Calling Each other B*tches

Sarah - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I'm curious on other people's point of view on this. It really bothers me when I hear women/girls calling each other words like b*tch, skank, ho, etc. in a slang or term of endearment sort of way. I understand that this may becoming more of a norm, but really, how can anyone think this is a compliment? We should be calling our friends their name, or lady, "my friend," or really any other term of endearment. It just seems that when we make it acceptable or the norm to use such derogatory language that it isn't a compliment at all, but rather a put down to our entire gender. If we continue to normalize this kind of speech, we allow men to do the same. Please remember to respect yourself and your friends. Don't allow this language creep to its way into your daily speech in how you refer to your friends and yourself. Thanks all!

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Sarah - posted on 04/18/2012

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I totally get where you're coming from Johnny, but I also feel that if we continue to use any of those words (including the ones you mentioned) don't take away the power of the words, only keep them in our vocabulary. Maybe I'm a bit old fashioned, but I'd love to see us go back to a world where a bitch was a female dog and gay meant happy (among others).

Johnny - posted on 04/18/2012

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It is not something I like or terms that I would use to refer to my friends. It's definitely not my style and I agree with your reasons for disliking it. However, I think it may be something that is done in certain social sub-cultures and may be for some women a way of regaining control and meaning over those terms. Taking away their power and punch. Sometimes people choose to use words that are considered derogatory but in a positive way with the intention of making them less powerful as words. Similar to gay people using the terms faggot or queer to address each other or some black people using the N word for each other. Whether we agree or not, the intention for some may be to take those words back from men who would use them to hurt and demean.

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