Can a father be fined for not picking up child for his visitation?

Tina - posted on 01/03/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My spouse and I both work hectic schedules. We have a 3 yr old son and he has a daughter from before us. His daughters mother has said she would fine him for not picking up his daughter for his weekend. Alot of times he works the weekends and I am left to take care of errands and to care for some family issues I will not mention. In short we are not ALWAYS able to pick up his daughter. Can she really fine him? Also he has been through the attorney generals office and currently pays child support.

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Jodi - posted on 01/03/2014

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It's not okay for either of them to do it.

I doubt he can be fined. However, if the court orders require him to pick her up (it depends on the orders) he could be held in contempt and that could result in consequences such as a fine.

Jodi - posted on 01/03/2014

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It depends what the court orders say about his visitation. Fined? Not likely (although I don't know the laws where you live). Held in contempt? Maybe. However, if he has specified visitation, it is quite irresponsible of him not to make it happen. I understand your schedule is hectic, but children have to be a priority. This is still his child. Would he be pissed off if suddenly the mother wouldn't allow him the visitation? Of course he would. So she has the right to be annoyed when he doesn't pick up his daughter.

Jodi - posted on 01/03/2014

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Ok, let's say this child lived with you full time and you had "circumstances"? It doesn't quite cut it, does it? I'm sorry, but how do you know the child's mother didn't already have plans and now has to rearrange them because he didn't pick the child up. I don't think it is unreasonable of her to expect that when it is his visitation he will be reliable. The other thing to remember is that when he isn't picking his daughter up, he is letting her down. Do you know what that does to a child? Have you ever had to look that child in the face and tell that child that daddy isn't coming today?

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Tina - posted on 01/03/2014

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Soooo what your saying is its ok for her to do it but not him? He does let her know if he cannot make it and yes I grew up with a father who rarely picked us up and would promise to come and not show. I saw the disappointment my brothers felt it never bothered me as much but yes I've seen it and lived it. But that is not what I asked I asked if he could actually be fined. I don't see how it's fair for her to have circumstances but if he does he's irresponsible?

Tina - posted on 01/03/2014

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I do understand this is priority but there have been many times he texted to get his daughter with no response or she would say "she's not feeling well" or text late that night and say "she's asleep" and he never made it a big deal as he tried to be understanding. So it isn't a one way street and has never been but now when she doesn't get her way she makes threats. Seems unfair to me as we all have circumstances and he works really hard 6 or 7 days a week to provide for his children

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