Bullying Allowed by Students, Teachers and even President of School!!

Tomasa - posted on 10/22/2013 ( 7 moms have responded )

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In a school where anti-bullying and "no place for hate" certification was just approved, my daughter Desirree Nieves a sophomore at Mercy Vocational Catholic High School was not only bullied by students but also by a teacher and a nun!

Desirree encountered many racial comments in front of teachers who never corrected the behavior, and on more than one occasion the teacher would racially stereotype her.

Freshman year she was bullied by a sophomore, I spoke to the vice principal many times to try and rectify the situation. I asked for a meeting with the student and parents but was never granted that. I asked them To dismiss the child bullying my daughter because we were in fear for her safety (she was known for fighting various times; which the vice principal confirmed), however all I got was a contract the other student supposedly signed saying she would leave my daughter alone. I never saw this document! The student continues to harass my daughter.

This year, has been no different. Not only has she continued to harass and bully her but her locker was placed very close to my child's locker where every morning she would stand with her friends and stare at my daughter and try to intimidate her. She also gets on the same bus where the harassment continues although part of the supposed contract she was to take a different bus.

As if that isn't enough, my daughter was mocked and yelled at by a Math teacher because she didn't feel well. This same Math teacher humiliated Desirree in front of her peers when she explained to the teacher she did not understand the work, telling her if she is in first track she should know the work! Desirree asked for tutoring and she refused to tutor my daughter because she "did not have time" and never followed up with her or gave her a day where she could tutor her. although she does tutor other students! I called the school regarding both situations with this teacher and was told that Desirree often asks to go to the restroom and that is why she yelled at her. Desirree is an A-B student, has never been suspended or has any behavioral problems.

Most disturbing, yesterday October 21, 2013 my daughter called me crying because a Sister who she has been saying she believes does not like her, singled my daughter out accusing her of causing a disturbance and as she approached her from the back jabbed her hands very hard into my daughters back! Not only did the nun not reprimand those who actually were causing the disturbance but she followed my daughter into another room accusing her of something she did not do nor did the Sister witness. Two students saw when the Sister jabbed my daughter!

Today, October 22, 2013 I went to the school to speak to the Principal regarding the physical harassment and the bullying I feel has not been addressed and as a matter of fact has escalated , but was told the Principal was not in, nor was the President of the school which is the nun who jabbed my daughter!! I said I would speak to the Vice Principal and when I went into the office he immediately cut me off and told me he "heard" what happened and that he knows the Sister for a long time and called Desirree a liar. He did not allow me to express my concern! He was yelling at me, accusing me of being irrational, and unsatisfied! He then KICKED ME OUT! I asked for my daughter and he YELLED to go and take my daughter with me!

These people have allowed bullying by students, teachers and the President of the school. This is a Catholic school who prides themselves in being Merciful and compassionate but they are none of these things!! Something needs to be done, people need to know because they have all stuck together and have made me, a concerned parent, out to be the bad guy.

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Queen Of My - posted on 10/24/2013

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The girls at my elementary school were huge bullies. The went as far as sendding death threats to my little sister at our home. I was constantly called a slut and a whore (although I never even had a boyfriend or became sexually active until after highschool). Then I was called a lesbian. I remember one time an entire grade 8 classroom rushed me in my grade 7 classroom and circled me and pushed me around because of a rediculous romour a girl though I started (which I didn't) and the teacher did nothing! NOTHING!!! the same teacher threw chalk at a childs head and a chair at another child. I was told I was ugly, a lesbian, I was followed home from school, had a huge black eye from an ice ball being launched at my face, my parents car got keyed - and my parents did nothing! They talked to the principal one or twice but ultimately blamed me or accused me of lying. Three years later, that teacher was fired for inappropriate behavior towards a student. I never even got an apology from my parents.

I am telling you this because I think it is great how much you are standing behind your child. I have mixed feelings about taking her out of the school - there are pros and cons - but ultimately the most important lesson here is that your daughter knows you have her back and will do anything for her! Good for you :)

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Tomasa - posted on 10/24/2013

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Queen of my castle, I'm so sorry you had to go through that and that you didn't have the support you deserved and needed!! I hope that you have come out of that situation a stronger person. It is important to remember that although it hurts when people bully you, you are the only one that can give them the power to be superior. They are not superior to you or anyone, you are the creator of your own destiny and therefore whatever hey say or call you does not define who you are ... Ever!

Thank you for your support. My children mean so much to me and I will go to the ends of the earth for them!

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Although I don't have any advice for you I wanted to comment. That's really bad that you she had to transform into a different school without resolving the issues. I hope she will have a better experience in the new one. At my kids' school, which is a Christian school as well, they are making a lot of changes to stop bullying. I am sure non of this would happen there. It is not acceptable.

Sunitha - posted on 10/22/2013

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your affection more i meant for she would have gone through tough time at her school i know you are close but make sure you divert her from her old memories make her strong and teach her to fight back with such persons, and also engage her in some musical things make her forget her past make her strong person. with good thoughts

Tomasa - posted on 10/22/2013

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I took her out the school today, she begins a new school on Monday. I do not understand what you mean when you say she needs more of my affection. My daughter and I are extremely close, she considers me her best friend!

Sunitha - posted on 10/22/2013

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mam, change the school, do not send her to a place where she is not comfortable, and please please enroll her to a place which is a closer to you. she needs your affection more and change her school first, then raise a complaint to a court

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