calling my 2yr old daughter fat.

Lisa - posted on 03/20/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )




my x and his family call my 2yr old fat, and leaves her out of a lot of things like, making his son, my older daughter and himself toast, and not for his youngest daughter.


Ashley - posted on 03/21/2011




I have a two year old and if her father ever called her fat or was mean like that I would give her ice cream send her out of the room and throw his food away and then explain how that makes a little girl feel. He is destroying who she is suppose to become and he needs to understand, SHE IS TWO!!! This has got me so angry reading, I would not be able to see the hurt in my little girls face from something like this and I think you should but a stop to it right away.

Sharon - posted on 03/20/2011




If my husband looked at my child and called him or her fat and then with held food, he'd be crying in soprano while frantically looking for his balls for reattachment.

You need to pursue legal options to keep him away from her. With holding food from a child is dangerous.

Yeah, he needs to meet a steak knife in the dark.

Jaimie - posted on 03/21/2011




My heart broke when I read this... my daughter will be 3 in May, and she is HEALTHY! This is a growing stage, mentally and physically, and NO ONE should be denying her any type of food unless it is a cookie or candy, or in the family of sweets, you get what I'm saying. Toast (bread) has nutrients in it, just don't load it up with butter! My point is that when I was my daughters age I was more horizontal than vertical but grew out of it by the age of 4( I think, doesn't matter, I grew out of it and that's obviously what he isn't understanding). She is ONLY 2!! They are like chipmunks storing everything and it will all be put to good use when the growth spurt hits! Give her a break, she doesn't even understand the material world yet and doesn't need to! Like I said it is a stage in life where you and they may feel that the growing has stopped, but it is just the beginning. Keep your head up for her, stay strong for her, and let your daughter know everyday that she is beautiful! Father or what not that "man" is WRONG WRONG WRONG for ever putting those thoughts into a toddler!! My blessings to you and your baby girl :)

Pia - posted on 03/20/2011




Dick. Head. Gee, I wonder why so many people have low self-esteem and eating disorders. I am just disgusted. Truly disgusted. You need to get his incredibly negative influence away from her. It isn't healthy.

Stifler's - posted on 03/20/2011




What a dickhead. Sorry. 2 year olds aren't fat he's just an arsehole.


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Sarah - posted on 03/22/2011




My ex did this to my daughter, too. She's not fat, she had some baby chub, but either way, it's not ok! Calling even a small child fat can leave her with body issues for the rest of her life. Anorevia, bulimia, even constant dieting will deny her of the nutrients she needs, cause tooth decay, illness, and death. My ex didn't understand this and laughed at me when I brought it up. I asked him to check out some websites ifhe didn't believe me. I don't know if he ever did, or not, but the teasing stopped. I hope your situation works out easily. If not, find activities that will boost her self esteem, music, sports, etc; something she can do well or just enjoy! Good luck!

Renae - posted on 03/22/2011




Speechless! ASSHOLE is the only thing I can think to say. Dont let her go there and if you have to, maybe send her with a lunch box, 3 meals and 2 snacks and write down the times he is to feed/offer it to her.

God that whole toast thing is just mean.

Doreen - posted on 03/22/2011




Try your best to rescue her from that situation - she isn't able to defend herself yet and will look up to someone that can. If you can't run through the legal system - do try and use your "special" powers to get her out of it. Ask to spend special time with her while the other kids are with him. Your ex is also setting a very bad example infront of the other kids. Poor baby! Things like this make me want to cry - it is these little things in life that cause the main cracks. She deserves to be protected against that. AND just so by the way - all my kids were heavy babies up to about 4 yrs. and then when they started stretching they lost it all. I too, had such round cheeks as a toddler - I was confused for being chinese but once I reached school I have never had a weight problem and I am now 36. Stupid Bullies!!! Grrrr I hate it when grown up's are throw up's.

Lisa - posted on 03/22/2011




i would like to say a very big thank you to you all for your help and support, it has helped a lot, and i am going to citizens advice to see what they say. x

Ginny - posted on 03/21/2011




Grrr this just makes me mad, how could they something like that! I'm so sorry...they are way out of line!

Louise - posted on 03/21/2011




Dose he blame the baby for your break up? Is he venting his anger on her. A lot of man tend to shy away from toddlers with the complaint that they can't do much. Well tough she is his daughter and he will have to adapt to include her. If he continues to push her away she will resent him and give him one hell of a time which you will have to pick the tail end up of. Talk to him and express your concerns and then monitor the situation, if it does not improve then ask your daughter if she wants to stay with you instead. If she says no then you know she is dealing with the situation in her own way. Bless her I hope for her sake that this bloke pulls his finger out and steps up to the mark before he does to much damage.

Firebird - posted on 03/21/2011




He's lucky he isn't my ex. I'd make him wish he were dead. I agree with the majority, go through the legal channels to keep your daughter away from him.

Stephaneg1979 - posted on 03/20/2011




:( thats just so sad. what a jerk. I'm so sorry you're beautiful babygirl has to deal with that. and so young too.

Katherine - posted on 03/20/2011




Obviously he needs to seriously grow up.
Get full custody and rights. That's abuse.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/20/2011




I want to cry just reading this...she's 2..this is so cruel
She is just a baby. It is one thing to kill her dreams and emotional well being..but to not feed the baby??
I keep picturing my 2 year old looking up at me wondering why she isn't getting what everyone else has. so wrong wrong

Jennifer - posted on 03/20/2011




He definately is out of line. My father (a man who was by no means skinny himself) used to call me fat while I was growing up. It was something that was always in the back of my mind when I got older, and I had a lot of self esteem issues because of it. I would definately be talking to her doctor about the mental abuse (because yes it is mental abuse) and what it can do to her mentally, and talk to a lawyer about what you can do to get her away from that situation.

Jeannette - posted on 03/20/2011




I would talk to him about that cause that can hurt her self esteem. He cant leave her out of everything like that. Or deny her food when she is hungry. and if nothing changes i wouldn't let her go over there and stay the night. That is uncalled for.

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