Bullying at School

Anita - posted on 05/13/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi, I'm a 13 y/o Grade 7 girl and I know that I'm probably not supposed to be on this site at all since it's for mothers/parents/guardians. I live in the lower mainland of BC, Canada where it's mostly Asians on the east side of my city. There are these girls in my grade who bully me, taunt me, and hurt me. I ignore their comments easily, and no contact w/ them on the phone or social media but I got into two physical fights back in 6th grade. Let me start off. K-7 here is STILL elementary - it's very uncommon for those who live in other parts of Canada or in the USA. I'm actually a bit autistic, my grammar is good, but THAT is the reason why kids bully me. Back in Grade 6, the SSW assistant worker despised me but he is now suspended due to issues, I guess. Let's name the girls Girl 1, Girl 2, and Girl 3. They always try getting me in trouble and telling on me without a reason. Especially in the classroom, they discovered makeup in the Grade 6 year and asks me why I wear nothing but light lip colors and whatever color of nail polish I feel like. I tell them that my mom would never let me go out with bright red lipstick and tons of makeup to school or anywhere. I have no friends at school. I can't get my mom to complain to the school because my family doesn't speak English. I'm worried to especially bother her with all these problems at school because my relatives and parents have their "grown-up issues". I'll be graduating to high school in 1-and-a-half months in June. I just turned 13 as a seventh grader...still, I think I can take it for 1 more month. I get along great with people outside of school. It's like I hate school so much that I have trouble getting up but Im usually not late for school.

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Anita - posted on 05/15/2015

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Thank you. Sorry for the late reply.
Kids have tried to influence me into things ... like how lucky I am to have a family who don't understand English so I can borrow inappropriate books from the library, do whatever I want online including have so many social media sites, watch inappropriate music videos of celebrities being "naked" such as Nicki Minaj and Miley Cyrus because my parents OBVIOUSLY don't know anything about the Internet and they can't tell what I'm doing online if they don't understand it and that I can just make up some lies if they ever get concerned and ask.
I did talk to my parents. They are having a meeting with the teacher later on ...

Raye - posted on 05/14/2015

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Yes, parents have "grown up things" to worry about... and one of those things is their children. You should be able to speak to your parents about your feelings and that you are having trouble with these other girls. If you only have one more month, maybe you are strong enough to wait it out. If you really can ignore it and they see that it's not bothering you anymore, then maybe they'll stop. But you never know what will happen next school year. You should talk to your parents or school guidance counselor about how to handle the bullies if it gets to be too much (BEFORE it goes as far as physical fights).

I was bullied in school too. From 2nd grade up through around 11th grade, there were people that would single me out to pick on me. Some kids are just jerks. The fact that you're Autistic should not be reason to bully you. You seem like a very well spoken kid. You do not need to wear makeup or dress a certain way or any of that stuff just to fit in. You don't want to be like those brats anyway. Be your own person. You will find friends that like you for you.

Bridgette - posted on 05/13/2015

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Hey. I'm not a parent either, because I'm only a few days away from turning 21 and I'm really hoping to be a mom one day. I've been in your shoes and I know exactly what you're going through. I'm gonna try to help you out. I was in the 4th grade when I began getting bullied by three girls in my class who pretended to be my friend and they tried to change me, but they'd just bully me while manipulating me into believing they were my friends. Well, to make a long story short, I wasn't rescued from being bullied when I started middle school in the 5th grade and the teachers stopped it. Anyways, you should tell your mom and they should know understand what you're going through is painful. I'm sure it wouldn't bother her to take a minute to tell her about how you're being bullied. I'd talk to one of your teachers or the principal in private to tell them about what's going on if I were you, then maybe they can work something out to translate the English into the language your mom speaks.

I hope I helped.

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