" option. It turns out that my son is much much healthier than any of the kids I know who has been breastfeed. His IQ is also very high, not that it would make a difference, because no matter how high your IQ is if you don't want to learn you won't.



So I decided to give my daughter formula as well. She also reached all her milestones early, and is healthy and very smart. I still wish I could breastfeed, but when I look at my healthy, smart and happy children and know that we have a bond that couldn't have been stronger, I know it doesn't matter.

Abby - posted on 04/25/2009

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Ashley, stating that bottle feeding is one of the worst things you can do makes some women feel awful....i had no choice i produced NO milk and therefore my child STARVED for the first few days. my child and i have an amazing bond but he is extremely outgoing too. his father and granny got to bond with him too because of bottle feeding. my child is an extremely intelligent child, he hit all his milestones long before he should, he crawled at 5 months, smiled at 16 days.

so please dont say those things, sometimes breast feeding is not possible and people who go round saying things like you do hurt women who tried theur hardest and struggled for months feeding with a bottle as my child hated it.

Ashley - posted on 04/25/2009

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I feel very strongly about this. I don't think that breastfeeding/bottlefeeding is a choice or just a preference. I have a degree in psychology and have read numerous studies about the protective benefits of breastfeeding. If anyone took the time to read these, or even listen to to a midwife, they'd realize that bottlefeeding (formula) is one of the worst decisions you can make as a parent. Breastfeeding builds the child's immune system, protects against jaundice, promotes bonding between mother and child by the release of the hormone oxytocin (the some hormone that induces labor and also shrinks your uterus after birth by way of breastfeeding), protects against ear infections, and also children who are breastfed score higher on IQ tests than children who are not. Also, breast milk is the most nutritious food for your baby. All those formulas out there contain too much protein, among other things. Your breast milk is designed specifically for YOUR baby. No formula can provide complete nutrition for your child. Plus, breast milk is free! The American Pediatric Association insists that a child should be breast fed for AT LEAST six months, but preferably a year. Even breastfeeding your child up to two years of age has been shown to be beneficial to the child. Anyway, I could go on and on. That's my two cents.

Sarah - posted on 05/08/2009

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Quoting Maggie:

I tried breastfeeding. I fought for 4 months because everyone said "breast is best" and "every mother can breastfeed". My daughter just kept loosing weight. I think that she was drinking more blood than milk. I had to switch. I still bond with my daughter while I am feeding her. Just because she doesn't have my boob shoved in her face for every meal doesn't mean that we are not bonding. I am still holding her, I am still cuddling with her, I am still talking to her.

As for you mothers out there who are extremely pro breast, I say keep it to yourselves. Everyone of you make me feel like crap because I had to make the decision to switch.

It doesn't matter which side of the fence you are on. You can find stays to back up your beliefs.

As for the people whp keep starting posts like this, just don't. I think that all you are looking for is the next hoopla on this site. If you really want to know what everone thinks then go into the archives and read the old posts. There are a tremendous number of them. I am tired of hearing the same old arguments.

Honestly, we are supposed to be parents but sometimes I think our children are more mature than we are.


i agree with you there .. as theres no right or wrong way to feed your baby .. its up to the individual as to what they feel is right .. and they shouldn't be criticised for how they feed there baby it's a personal choice and no one should force you to do one or the other

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User - posted on 05/08/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

I feel very strongly about this. I don't think that breastfeeding/bottlefeeding is a choice or just a preference. I have a degree in psychology and have read numerous studies about the protective benefits of breastfeeding. If anyone took the time to read these, or even listen to to a midwife, they'd realize that bottlefeeding (formula) is one of the worst decisions you can make as a parent. Breastfeeding builds the child's immune system, protects against jaundice, promotes bonding between mother and child by the release of the hormone oxytocin (the some hormone that induces labor and also shrinks your uterus after birth by way of breastfeeding), protects against ear infections, and also children who are breastfed score higher on IQ tests than children who are not. Also, breast milk is the most nutritious food for your baby. All those formulas out there contain too much protein, among other things. Your breast milk is designed specifically for YOUR baby. No formula can provide complete nutrition for your child. Plus, breast milk is free! The American Pediatric Association insists that a child should be breast fed for AT LEAST six months, but preferably a year. Even breastfeeding your child up to two years of age has been shown to be beneficial to the child. Anyway, I could go on and on. That's my two cents.



Ashley,



I do agree with you that breastfeeding is best for your baby  for the reasons you stated above.  I also belief that every mother should at least try it. However, I DO NOT belief that not breastfeeding is the WORST thing.  There are FAR WORST things we as parents could do to our children.  With that being said, I had my first biological child a year ago in April.  I wanted more than anything to breastfeed.  I went to the class offered by the hospital.  When my Daughter was born they had me trying to feed her about 2 hours after she was born.  I had a breast reduction about 15 years ago and knew I was in for a challange....the odds were against me but I want going to give it my best effort.  I did it all while in the hospital...the I wasn't getting enough of the pre-milk to feed her, so she was fed formula via SNS (suplemental nursing system) a little bottle of formula hooked to a thin tube that was then taped to my index finger and she sucked on my finger and tube.  This was used so she didn't get used to a bottle nipple...in hopes that my milk would come in and I would be able to continue breastfeeding...meanwhile I was hooked to a pump and stimulate things to help get the production moving along... My milk came in fully the day after I was discharged from the hospital...I kept in contact with the lactation specialists...though my milk came in the supply was low, so I was having to still supplement her with formula....I did this for three weeks when I ended up with a breast infection...I was sick.  That was when I was done.  I felt horrible that I couldn't continue....I DID FEEL LIKE THE WORST MOTHER IN THE WORLD...I CRIED and CRIED...but you know what..my daughter is one of the healthiest children I know...thats the GOD's truth.  She has NEVER been sick...not one single ear infection...nothing...and she other than the small smounts of breastmilk I was able to give her...she has been on formula since birth...she is a year old.  Also, as I have been typing this...I said to her "go get your sippy..its in the hallway"  I pointed in that direction and said "cup" and did the drinking motion and she toddled down the hallway (littered with her toys) and went right to her sippy cup looked at me for guidance.  I said "yes sippy"  she picked it up and then I praised her.  All of this on formula...Oh also...She has been walking since 10 months....GO FIGURE.  TO ALL OF YOU MOM'S OUT THERE...BREASTFEEDING IS BEST FOR YOUR BABY...AND I ENCOURAGE YOU TO AT LEAST GIVE IT A TRY...WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE?  IT TRULY IS AMAZING.  HOWEVER, IF YOU CHOSE NOT TO OR CANNOT....SO WHAT...YOUR CHILD WILL BE JUST FINE.  A BREASTFED BABY DOES NOT GROW UP TO BE A BETTER CHILD/ADULT THAN A FORMULA FED BABY.



 

Rayna - posted on 05/08/2009

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Quoting Tara:

Breastfeeding for many reasons. It is the best gift you can give your children. The most recent studies on SIDS show that formula fed babies are 29 times more likely to die of SIDS than exlusively breastfed babies. That is pretty signifigant if you ask me. The weight gain babies experience from formula may also have negative effects increasing the infants risk of both obesity and diabetes. I wish there was more education available to women to help them make better choices.


I wish women would read more than one report about bf....you can't believe everything you read!  29 times more likely or not...my daughter has been formula all the way and she's not overweight or in danger of diabetes.  I also have been putting her to sleep on her tummy since she was *gasp!* 6 weeks old.  She slept through the entire night a couple of days later and has since then!  SIDS is just that...sudden.  No real rhyme or reason.  Feeding your infant formula will NOT kill it.  Sheesh!

Rayna - posted on 05/07/2009

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I tried to breastfeed but my daughter had trouble latching on. I nearly went crazy trying to get her to latch on right after only 2 days! I stopped and went to bottles. She slept better, I slept better and I wasn't exhausted or in pain! We're trying for a second and simply for the sake of money we'll try breastfeeding again. But I prefer bottles. I agree that breastmilk is best for babies. Obviously it's tailored for your infant with the right nutrition and antibodies. It's what our bodies were made to do. Some babies aren't able to breastfeed.

Maggie - posted on 05/07/2009

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I tried breastfeeding. I fought for 4 months because everyone said "breast is best" and "every mother can breastfeed". My daughter just kept loosing weight. I think that she was drinking more blood than milk. I had to switch. I still bond with my daughter while I am feeding her. Just because she doesn't have my boob shoved in her face for every meal doesn't mean that we are not bonding. I am still holding her, I am still cuddling with her, I am still talking to her.



As for you mothers out there who are extremely pro breast, I say keep it to yourselves. Everyone of you make me feel like crap because I had to make the decision to switch.



It doesn't matter which side of the fence you are on. You can find stays to back up your beliefs.



As for the people whp keep starting posts like this, just don't. I think that all you are looking for is the next hoopla on this site. If you really want to know what everone thinks then go into the archives and read the old posts. There are a tremendous number of them. I am tired of hearing the same old arguments.



Honestly, we are supposed to be parents but sometimes I think our children are more mature than we are.

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2009

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i breastfed from birth until my son was 10days old .. as everytime i put him down he cried for more and obviously you can't see how much they are taking (i have quite big boobs so he used to fall asleep all the time) .. this in turn used to stress me out so i got very emotional and cried a lot ... not good for me or my son.

and i can honestly say that although he gets tummy ache (constantly holds on to his wind .. but were in the process of changing his milk from cow&gate to aptamil as it seems to be better for this problem) .. i prefer bottlefeeding .. since you can see how much your baby is taking, everyone else can help prepare feeds and feed baby .. although he is a sicky baby .. which he could be still if he was breastfed .. he is healthy and thriving .. and looked much happier when i switched him onto formula .. so in my case breast was not best! .. he's a clever little boy as well achieving a lot of his milestones a little bit earlier than average ..and we have a very special bond.. so it's not just breastfeeding mothers that have that bond.

i was breastfed till i was 6days old as my mum also found it difficult .. and i turned out fine .. i have 3 A Levels and i'm perfectly healthy thanks.

so i can say that i tried but breastfeeding wasn't for me.

User - posted on 05/06/2009

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I breastfed my daughter for 3-4 months, then she would just fall asleep on my breast because it was so comforting to her, she never emptied it, and I was not diligent enough to pump. So now she is bottlefed. I wish I could have continued breastfeeding, I loved bonding with her!

User - posted on 05/06/2009

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I agree with you about the benefits of breastfeeding, but you do realize that sometimes that is impossible to do, right?

Teresa - posted on 04/30/2009

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Breastfeeding cause it's cheaper and more enjoyable for both the child and mother. more bonding, and can do it anywhere, with out heat the bottle up

Tara - posted on 04/30/2009

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Quoting Emily:

Bottlefeeding! I have 2 sons- one almost 3 & one 6 months. I tried bf, but it did not work for me or my boys. Riley was not getting enough to eat & was not gaining weight at all. Jack was a biter (even without teeth) & the pain was unbearable. I love bottlefeeding! It gives me freedom to have daddy help w/ feedings so he can bond w/ the boys too & I find that it is way more convienent when out in public. I know that people say that my boys will not be as healthy, etc. b/c they are bottlefed. Not true! Riley has been sick twice in his whole life (almost 3 years) & Jack has never been sick. Riley is extremely intelligent & spoke his first word at 5 months (as did Jack). Besides knowing all his colors, shapes, alphabet, numbers, etc, he can also already read about 40-50 words. The truth is that the formula produced these days is far superior to the formula of decades past. If the formula has DHA & ARA in it (which all of them do), then there is no real significant difference between formula & bf. If women want to bf, then fine, but those who bottlefeed will be just fine too.



While I agree that your children may not be unhealthy because of bottle feeding saying there is no difference is crazy. Breastmilk contains over 200 ingredients and it is full of living cells and changes constantly to suit baby's stage and needs. Formula is a combination of dead cells sugar and vitamins (some of which (DHA) are thrown in as a marketing gimic and have not been shown to have any bioavailability) They are hard on babies stomach. Formula is a wonderful thing but our society over uses it. Before formula 7 out of 8 artificially fed babies died. It does not mean you can't have bright kids who are formula fed, but if you can breastfeed even for a little while your children will benefit greatly!

Cory - posted on 04/30/2009

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I did both and I prefer breastfeeding. My attempt to breastfeed my first daughter didn't work out very well. I didn't understand why I was getting so many injuries and dealing with so much pain. So, after three weeks I stopped and switched to formula.

With my second child I asked more questions and prepared myself better. I read a book called, "So, That's What They're For" and everything went so smooth the second time around that even after going back to work full time I was still able to provide her enough breastmilk that she NEVER had formula! At 13 months I stopped breastfeeding her completely (by that time I was only brestfeeding at night before bed so it was easy to stop).

I was sad for my boobs to shrink back to their normal size :-(

Emily - posted on 04/30/2009

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Bottlefeeding! I have 2 sons- one almost 3 & one 6 months. I tried bf, but it did not work for me or my boys. Riley was not getting enough to eat & was not gaining weight at all. Jack was a biter (even without teeth) & the pain was unbearable. I love bottlefeeding! It gives me freedom to have daddy help w/ feedings so he can bond w/ the boys too & I find that it is way more convienent when out in public. I know that people say that my boys will not be as healthy, etc. b/c they are bottlefed. Not true! Riley has been sick twice in his whole life (almost 3 years) & Jack has never been sick. Riley is extremely intelligent & spoke his first word at 5 months (as did Jack). Besides knowing all his colors, shapes, alphabet, numbers, etc, he can also already read about 40-50 words. The truth is that the formula produced these days is far superior to the formula of decades past. If the formula has DHA & ARA in it (which all of them do), then there is no real significant difference between formula & bf. If women want to bf, then fine, but those who bottlefeed will be just fine too.

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I was unable to breastfeed but gave my son expressed milk in a bottle, then once my milk ran out- 3months, I gave him formula.



To those mothers who say that they are glad that they breastfeed and not bottle feed because they hate the thought of getting up inthe middle of the night to make a bottle "its not that hard!" it takes barely a minuet to make up a bottle and clean it etc.

Or you just simply get the bottle prepared before you go to bed so that all you have to is heat it up.

And the you bond just the same with your child if you bottlefeed or breastfeed.



While breastmilk is obviously better for babies, the most important part of the breast milk is the first 7 days of it. And of course they wouldn't make formula if they thought it was bad for babies.

Tara - posted on 04/29/2009

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Breastfeeding for many reasons. It is the best gift you can give your children. The most recent studies on SIDS show that formula fed babies are 29 times more likely to die of SIDS than exlusively breastfed babies. That is pretty signifigant if you ask me. The weight gain babies experience from formula may also have negative effects increasing the infants risk of both obesity and diabetes. I wish there was more education available to women to help them make better choices.

Shelby - posted on 04/29/2009

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oh, and i also love that it's free!! it helps out single income families a lot!!

Shelby - posted on 04/29/2009

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in my opinion if you produce milk and are going to be a stay at home mom then breastfeed your baby! If you can make it through the first 6 weeks all of the pain and uncomfortableness will be gone. Here are a few things I love about breastfeeding....



1) It is just so convenient. I do pump when we need a bottle though (which is very rare!).

2) I love the bond that my daughter and I have! It is amazing. And even though her dad doesnt get to feed her they still has a special bond. There are times when she cries and wont stop until she has her dad!

3) breastfeeding is a natural form of birth control. (I am very anti birth control)

4) the health benefits for mom and baby are great.

5) I know this is a selfish reason, but I love this reason...when we're over at the grandparents house everyone else wants to hold my daughter, but when its time to eat I get to feed her! no one else can.

6) my milk is made especially for my baby. it will continue to change as she grows and it will be exactly what she needs!



those are just some reasons i prefer breastfeeding.

Emma - posted on 04/29/2009

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I personally think breastfeeding is better i have two boys and found it quite difficult with my first but i was very determined to breastfeed and after the first couple of weeks we were both great at it. You should realise that it is a learning experience for both you and your baby. I found it so much easier with my second baby i was more confident which helped alot and a midwife once told me that because i had already breastfed my body was already well established for the second time around. Also i have found it much easier when out and needing to feed my son, this time round everyone is so helpful i had some really bad experiences the first time. There is usally a feeding room or somewhere quite and comfortable to nurse, even though i am quite happy to sit and feed him anywhere i do have a muslin sqaure i use to cover up so people dont stare.

I love breastfeeding because it helps me feel closer to my boys, i feel like i gave my boys the best start to life as i could. My first son was never ill until he started school and my second caught a cold from my older son and all he got was a little blocked nose and wasover it within a couple of days.I do believe that if you just cant get on with it you should use a bottle, i think everyone will agree that it is better to use a bottle (if u cannot breastfeed) instead of your baby going hungry.

I recommend everyone should try to breasfeed.

Dianne - posted on 04/29/2009

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I did both! My son was breast fed. I found it very convenient, ready to go, anytime any where, lol. My son rarely gets sick, even when he was a baby. The only downfall is that your husband cannot help with night feedings, unless you pump, and even then you'll get ingorged by morning, if you don't eventually get up for one of the night shifts. My daughter was bottle fed, I didn't have enough milk to fill her, such a piggy, lol. She gets sick more often than my son. The other downside is, you have to make sure you have plenty of supplies when your out and about. The great side is, hubby can help. It's whatever your most comfortable with, that counts.

Annette - posted on 04/29/2009

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Quoting Joy:



Quoting Sarah:

Breastfeeding is NOT over rated! Not only the nutritional aspect, but the bonding you will feel is stronger than you would with the bottle. the only thing people tend to leave out...it's not that easy. there will be days the baby will act like he has never nursed. you have to stick to it or you won't produce enough milk and it won't work for you. Breast is Best!!!






So you're saying I'm not as bonded with my bottle fed son as you are with your breastfed babies?  I don't buy that for one second.






Bonding is more related to the mom's personality and capacity to bond. You could breastfeed and have a distant attitude or you could bottle-feed and be deeply bonded to your baby and vice versa.
I have a master in psychoanalysis and that has been researched.

Mel - posted on 04/29/2009

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I know what you mean Rach and im glad you siad something because i wanted to but didnt. breast feeding DOES NOT give a stronger bond. it is just the same. seriously i tube feed mine so she gets no attachment while being fed and we have bonded with her just fine.

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Wow...A lot of different opinions on here!



Personally I would have loved to breastfeed unfortunately I couldn't, the formula I feed my daughter has Omega 3 and Nucleotides in it to support development and immunity.



I was distraught when the midwives told me that I had to formula feed as bubs wasnt getting anything and there was nothing to pump, but was reassured that holding my baby the same as a breastfeeding mother would do and the bond with my daughter would be the SAME!!



Quite honestly I am getting sick of people saying that breastfeeding causes a stronger bond because it doesn't. A mother could breastfeed her baby change their nappies and then thats it...you need to have social interection with them as well so it isnt just feeding (in my opinion!!)



My mother in law bonded quite well with her adopted children and that was all bottlefed!



I'm not having a dig at anyone in general, I just think that people need to re-phrase how they say things as they come off quite offensive...



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Wow...A lot of different opinions on here!



Personally I would have loved to breastfeed unfortunately I couldn't, the formula I feed my daughter has Omega 3 and Nucleotides in it to support development and immunity.



I was distraught when the midwives told me that I had to formula feed as bubs wasnt getting anything and there was nothing to pump, but was reassured that holding my baby the same as a breastfeeding mother would do and the bond with my daughter would be the SAME!!



Quite honestly I am getting sick of people saying that breastfeeding causes a stronger bond because it doesn't. A mother could breastfeed her baby change their nappies and then thats it...you need to have social interection with them as well so it isnt just feeding (in my opinion!!)



My mother in law bonded quite well with her adopted children and that was all bottlefed!



I'm not having a dig at anyone in general, I just think that people need to re-phrase how they say things as they come off quite offensive...



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Cassandra - posted on 04/28/2009

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Breastfeeding is best, just don't let the doctor talk you into doing it past one years old.

Anna - posted on 04/28/2009

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Breastfeeding! Means that your baby is stuck to your hip 24/7 but if you have the time and the patience it pays off in so may ways. I nursed my little girl for 2 1/2 years and just about died when I finally decided to ween her. I think I cried more than she did.

Victoria - posted on 04/28/2009

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I breastfed for 2 months...but my daughter was awake every hour during the night! So i switched over to the bottle & it was the best decision I could have made...except now I'm having trouble getting her off the bottle!

Mel - posted on 04/28/2009

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mine didnt come thru til 6 days after either. the hospital made me stay in til my daughter gained weight and until my milk came thru then i found out when my friends had kids they had tried to make them stay in to but they left the same day. i know with my next no matter what i will be leaving as soon as mine has been checked over and definately expressing and bottle feeding! if I even give him/her breast milk at all.

Jenna - posted on 04/28/2009

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Both! My daughter has a cleft palate so for her first 6 months I pumped breast milk 8 times a day (yes, every 3 hours day and night) and bottle fed it to her. Now she is 10 mos and I still pump 4-5 times a day. She has never had an ear infection which has totally amazed her pediatrician and her surgeon as these kids usually deal with many many ear infections until the palate is repaired. It is not scientific but I totally attribute her good fortune to getting my milk all this time. Otherwise I could not justify living with all the sore nipples, blisters and "horn burn" all this time!!!

Ashley - posted on 04/28/2009

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i bottlefed my son an hr after he was born and never even thought of breastfeeding. didnt feel comfortable with it, never tried it, and personally never will. i bonded quite well with my son and his father did as well. if you enjoy breastfeeding hey go for it why not but if you dont you shouldnt be looked down on for it. the way i look at it is it's my body , my child and i will do what i feel is right for him. i got the 3rd degree from my mother in law saying that because i didnt breastfeed i was doing the wrong thing and how my son wouldnt be healthy. well aside from an infection at 2 wks old (which had nothing to do with bottlefeeding) we have been to the hospital once in a yr with a very minor ear infection. he has been on vitamins since he was 6 wks old and is perfectly healthy. in my opinion it's how you feel about it and whether or not you are comfortable with it. i myself am not the type of person that could breastfeed in public or infront of family or friends. so i would be stuck in a room or a nursing room in a mall. but every mother does whats best for them and their baby and as long as the baby is being fed, have full tummies and are happy that's what i think is most important!

Ashley - posted on 04/28/2009

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i bottlefed my son an hr after he was born and never even thought of breastfeeding. didnt feel comfortable with it, never tried it, and personally never will. i bonded quite well with my son and his father did as well. if you enjoy breastfeeding hey go for it why not but if you dont you shouldnt be looked down on for it. the way i look at it is it's my body , my child and i will do what i feel is right for him. i got the 3rd degree from my mother in law saying that because i didnt breastfeed i was doing the wrong thing and how my son wouldnt be healthy. well aside from an infection at 2 wks old (which had nothing to do with bottlefeeding) we have been to the hospital once in a yr with a very minor ear infection. he has been on vitamins since he was 6 wks old and is perfectly healthy. in my opinion it's how you feel about it and whether or not you are comfortable with it. i myself am not the type of person that could breastfeed in public or infront of family or friends. so i would be stuck in a room or a nursing room in a mall. but every mother does whats best for them and their baby and as long as the baby is being fed, have full tummies and are happy that's what i think is most important!

Carolee - posted on 04/28/2009

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Hello Erinn ! Carolee I love breast feeding . I liked the convenance and the napping together and the touch and using the tools god gave me :} I also wanted to natural child birth ,but Mr. feet first had another idea . I thought about a bit and came to the conclusion that , what was Most important is that we have a healthy baby :} I know many grown ups that were NOT breast fed and turned out just fine :} I think sometimes we can loose focus on what is MOST important . Bonding with baby,giving baby love, raising kids with character . I would recommend to anyone that asks me "should I breast feed ? YES ! I do believe it is awesome for mom and baby :}

April - posted on 04/28/2009

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Breastfeeding has a lot of health benefits... but it's not for everyone! Whatever you decide just don't put too much pressure on yourself or feel guilty for not breastfeeding. I breastfeed my first for 3 months and it was really hard for me because I worked full time. I felt like I was always pumping and battling to keep up my milk supply. When I finally stopped I felt so guilty for it but I realize now that my son was much happier when I was happier :) I am due in 15 days with my second son and I do plan to breastfeed again as long as it is working out for both of us and if it doesn't- oh well! Formula is ok too!

Dana - posted on 04/28/2009

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I had 3 kids - tried to breast feed the 1st 2 and was completely frustrated and quit. For the 3rd I did breast feed without supplementing any formula - it was the best decision I could have made. Way easier to deal with than bottles, cheaper and I totally bonded with the 3rd. It's not for everyone - I understand that - but I'm glad I persevered through it. Best thing I ever did!

Ardi - posted on 04/28/2009

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I love breastfeeding because it is easy, healthy and cheap. I do not have to get up and make a bottle during the night, and I dont have to clean and boil bottles every day. And a good sideeffect is that many breastfeeders don´t get there period for severel month after birth. My son is almost 4 months and I still haven´t got my period yet and I love it.

Sarah - posted on 04/28/2009

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Just to make myself clear on where I stand with this whole breastfeeding/bottlefeeding thing. I believe in breastfeeding, did it with both of my boys. However every woman is different and entitled to their own choice. If I see a mother with bottlefeeding her baby, do I think that she should be breastfeeing? NO, because I don't know her and I don't know her situation. My point is that it shouldn't matter how you feed your baby, it's a very personal choice and no one should tell you that what you are doing is right or wrong. It's your baby, it's your choice.

Julie - posted on 04/28/2009

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I guess I would suggest at least giving breastfeeding a try. Maybe do it for as long as you can, but just make sure they can take from a bottle and not just breast, because my son never took a bottle, just went straight to a cup. While it's great not to have to wean from a bottle to a cup, it sucks for you as a mom breastfeeding ONLY. It seems like forever before you have freedom to go out or even to wear a non-nursing bra! Just reality. So think about that. My next kid I will probably do breastfeed and formula, just because i hated pumping, and i want to be able to let other people help me.

Katrina - posted on 04/28/2009

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With my daughter I didn't have a choice. She wouldn't latch and my milk never came in. So, she was bottlefed with formula. This time I may not have a choice. My son is going to be born with a cleft lip and possibly a cleft palate. If he has the cleft palate I can't breastfeed and will be bottlefeeding. Hopefully I can pump this time. I won't know the whole plan until he's born.

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Quoting Katie:

My milk didn't come in until 6 days post partum and then only in to one breast. AND, it was only a few ounces a day. I pumped in between feedings, breastfed what there was and then supplemented just enough formula to keep her from losing weight. After a month of this, literally 18+ hours a day on the boob (whether it was the baby or the pump) we tried fenugreek, diet changes and a prescription drug. Nothing worked and I felt like a total failure. I would get mean comments from women who "believed in breastfeeding" and who obviously COULD breastfeed their children. I think it's great that they can, but it's terribly mean and ignorant to say things like, "all women can breastfeed if they just try hard enough". It's just plain and simply untrue. I do think it is best to breastfeed, if you can, but, if you can't, bottle feeding certainly won't harm your child. They may not have some of the antibodies that would have acquired from your milk, but it won't hurt them. I would like to encourage women who can breastfeed to be more sensitive to those who say they can't. I realize some women may say they can't when they don't want or prefer to, but it's really no one's business to tell them they are a bad mother. Just think of the mother who truly can't and how bad you just made her feel. It's just a thought...


I absolutely agree with Katie.  I had a very similar experience, but it seems to me that a lot of breastfeeding moms tend to think that mom's that bottlefeed didn't "try" hard enough.  Believe me, a lot of us try hard enough, but if you aren't producing, you aren't producing.  And saying things to make mother's that bottlefeed feel bad is ignorant and mean, you can't possibly know everyone's particular situation or medical history.

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I think the best choice i made is to breastfeed! the bond you have with the baby is amazing and personally i think its the easiest way to go you never have to warm a bottle!

Jaclyn - posted on 04/28/2009

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Breastfeeding... for as long as you can stand it! I breastfed Lily for 4 months. It was the most amazing experience; bonding with her, knowing I was sustaining her. After 4 months it started to become stressful, so I stopped. But, those 4 months were magical. No, I didn't go very many places and I didn't have much social interaction, but those things come with time. My child was and is #1.

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My milk didn't come in until 6 days post partum and then only in to one breast. AND, it was only a few ounces a day. I pumped in between feedings, breastfed what there was and then supplemented just enough formula to keep her from losing weight. After a month of this, literally 18+ hours a day on the boob (whether it was the baby or the pump) we tried fenugreek, diet changes and a prescription drug. Nothing worked and I felt like a total failure. I would get mean comments from women who "believed in breastfeeding" and who obviously COULD breastfeed their children. I think it's great that they can, but it's terribly mean and ignorant to say things like, "all women can breastfeed if they just try hard enough". It's just plain and simply untrue. I do think it is best to breastfeed, if you can, but, if you can't, bottle feeding certainly won't harm your child. They may not have some of the antibodies that would have acquired from your milk, but it won't hurt them. I would like to encourage women who can breastfeed to be more sensitive to those who say they can't. I realize some women may say they can't when they don't want or prefer to, but it's really no one's business to tell them they are a bad mother. Just think of the mother who truly can't and how bad you just made her feel. It's just a thought...

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Quoting Ashley:

I feel very strongly about this. I don't think that breastfeeding/bottlefeeding is a choice or just a preference. I have a degree in psychology and have read numerous studies about the protective benefits of breastfeeding. If anyone took the time to read these, or even listen to to a midwife, they'd realize that bottlefeeding (formula) is one of the worst decisions you can make as a parent. Breastfeeding builds the child's immune system, protects against jaundice, promotes bonding between mother and child by the release of the hormone oxytocin (the some hormone that induces labor and also shrinks your uterus after birth by way of breastfeeding), protects against ear infections, and also children who are breastfed score higher on IQ tests than children who are not. Also, breast milk is the most nutritious food for your baby. All those formulas out there contain too much protein, among other things. Your breast milk is designed specifically for YOUR baby. No formula can provide complete nutrition for your child. Plus, breast milk is free! The American Pediatric Association insists that a child should be breast fed for AT LEAST six months, but preferably a year. Even breastfeeding your child up to two years of age has been shown to be beneficial to the child. Anyway, I could go on and on. That's my two cents.


As a mother who tried to breastfeed and had to ease into formula before 8 weeks, and knowing other mothers who couldn't keep up breastfeeding or had to mix feed, I really don't feel you have any right to tell people that it's "one of the worst things you can do as a parent". Women like you are the reason women like myself cry at night because they couldn't breastfeed as long as they would have liked to or they just couldn't take the stress or the horomones or the sleepless nights and needed daddys help to feed baby. You shouldn't be so closed minded, in today's society it's very hard for a lot of women to keep breastfeeding as long as they would like to or even breastfeed at all. You're not very considerate of other peoples feelings it seems and really feel that degree in psychology makes you all knowing. A degree gives you no right to tread on peoples toes about their decisions. There's more than one way to bond with your baby, and I know plenty of formula fed kids who are just as healthy as breastfed. Statistics can say a lot- but they're still just numbers.

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I prefer breastfeeding- but it took too much out of me. And then when the two of us contracted thrush I just couldn't do it any more. I breast fed exclusively for two weeks, and mixed fed for a week and a half before switching completely to formula. I tried :( I would like to go farther with my next children, I feel if I hadn't caught thrush I would have been fine.

Susan - posted on 04/28/2009

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I highly recommend breastfeeding as a first choice, if it is possible. Breastfeeding is specifically formulated for your baby by your body with many benefits for both you and the baby. Breast milk contains protective antibodies, and studies have found there are less food allergies in children who are breastfed. A benefit for mom is that the hormone, oxytocin is released during nursing. Oxytocin is a feel-good, bonding hormone. There is usually support for breastfeeding through lactation consultants who usually work with hospitals. Plus there La Leche League, a non-profit group which has support groups through out the US. My firstborn could not suckle a nipple for the first 1 month of life, so I pumped my milk to feed him. He finally latched on, and he breastfed until 12 months old. My younger son breastfed until 9 months old. I enjoyed every minute with each child. It is a special time for the 2 of you, and you are able to give something precious to your baby. I was actually sad when my youngest weaned! With all that being said, I am not against bottle feeding. Everyone has different lifestyles and values, and I have used bottle feeding in a pinch myself. There are pros and cons to each, and every mom has to decide which is best for her baby.

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I chose to bottle feed my child and have absolutely no regrets. I know that a lot of people say it's better for the baby as far as their immune system goes and for bonding purposes. My son has never been sick other than the common cold and he's now 4 1/2. We also bonded very well during his infant years and I wasn't tied down to the schedule of breast feeding. My son slept through the night at a very young age and thrived just wonderfuly. I always knew that I would never breast feed, even before deciding to have a child. Breast feeding kind of creeps me out. I don't like watching other people do it even though they are fully covered up when they are doing it. I've been to people's homes where they have started feeding their baby and physically had to leave the room because it honestly grossed me out. But, that's just me and I knew that if I did it, I know I wouldn't have been miserable. Every single one of my friends who have breastfed have either regretted doing it for so long or doing it at all. I honestly really don't know anyone that has enjoyed it. And, you know what, those are the kids who were sick all the time and who have had very severe health problems. So, breastfeeding, from what I've seen, does not ensure that your baby will have a great immune system. I have yet to meet a child that has been breastfed that has a good immune system. And, those children have also had tons of ear infections, tubes, etc. So, I personally think it's highly overrated and I think it's wrong for midwives and doctors to push that decision onto a new mom.

Lisa - posted on 04/28/2009

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Of course if you bottle feed because you can't produce that is another matter. Go ahead and bottle feed but it is to those that think both are equal in benefits that bother me.

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I am going to say just two words about this subject: skinny jeans. Breast feeding made me skinnier after having children than I was before. Totally self-absorbed and superficial reasoning, but everyone else has pretty much covered the emotional hijacking thing.

Lisa - posted on 04/28/2009

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I agree with Ashley Wheeler's post. People that say both feeding styles are equal they are wrong. Sure the formula gets the baby what it needs in theory but doesn't get what YOUR child needs specifically.Your body knows what extras is needed for your child to grow healthier up their in their brain. Anyhow breastfeeding never stopped me from doing all the stuff I needed to do.I still went shopping,I still did all my house chores, I went out to family and friends homes and I still breastfed everywhere with the help of my breastfeeding cover when I was in public so that others could feel more comfortable.And it helped me lose some of the fat from pregnancy and it made me have some rest time with my baby from my busy schedule. Anyhow why wouldn't you want to feel your child feeding on you??? What's wrong with something that has been so natural for women for centuries??? I don't get this new mentality that commercial food products are better then breastfeeding.

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Quoting Odette:

It took me two weeks to get the hang of breastfeeding. So it doesn't come naturally to everyone. But keeping at it made it all worthwhile.



Yeah no kidding, you're sooo right there it doesn't come naturally it took me & baby nearly a month to get the hang of it. The nurses in the hospital where I had my baby were worthless, every single one of them told me to breastfeed differently and would chide me for using the technique the last nurse 'taught' me. When I finally got home I read a manual on breastfeeding which was a lot more useful.

Lynette - posted on 04/28/2009

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i prefer breastfeeding... id always wanted 2 breastfeed my child if it didnt work out between us then i would bottlefed then at least i i feel iv tried my best and i tried it out. it makes me feel ive helped my daugther in her few months of life,bonding with ur child is very important 2 me, makes me so proud that i make her feel safe. and the health benefits is another reason. its cheaper, faster,easier and best way 2 bond with ur little one. it will b emotional wen i stop but i kno i have 2 let go. i will differently breastfeed agen if i have another one

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