Crystal - posted on 01/05/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )
Brother died 1 month before I gave birth. I ended up on bed rest from all the stress of his passing. I don't usually talk a lot about him to others because the pain is too much. I think about him once a day and cry but only when I'm alone. My mother and sisters do not understand this and think I hate him and don't care about him. I try to explain that I have my own way of dealing with my grieve but it's just not good enough. I also feel that his death is so tragic that if i do think about him it's hard for me to get it together and compose myself so I can take care of my son. I love my son more than anything and I'm trying to be the best mother and remodel aside from his father and I can't do that if I'm crying all day. I am now living for my son and I need to move forward with my life and not dwell on my brothers passing. This is not acceptable to my mom she thinks its the worst thing I can do and say to her. My family also HATES my fiancé and father of my son. They want me to leave him and come live with her. I am a stay at home mom and I'm lucky that I am able to stay with my son. I love my fiancé and know he is not perfect but I would never leave him just cus my family does not accept him. They don't understand how I could stay with him and make drama and trouble cus of it. My mom went on my Facebook messages without my permission and looked at my conversations. She saw a convo between me and my mother in law (who she also hates). Nothing bad was said in it but just talk about how things were going with my family. My mom also hates my mother in law and is mad about that and called me and freaked out screaming at the top of her lungs. Saying things like how could I talk to her about our family, how could I stay with my fiancé, how could I hate my brother and how could I do this to her. She thinks I tend to go towards my finances family and is very jealous of them. My sisters are always ganging up on me when my mom gets like. I'm not sure what I should do. I need some advice on what I should do? I'm sick of their drama should I just walk away from them?