Bullied because she is bisexual
Jodi - posted on 06/19/2016
Try this website for some resources and support for your granddaughter.
It will be up to her who she tells and when. Has she not told her mother because she feels she may not be supported? This is a very difficult time in her life, and the resources on the above website will help you support her through it. It is important to take care of her mental health, and her ability to acknowledge her feelings to you is a big step in the right direction to gaining support from those she loves.
Judie - posted on 06/19/2016
Thanks for replying,Jodie. I live in Indianapolis, IN, USA. My granddaughter, Bri who is 13, attempted suicide a week ago. She was at my house and took some of my medications. I heard her cying during the night and got up to talk to her and she told me she took some of my pills. I took her to the ER and luckily the doctors determined that what she had taken you;d not be life threatening. However, her other grandparents (her guardians) placed her at a rehab counseling center for teens. She was discharged last night. I picked her up and took her to her home. I stayed for a while wanting her to talk with me or her mom who lives with her and her two sisters. I was in her room helping Bri put away her clothes. She asked me to take her to the mall to buy some clothes because her Papa had left some money for this purpose. While she was in rehab, her Nana had taken her sisters to buy outfits. Anyway, Bri asked that I would not judge the clothes she picked out. I asked what she meant buy that. She said she did not want to buy girlie things. I don't remember what she said, but it made me ask her 'Are you attracted to girls?' Bri said she was bi (bisexual) that she was attracted to both boys and girls. I did not know what to say. I knew I needed to make her know that it was okay to feel that way and I did not disapprove. I asked her if that was the issue at school why she had felt bullied. She finally admitted to me that that was part of it. She said she has not told her mom or Nana and Papa that she felt this way. Should I encourage her to talk to them? I know I can not break her confidence with me and go to them. She is only 13 and has not experienced sexual relations yet. Not even kissing. But she still feels these attractions to girls. Bri is a beautiful girl. I don't understand why she thinks differently. She spend hours doing her makeup and hair. Comes out even more beautiful!
I knew she was being bullied at school. She finished the school year with an online program that her school made available to her. She was missing so much school I think because of stress. She told me she was being bullied, hated herself, was ugly, gross, etc. I tried to get her to talk but was not successful.
I am rambling. I apologize. What can I say or do to help her feel like the happy teen she should be?
Jodi - posted on 06/19/2016
Who is "she"? How old is "she"? And where in the world do you live?
Here in Australia, we have a Safe Schools program for LGBTI and this provides education in schools for LGBTI issues. Because of the prevalence (10-15%) of these issues, it is really important for schools (teachers, support workers, students) to be informed and accepting.
I ask the questions above because you weren't very specific with what was actually happening.
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