Bullying Emergency. What do I do?

Fawn - posted on 09/30/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 7 year old son has been bullied by a boy for over a year now and it started with just not playing with him and pushing him in the mud. After that I started noticing how my sons knees were always ripped out of his jeans and he didn't know why I though tsomething was going on. This year my son is in a classroom with only a few kids he knows and the bully is not in his class. The classroom next door has the bully in it and the two classrooms are always together exp.; recess, lunch, and any group activity... I got a call on Friday from the school nurse saying my son had fallen and I needed to take him to the emergency room because she is pretty sure he broke his arm. I picked my son up and the nurse informed me on how he told her he tripped. I asked my son when the nurse went to get him some tylenol what really happened and he informed me on how the same boy was chasing him and pushed him and that is how my son broke his arm. I asked my son if he tried to tell anyone and why he didn't tell the nurse the truth and it was because he was both scared and he didn't want the little boy to be angry at him since my son has tried for over a year to be friends with this boy. My son tried to tell a montior right after if happened and the bully stood in front of my son and said my son fell and he helped him. I called the principal and he said that he had talked to the bully and he denied ever even seeing my son that day. The principal is going to have a sit down with both of them tomorrow and discuss what happened. The emergency room confirmd my sons arm is broken and he will need a cast, a brace, and several weeks of therapy so regain use of it. I took my son to the police department and had him file a report so it is on file. The principal told me that he knew that the little boy was bullying my son last year and didn't feel the need to do anything about it. He said that he decided to put them into seperate classrooms and now my son is left with a broken arm because of the schools lazy behavior toward a serious situation. I left the superintendant a message, but it is such a small school I am worried about him treating it the same way. What should I do because I cannot help but think that this will continue to happen to my son. Please Help

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Samantha - posted on 09/30/2012

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Then as I said, don't give up. Push it. Tell him that your child's arm is broken because of this boy, and keep the police involved if needed. Talk to the teachers in the school, perhaps you will find one or two on your side for more support.

Samantha - posted on 09/30/2012

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I think you have taken all of the right steps so far. Don't give up. Follow up with the principal, superintendant, and police.

Have you tried going to the boy's parents? This kind of stuff starts at home. This boy might not have enough attention, might be getting abused, etc. See if the parents will do anything. Maybe set up a meeting with you, the boys parents, and the principal (seeing as he knows the bullying has been going on)

Keep us posted.

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Bobbie - posted on 09/30/2012

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The school has very little power to work with a bully one on one unless there are complaints. The children that keep it to themselves and fear their bully are more likely to remain a victim. The bullying situation will take a turn for the better when your son and you get on the same page and he no longer hides the facts from you. (as he did last year with the torn pants)

You son will require an extract boost of confidence after a full year of bullying has already taken place. He has gotten comfortable in his role of suffering in silence. As well the bully has gotten comfortable in his role of being such a presents that your son won't cross him.

Here is some info I found on the website about 5 things you need to know about bullying



#4Seek Help to Stop Bullies



Victims of bullies often live life in a terrified state. School or social situations can become a fear-invoking atmosphere as opposed to a safe learning or social environment. Teaching children to be honest and up-front about the behavior is helpful. Informing teachers or other responsible adults around the children is another good way to help promote protection. Teach the victim to stick with trusted friends or to immediately find a teacher or authority figure to help reduce the possibility for harassment. Healthy, assertive, yet peaceful tactics seem to be more effective in dissipating angry attacks.



This is a fantastic website to first read and then go over with your son. Rather than work to get the bully removed or focus on the bully it addresses the attitudes, reactions and skills needed to ward off bullying in the future. It is a trait of some boys to be low key and quiet, such as your son and they well attract bullies through out school if they don't have the tools to stand up to those who attempt it again.

http://www.kidpower.org/library/article/...

User - posted on 09/30/2012

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The principal said he felt there wasn't any need to let the child's parents know unless he feels that there is an issue. He clearly doesn't see that there is a huge issue.

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