Bullying

Alisha - posted on 09/03/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I am having problems with the principal trying to undermine me on defending my son because of a little boy down the street has started back picking with my son and encouraging other children to do so. She doesn't acknowledge that as a part off bullying.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/04/2014

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There is a chain of command in place to handle situations just such as these.

Document all contacts. Contact the transportation supervisor and advise them of your concerns. Outline a plan for the bus rides that will minimize contact, and request that the other student's parents be notified of unsatisfactory behaviour. Most school systems have a system in place of systematic discipline on the bus, and the driver has to be the one documenting and administering the prescribed actions.

Continue to pursue with transportation director, and if it's still not being resolved, the next step is the district admins, not the principal.

Chet - posted on 09/04/2014

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It's completely reasonable to work the chain of command as Shawnn suggested, but I would also consider removing my kids from the bus.

If you can drive your kids, walk them, take them on public transit, start a car pool if there's interest, or explore the cost of a standing order with a cab company (which can be a lot cheaper than a regular taxi tare) then it might be worth it.

School bus issues are notorious for dragging on, and not being dealt with until something really serious happens. Bus drivers are trained and hired to operate the vehicle, not to manage 30, 50 or 70 kids. Some schools have dedicated bus supervisors, but many don't get them until things get really out of control.

This isn't to say that you should drop the issue completely, but if the bus is not a safe place for your kids to be I would get them off the bus until you're confident that they will be safe.

Again, it's completely reasonable to work your way through the process that exists if you're comfortable doing that and you don't feel your son is suffering hugely... but whenever I hear stories about kids suffering on the bus for years I wonder why parents let it go on for so long.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/03/2014

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How are you 'defending' him, or teaching him to defend himself? does your method escalate towards violence?

If the child is picking on your kid off school grounds, the principal has nothing to do with it anyway, so I'm presuming that it's escalating on school grounds as well, in which case, there are methods and procedures in place that you need to follow.

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Alisha - posted on 09/05/2014

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I have followed all of the procedures as far as the transportation supervisor, executive director over the elementary school, and the superintendent. I have even suggested removing my boys off the bus and put on another but there isn't another bus for that route. Unfortunately, I am only able to drop them off but not pick up but I am working on something else. I will not cease until justice is serve. Thank you all for your input and support, it is very helpful and encouraging! I will update later thanks again!

Alisha - posted on 09/04/2014

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Hi, it is taking place on the bus. I attended a parent conference yesterday and the principal, assistant principal, and the child's mother were upholding him in his wrong and were not acknowledging the fact that he is the ring leader. This is third year we have been addressing this with the parents. My husband and I have talked with them and had our son and their son to apologize but it has not resolved anything. The child cussed me out the other day and I told the parent but ended up having to contact the police. He has no respect for anyone. I asked the bus driver to move my boys to the front and she has been keeping a watch over them but the little boy cusses her out. So, I encourage my children often on not responding to what people say just pray and try to ignore and if you can't tell someone in leadership position at the school. We have taught our children to not be quick to fight because all things are not resolve in the way.

Dove - posted on 09/03/2014

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Ditto Shawnn. What exactly are you doing and where is this bullying taking place?

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