Megan - posted on 07/30/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )
Ok ladies I need some advice. I'm a mother of a 4 year old daughter. My boyfriend of almost 4 years has been her only father figure she knows. Her real father was caught up in drugs and went to jail for a year. Before he went to jail we tried to work out visitation but he was always under the influence of something so I decided to cut it off until he was "better". Well he has been sober for 2 years now but hasn't tried to contact his daughter. He does tell his mother that he wants to be in her life but feels like he needs to get on his feet first.
My problem is should I be the bigger adult and contact him (my daughters father)? And if I do how do I tell my daughter? I don't want to confuse her or have her get hurt in anyway. My boyfriend suggest we wait until she starts to question. But for some reason I feel strongly about fighting for him to be a responsible parent and to start taking care of his child. I wasn't given a free ride so why should he? Any advice would be helpful. Thanks!