Bullying in 1st grade

Kristina - posted on 03/25/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son, age 6, is small for his age and very quiet. We have just figured out that he is being bullied at school by another classmate (of similar size). He says he doesn't feel safe at school and has an upset stomach every day before and during school. I have raised him to use words not fists to communicate and solve problems. He has told the teacher but says the kid targets him even more. MOst of this is NOT occurring in the classroom but in the cafetaria, halls, and recess. I have written the school regarding this and the teacher called me back first chance she had today. The kid in question is already removed from the rest of the class (desk in corner). Anyone else facing this at this young age or have any suggestions? I do NOT want him to have to turn to getting physical with this bully....but others seem to think thats the answer. HELP!!!! He once loved school and now hates going. He is a gifted student and this is heartbreaking to watch.

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Becky - posted on 03/25/2010

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I had the same problem with my daughter when she was in 1st grade. I went to the teacher a few times, didn't help because she wasn't seeing it. So I went and talked to the Principal in person & didn't leave till he told me the plan for each place she was getting bullied by this girl & he spoke to her also. Sometimes a child just knowing the principal is paying attention is enough to make them stop. I believe like you fists aren't the answer, then they are just sinking to their level, plus we are talking about a child that is young. So When they have tried different approaches to get the other child to stop & can't it is our job to stand up for our child, the other kids don't have to see that mom came in to help. No one has to know, but your child will know you will stand up for him when he really needs it!

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Indie - posted on 09/13/2013

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the same thing happened to me but it was last your when I was in 6th grade which is different cause we're older and things are harder and more frightening since we have more freedom into the world. but I do get how your son feels and how you feel. also it still is kinda happening in 7th grade.

Kristina - posted on 03/26/2010

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Thank you. Those are some great ideas. The teacher has implemented some interventions in the classroom and has some ideas about the rest of the places this is occurring. Just waiting to hear from the principal on whether she is on board or not. I sincerely hope she is, because this is something that has to be stopped now before this kid actually hurts someone. I tutor at the school and notice this particular kid is always in trouble. He could be acting out because of things at home, but it is not acceptable to come to school and act out your issues on other kids.

Kelly - posted on 03/25/2010

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At that age adult intervention is important as kids haven't learned many verbal skills yet to deal with it and also don't understand it either. You need to stay on the school about keeping this kid from bullying and they need to supervise him at all times until he displays appropriate behavior without incident. Also we teach Martial arts and we tell the kids to use their words and get help from adults but if anyone EVER lays a hand on them they have a right to defend themselves. They should not allow someone to physically harm themselves in anyway. Role play with your child at home so he can practice what to say and try to help him feel more empowered. Wtih confidence in the staff to protect him and eventually some in himself the stomach aches and stress will disappear. There will always be bullies though his entire life and they always go for the weakest person to attack.

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