Can any other moms relate or provide input to a toddler that doens't say any words?

Alisha - posted on 09/12/2011 ( 23 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 2. He still really does not say any words. He is in speech therapy which is kind of working out pretty good as far as signing a little bit and getting to interact with other children. Doctor really had no specific answers to why he isn't talking yet. I did have a hearing test done and he did pass so he hears me. For some reason and I told the doctor everything at the last wellchild visit we just recently had about how my son Thomas does not even look at me when I call his name. He won't do things by command such as going to go get something or come here or no. He used to react when I would say no but not he acts like he doens't even hear me say it, that is why I had the hearing checked. But that came back fine. I guess I want some input from any other mothers who know what I am talking about or can even relate.

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April - posted on 09/12/2011

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I'm concerned about the lack of eye contact and the unwillingness to do things by command. It makes me think: Autism.

Sherry - posted on 09/16/2011

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I don't have a similar experience with a two year old but I am thinking he also has trouble communicating his needs and wants. That has to be very frustrating for a child.
When my first granddaughter was 9-12 months old we taught her "baby sign language". Mostly nouns and some feeling words. This really cut down on her temper tantrums and worked very well. I was hoping she would continue liking to learn sign but as she learned to talk she would stop signing. As soon as she could say a word she would no longer make that sign. She also was very shy about signing in front of people who did not know her signs. It worked great for the family members who she lived with and eventually she spoke totally. Now at 7 yrs. old she is again interested in sign language and we are learning some together. She never had any hearing or speech difficulties but it really helped with her being able to express herself. Good luck with your little one. Sherry

Brittany - posted on 09/15/2011

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I have the same problem. My sons doctor at his 2 year well check up figured it might be autism because he was making no eye contact and not responding to being called. iI enrolled him in speech therapy ( which did help with signing) and then i took him out and put him in a christian school who specializes in late talkers. He has been going for 3 months and he plays well, makes eye contact, and even says some words. He is almost 3( on october 31) and he doesnt fully talk but the school says it takes 4-6 months. He does babble alot more than he used to. He went through all the hearing and eye tests and he passed them all. I would suggest putting him in a school setting where they have a curriculum of learning not just a daycare. I hope things turn out well for you. You are not alone

Shelly-Ann - posted on 09/14/2011

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My oldest she has tubes in her ears she has had 3 sets and is chronic to infections...my youngest her hearing is fine but she is in speech as she is now just diagnosed with dyslexia with a severe to moderate in language delay - so in English she is 8 I talk to her in simpler terms and I correct her when she says a word that isn't right...as for your son he has selective hearing ( is it not great :) )...His speech will come children take different stages my oldest refuse to walk until 1 1/2 yrs lol...If your son is seeing a speech pathologist ask them to keep an eye open with your son as they will be able to pick up....Good Luck:)

Rebecca - posted on 09/14/2011

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SPeech therapy. My boy (now 2.5) had about 5 words and a few 'signs' at 2 as well. We've been doing speech therapy for about 3 months now, along with positive reinforcement - essentially, encouraging and acknowledging ANY kind of communication. We're curretnly involved in a 'Hanen Program' - to teach us (the parents) how to communicate better with the child. Aimed at parents with anyone from a simple 'delayed' child, to those with higher-disability children. The idea is that yo umake communication fun, and interact with what the child is interested in - and 'don't say say'...

First point of call, definitely a speechy. they're a GOD send! Good luck

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Julie - posted on 09/16/2011

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I would definitely get a second opinion/evaluation about the possibility of autism, or just to rule it out. Our daughter has a diagnosis after her pediatrician thought "no", and she has definitley benefitted from early intervention. MANY services are available to help your child but not if you don't pursue them. See if there is a "Birth to 3 center" in your area.

Julie - posted on 09/15/2011

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I use to worry about my son's hearing when he was that age but I would say "candy" and he'd come running. I figured he was just ignoring me. I also had the hearing screenings, etc. We started speech therapy when he was 3 and now he's 9 and is fine. Just not as articulate as other kids especially girls. I've come to miss some of the baby-ish words though since he's my only child. My nephew is the same way. Babbles on about everything but I can't make out a word. My mom has to translate Marcus-nese into english lol

Louraine - posted on 09/14/2011

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If you are in WA go to the State Child Development Centre, he sound like autism, and autism is one of the hardest things to diagnose, Unless you son rocks himself silly. there are many form of autism, My son didn't talk till he was 5, and then only as a baby begins to speak. Now does your son make noises for things he wants, like Brrrrm for a car or truck? even if he doesn't it doesn't mean anything, some will some won't. Go onto the autism site and look up autism in children. Now don't panic, Autistic kids have strenghts in area in one form or another, and they grow up to have rather productive lives. My boy would speed through maths and then sit there quietly till all the other kids had finished, and his answers were always right. where as his reading and writing were beyond him. communication was not something he enjoyed so he stayed quiet but did sit with other kids, just didn't talk to them, but had a great sense of humour so was always laughing at what they said. even if he didn't understand what they said, it just had to sound funny???. Tim is 25 years old now and still has his silky cot blanket. As I mentioned, there are many levels of autism. and it not as bad as you may think. so go check out the site and hopefully it may help you. Regards Louraine hugs xo

Torie - posted on 09/14/2011

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My son has been in speech since he was 18 months old he is now 5 years old and sounds much better the process does work but it takes alot of work and patience so just hang in there. I do have to sAy I did not see
Much improvement until about two years ago.

Christine - posted on 09/14/2011

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Both my sons are in Speech keep doing speech. I have a 2 year old boy and 5.

Anna - posted on 09/14/2011

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My soon was doing the same thing and we started using sign language with him and now he is babbling all the time. Signing time dvds are great to use with young kids it doesn't fix everything but it definitely helps

Donna - posted on 09/14/2011

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It almost sounds lihe he is just being a busy two year old and ignoring you when you call him. Does he respond to other noises? If he does then I wouldn't worry about his hearing. If you mke funny noises does he laugh at you? Have you ever had the shape of his palate checked out. My son is now 25 and has a slight speech problem the same as his dad and it's caused by the shape of their palate. Good luck.

Audra - posted on 09/14/2011

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My son is has had 1 yr of speech therapy so far and it has helped a lot. He still will not pick somethings up when I ask, and I think it is because he does not understand. When he understand he seems to do very well. He learns a lot better with pictures. We are struggling with clors right now, everythins is green. At this time a year ago he only had 20 words, now he has close to 200.

Rachael - posted on 09/14/2011

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My oldest was a late talker with a speech impairment. Speech therapy is definitely the route to go. Our therapist helped us create word charts with pictures to show food, activities, part of our routines, etc. This was enacted to help diminish the multitude of tantrums we were experiencing and it did help tremendously. My oldest is still in speech therapy at the age of . She still has a very noticeable speech impairment and is sometimes difficult to understand. BUT the therapy is still working it's magic and she reads at a third grade level. Due to her inability to communicate effectively we questioned the depth of her learning disability and often wondered if something else could be an underlying culprit. After much testing and worrying we have learned that her speech impairment is her only issue. Two is still a very young and tender age. Our pediatrician wouldnt entertain an autism spectrum disorder diagnosis as a possibility until ours was much older. I understand your concern and worry but I would bet your doctor would have alerted you to an autism possibility if he/she thought it was a possible prognosis.

Heather - posted on 09/14/2011

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My son started speech therapy when he was 18 months old because he was only making animal sounds at that time. The speech therapist and the pediatrician agreed that he has developmental apraxia of speech. I did some research on this and found there was a vitamin supplement recommended for this (and other speech delays). He has been taking chewable children's DHA by Nordic Naturals (which I got at my local health food store). The speech therapist could not believe the difference! We did start out slow to get his body used to it (we started with 1 pill for a few days, then 2 pills, then 3, and now he takes all 4 every day). I really can not believe how far he has come along (His speech therapist was also great). He just turned 3 and is still in speech therapy but not we are working on articulation...his vocabulary is huge now!! Good luck and hang in there!! Pretty soon, you will be wondering why you were in such a hurry for him to talk (LOL).

Alisha - posted on 09/13/2011

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See with eye contact when he does look at me he smiles and he can stay focused with me for a bit. The stuff I worry about it when I call out his name he doesnt ever respond and just ignores me that is why I thought it was a hearing issue. Then he passed a hearing test. I will ask about the tympanogram b/c as it was mentioned I do remember the doctor telling me about it but I am unsure if the actual test we did included that. The test she did was putting a plug device in each ear one a time and the device played music and I h ad to try to keep Thomas quiet during it. Is the typmanogram a seperate procedure?

Heather - posted on 09/13/2011

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Hi, my son just turned 2 and I was worried about this also because you hear so much about it these days....major or minor cases. I think if he is hitting milestones and is responding "most" of the time, I wouldn't worry too much. I would have his ears checked again and tell the Dr. you are really concerned and want to rule it out because of his behaviors at home. But it may make you feel better that my son as he got older has responded less to me. He wants to play with toys and gets so distracted but it was confirmed when one time after 4 times of trying to get his attention, I said do you want to sit out? and he looked me right in the face and said "no" and did what I asked. I would try that also. 2 year olds are known for this =) If has always responded less to you and you feel he should be making more eye contact, then I would see if you could talk to him again especially about his ears. And have him explain why he is ruling out autism too, he may be just his development at his pace. Good luck!

Suzanne - posted on 09/13/2011

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even though the hearing test came back ok i would recomend an ear dr. they would be able to see the fluid in the ear canal better. when my son was younger he started having speech problems and the ear dr found fluid in his ears ( glue ear) they put tubes in his ears to drain the fluid and his speech inproved.

Chrissy - posted on 09/13/2011

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We had a similar progblem with our son. The first piece of advice I have is to get tympanograms done on both ears - it measures whether or not the eardrum membrane is vibrating with sound. Our son would babble as a baby but then it stopped one day. It took us awhile to realize that something was wrong but it would take us 3 or 4 times to get his attention and he didn't seem to be able to hear us very well. We started to get speech therapy and the first thing they asked us was if we wanted a hearing test. We said yes just thinking that would rule it out as an issue. The hearing test was inconclusive as it seemed as though he could hear sounds but the big problem was that both of his tympanograms were flat, meaning no sound was getting to the eardrum. An ENT found fluid behind his eardrums from an ear infection almost a year prior to his visit. He had siginificant hearing loss in both ears (could hear some sound but it was like being under water). Our pediatrician missed this on his regular visits every 3 months and the only way we would have known was because of the speech therapy. He was labeled as hearing impaired and has been getting speech therapy ever since. As of July, the fluid in his ears has cleared and he can finally hear us again. He is babbling more and trying to mimic our sounds again and speech therapy has given me some techniques to try to get him to use words and signs to express himself. He is still about a year behind in speech but since April his has about 20 word vocabulary with both speech and signs which is incredible...he had literally no words or signs before we started and every day he learns a new sign or sound that he can replicate. Please Please Please get your ENT to do typmanograms on both his ears just to rule it out...we never thought he had hearing loss.

Alisha - posted on 09/12/2011

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Ok forgot to add he makes lots of noises(screaming, ahh, mmm, hmm) His last well child visit was about a week ago and his doctor does not think autism, and I am already doing everything that I can do for him right now which is speech therapy and soon we are going to add occupational therapy as well. He does look at me when he wants to and we play peek a boo which he loves.

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I have next to NO medical advice for you..but I do have a TON of compassion. My son hears me...he listens, he will do what I ask of him. But he does NOT want to talk. I can sing with him...and he sings back, "eh eh eh eh eh eh"
I read him a story and then ask him to read it to me, and he points at the words and waves his finger and says, "eh eh eh eh eh eh eh eh eh"
He sees a peach in the grocery store and throws out one of his FEW words..."APPLE!" and I stop and pick up the peach and say, "peach"
"apple"
"Peach."
"apple"
"peach."
"apple." You get it.
He will fling that sippy cup at me and tell me, "eh eh eh eh."
that means "my cup is empty."
He tried to climb the towel rack behind the toilet and aaaallll the towels came crashing down on him..he was so scared, he ran to me with his lip all poked out, telling me alll about it..."eh eh eh eh eh" through tears.
Everyone around me keeps telling me not to worry about it...he is a strong willed little boy and he will start talking when he WANTS to.
The same way I had to fight him right around his second birthday..he turned into the most bull headed little man you have EVER met! He wouldn't listen to me...I found myself saying things over and over...until it turned into a chant. "put the blocks in the bucket" "Put the blocks in the bucket. put the blocksinthebucketputtheblocksinthebucket.
It is INCREDIBLY frustrating...but I do want to ease your mind a little that as he got beyond that second birthday...his attitude changed, he became more curious, he is trying to copy letters and numbers he hears...He loves to say the alphabet now..."aye eee eye eee aye" So, I do think he is playing with his voice, he is trying to learn the control it takes to make the words he wants....he's just doing it as fast as HE wants...not as fast as I WANT IT.
It is incredibly frustrating...I find myself saying "son, use your words." so many of HIS tantrums would be eliminated if he could just say, "momma help me."
It's incredibly hard and I feel helpless. I can't MAKE words come out of his mouth. I can relate...completely.
My son is 2 years 5 months.

Nikki - posted on 09/12/2011

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If it were me I would probably get a referral to a developmental pediatrician just to be on the safe side. The thing is if he does have a language or processing delay the earlier you can begin intervention the better chance he would have at developing his skills sooner. It could be nothing, but from what I am hearing in your post it feels like you think it might be something more.

Has anything dramatic happened in his life that he maybe upset about? Sometimes changes can lead to negative behaviours.

Does he say any words? Can he make sounds? Does he have any other unusual behaviours?

Does he ever react when you speak to him, or just sometimes? 2 year olds as a general rule do have difficulty listening and following directions but if he won't respond to his name ever I think it merits further investigation.

All that being said if everything is ok there is one important thing to remember about toddlers. That they do not process information like adults do. It takes their brains longer to process a sentence and they may not process the entire sentence like an adult would. You might say "don't touch the cat" and a toddler could just hear "touch cat"

At home I would work on using non verbal directions with verbal directions. Keep your sentences short and repeat. If you want him to do something, get his attention (eye contact) show him what you want him to do while explaining it verbally then help him to do it. Then praise him a lot when he follows the direction.

Is the speech therapist being much help? he/she should be able to give you some strategies to try at home.

I would also really focus on communicating with him all day everyday. Use everyday experiences to practice language, when you hand him items name them every single time, talk to him at every opportunity. Children learn through repetition so the more you say and do it the more likely they are to learn it. Also singing songs, using puppets and reading stories are really good tools to encourage language development.

Rebekah - posted on 09/12/2011

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I had the same problem with my son hes 4 now and in his second year of speech therapy i bugged him alot Id talk to him all the time ask him questions. It always helped for him to show me what he wanted. For my son I think he was distracted alot by tv, toys, what the other kids were doing and his older siblings did all of talking for him so he figured he didnt have to talk. It helped when i showed him that he had all my attention. He would get easily discouraged when id say what or huh when i couldnt understand him. Speech therapy did wonders for him he's still hard to understand sometimes and he still ignores me alot lol but i just keep saying his name until he says what or get in front of him and say it then im bugging him. Not sure if i was any help or not its frustrating for sure but im sure soon he will be talking like crazy.

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