Can a step fathers discipline (smack) children when the biological father has not given permission but the mother allows it?
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Jodi - posted on 10/23/2012
There is no reason a step father shouldn't be able to handle discipline of children, but IMO, they shouldn't be allowed to raise a hand to them or punish them physically. I am not sure what the law is in QLD with regard to physical discipline, but from my understanding, given it is still permitted there in independent schools (yes, I researched this one earlier this year), I would say it isn't banned as a punishment in the home. So while I don't think ANYONE should be able to hit your husband's children (including him), the law doesn't agree.
Having said that, however, I suspect that if there are court orders through the family court, there could be a provision in those orders that neither parent may use physical punishment of the children at any time. You would need to go to court to have such orders approved, however.
With regard to step parents actually providing discipline (other than physically), this should be permitted, because there will be times where the custodial parent won't be at home or in charge of the children, in which case, they will place the child in the care of another responsible adult (nothing wrong with this). In this case, the responsible adult ALSO happens to be an authority in that particular household, and is therefore in charge of the house rules too. They should be allowed to administer appropriate discipline from time to time to maintain an orderly household.
Miranda - posted on 10/23/2012
Hi Jodi, Thanks for your input. We do follow all these things you have responded with, And here where we live there is no laws regarding smacking children in the home. We choose to not smack, hoping to lead by example. But also have in place consequences should non appropriated behavior be displayed and have had great results from this. I definitely agree the step parent be able to provide discipline and have authority when required and the children know this. (Not psychical). And both my husband and have a general guide line to witch we stick to so we are always both on the same page regarding rules, regulations, and discipline. We actually have them writing out lines relating to the particular behavior that was not appropriate. Old School i know, but this works in our house not to mention helps with there spelling and writing at the same time.
There are no court orders in place between the mother and father at this stage and were hoping it didn't have to come to this, but unfortunately if this continues, We might have to.
Miranda - posted on 10/23/2012
Hi there, the children i am talking about are my husbands children. He has been separated from he's ex partner for some years and it's her new boyfriend that is smacking the children. We have told them this is not acceptable for him to be smacking the girls (Not being there father) and there are other ways to handle situations if need be and more to the point she should be handling the discipline or punishment if they misbehave.
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 10/23/2012
Huh? Is the step father your husband? Then tell him to stop hitting your son. Or if you are the step mom, you should maybe tell your husband the bio father to talk with the lawyers and see where everything stands on these matters.
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