Calling babies "sexy"

Tabitha - posted on 08/07/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Does anyone else find it disturbing or a bit WRONG. My mother in law has called my daughter sexy quite a few times. She is very old fashion so I simply say "Silly grandma I am a baby I am CUTE not sexy, Daddy wont let me be sexy till im 30".(Mind you my daughter is 11months) I try to not make a deal of it cause anything I say anyway is wrong no matter what it may be about. Mind you this is the same lady who can not stand me because I WILL NOT let her smoke cigs around my daughter, she thinks its her sons daughter she should be able to do and go where she wants with my daughter. UGH It just bubbles so much animostiy in me. Like WHO says this stuff? You JUST DONT refer to a baby being "sexy" Please advice as to handle it if she says it again, cause I dont know how nice I can be when she practically every time she sees her she says it.

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Tabitha - posted on 08/07/2010

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I agree with you both. As for the cigarettes I did just that, I have had to set boundaries cause she would bold face disrespect me and do it right in her face, that cause on on going dislike and animosity towards me, she says and thinks I treat my family like s**t and its not fair cause she goes off of her disliked judgemental views, I have made it to where she has to come to my house rather than subjecting myself and daughter to the environment that can not be fixed. She thinks I am young and dont know what I am doing with anything and everything. I dont blame her for that its the "old fashion" life style but with the calling my daugter sexy I had not brought it up to her yet cause I sort of feel "choose your battles" wisely in a sense,I just fought her on the health and concern of my daughter being in that invironment so I tried to kep it suttle about the sexy comments but your right Laurel I need to feel comfortable to just straight tell her. When I said what I had said she just ignored us and looked away. thank you so much for your advice and Laurel your perspective is much appreciated I wish I could look at the situation like you do but I think in time learning to will be my key. Just wish thing could be like they should be.

Kristene - posted on 08/07/2010

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well i have one thing to say to you sweety babies are cute not sexy to much of a word for babies not sound right at all as for her thinking the child is jus his remind her of the 9 months she had to carry her own and what it was like to give birth and let her know if you want to have anything to do with her just respect you as a mother and she will get the same in return

Laurel - posted on 08/07/2010

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Sounds like it's less about calling the baby sexy, and more about the dynamics between you and your MIL. I totally get it - been there. You need for her to respect your decisions as a mom, and she needs you to feel secure enough with her so that her relationship with her new grandbaby won't be threatened. You are both protecting your "territory" in different ways. My advice is to sit down with her and your husband and get it ALL out in the open, find an understanding about the things that you feel are the most important (the smoking around the baby comes to mind.) You both need to do this in front of your husband and your husband needs to be man enough to stand WITH YOU. You should also feel free to just ask her to STOP calling the baby sexy because whether or not it's right, it makes you very uncomfortable. She knows this, and is pushing your buttons. If she can't come to a point where she can respect your decisions for your child, you may need to consider drawing some boundaries and developing some "exit strategies" with your husband. I had to do this with my husband, and it was not long before my (now former) MIL caught on.
Best of luck and don't back down!

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Yolanda - posted on 01/10/2013

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The definition of sexy is to be sexually attractive. Children should NEVER be consider, referred to or called "sexy"!!

Kirsty - posted on 08/09/2010

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i hate it!! 1 of my friends used to always call my daughter sexy, so my daughter started copying and started calling other children sexy. I spoke with my friend and she stopped it, but it is awful. Babies and children r not not not sexy in anyway, they r cuddly bundles that r cute and lovely, but NOT SEXY!!!!!

Firebird - posted on 08/08/2010

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A former friend of mine once called my daughter (who was a week old at the time) sexy. I let loose on her so bad it was 3 years before that person said the word around me again. (I even accused her of being a pedophile. I was both disgusted and furious.) Infants and children ARE NOT SEXY! End of story.

Julie - posted on 08/08/2010

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be blunt and shocking Pedophiles may find a baby sexy however normal people do not!

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