Bullying

Christina - posted on 01/28/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 12 year old daughter attends a private Christian school..and has been there for 4 years now. Well they let a family of girls into the school that has been kicked out of many other schools for their attitude and misbehaving attitude. Now my daughter is being bullied by one of them. My daughter is 1 of 4 that attend the school that belong to myself. She is the only non aggressive child I have. She won't stand up to people she is afraid of what they will think about her. She wants everyone to like her and is liked by everyone...except this one trouble making child. I don't know if she is jealous that my daughter is liked or what...but I have taken every step I know to stop the bullying. I have talked to my daughter, the Rev of the school, the teachers, I go up there everyday and monitor her behavior during classes and even contacted law enforcement. All with no success. My daughter has looked up disturbing things on Google. ( she has a phone and I monitor it daily) I have shown these to the Rev and law enforcement..and all I got was maybe she has other issues and this was just the icing on the cake...well me and all of my children have a really good relationship and they know I am always there no matter what it is...they will not get punished for things as long as they are honest about things....unless they commit murder or something....I am so frustrated I just want to scream and take matters into my own hands but know that will only end very bad. I need help and have no one else I can turn to? I have prayed and talked to a counseled and just need more guidance. Someone, anyone, PLEASE HELP ME

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Michelle - posted on 01/28/2016

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I would keep at the school until they do something.
Also do what Dove said about the video.

Dove - posted on 01/28/2016

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If you've witnessed it... go to the school and try to witness it again and get it on video. Show the video to the principal and if the school still doesn't take action... show the video to the police and press charges against the other student.

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2016

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I would be having a meeting with the school and getting them to review their anti bullying policy. It sounds like they are stuck a few years behind with this and it needs to be changed.
Students need to be able to tell a teacher what is happening and know that it will be looked into.
I don't believe that it should be ignored unless a teacher sees it happening as the other girl will make sure she does it when a teacher isn't around. Is she doing it to other children? Maybe talk to other Mothers and get together on this one.
The school needs to step up and listen to the children, especially if there are other children who witness it.

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Christina - posted on 01/28/2016

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I am going to do that tomorrow. Will let you know after. Thanks Michelle and Dove! Any and all help is appreciated

Christina - posted on 01/28/2016

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That's the sad thing. Yes I have and let's just say the Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Only difference is....I don't take crap from anyone....but yet I won't drop down to their level either.

Christina - posted on 01/28/2016

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That is one of my hurdles I am trying to get over...I have had meetings with the school 3 times this week alone. We went over the handbook about bullying and all. He assured me he would take care it...and yet it happened again today. I have talked with other moms there and they agree with me. That is why I contacted law enforcement today. And what shocked me the most was the fact the officer told me there really isn't much that can be done leagally! Which really upset me because I know there are....but he obviously wasn't willing to help. He just tells me they aren't going to go over and be the bad guy to the girl...( Which kinda tells me he must have been a bully in school himself) I am stuck. My child expects me to protect her and I will do anything it takes.

Christina - posted on 01/28/2016

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The other child pushes her up against lockers and laughs saying oops didn't know you were there, snickers at her during PE and at lunch, makes it a point to belittle her in front of other students, and when my daughter is talking to her friends about anything at all, the child shoves her and says things like what did you just say? And it doesn't matter what my daughter is saying that gives her no right to place hands on her. And it isn't that the school doesn't care.....they only have 65 students and 5 teachers they can't witness every incident and they say because they didn't see it their isn't much they can do...even tho other students have witnessed it and come forward. They say until it is seen by a teacher they can't move forward that it is all he said she said until then. I have been there and without the student knowing I was there saw it first hand...but what I say doesn't count because I am just the mother. My daughter went from a straight A student to a C student over the last quarter due to this.

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2016

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How is the other child bullying your child?
What is actually happening?
Just saying your child is being bullied doesn't help us since the school doesn't seem to think it's much.

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