Can anybody help me. My son is almost a year old, but since birth, he is very restless at night. He still wakes about 7 to 8 times during night, he moves around a lot in his sleep, and i think that is what wakes him......please help, i have tried almost all the medicine i know of

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Fiona - posted on 02/09/2009

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Hiya, I have a 15 month old daughter that did just that. You begin to wonder if you'll ever get a nights sleep. I did three things for her, firstly I wore a really big t-shirt all day and when it came to night time took if off and put it over the materess, this is why it's really big as I like to tuck in the sides to stop her getting caught in them. My smell just seemed to calm her down, it was like being there but not if you get what I mean. Secondly I started using sleeping bags as she moves so much she would never keep covers on and then of course she'd get cold and start crying again. Thirdly offered pacifier, she used it a bit but to be honest think the t-shirt and staying warm was the big winners for her. I still do it!! I only need to get up about once a night now and usually because she has moved so much she has banged her head on the cot bars. (sigh) :-) Hope it helps!!

Samantha - posted on 02/09/2009

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My son was the same - always very restless.  I was also quite an anxious mum, so I opted for co-sleeping for the first year.  He really slept much better when he was near me, and it meant that I didn't have to keep getting out of bed. 



Once you feel strong enough in yourself, you have to try and leave them to it.  After his first birthday, I put my little boy in a cot in his own room.  It only took 3 nights for him to learn to settle himself without waking and crying for me.  I think it was harder for me really, as first night was hell.  But you gotta do it at some point, if you want to get a full night sleep, and it really is beneficial for them to learn to settle themselves. 



We followed a regular bedtime routine.  I still put Lavender essential oil in his bath, to help him relax, then we have stories in his room.  I give him a kiss and a cuddle, tell him it's time to go to sleep then turn off the light and shut the door.  Unless he is sick or very distressed indeed, you don't go back in to him, as they very soon learn ways to get your attention, and if you do it once or twice they will keep tyring it. 



I hope this helps. Good luck. 

Naomi - posted on 02/07/2009

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Hi Anet, I had trouble with my son as well when he was a baby. I ended up taking him to my wonderful chiropractor that deals with babies, he ended up fixing him as his neck was out and it was also causing him to have pains in the tummy as well, he was very gentle as he has children him self. My son is now 9 and we haven't had a restless night since he was a baby. My daughter also had a problem with vomiting every time we went in the car when she was 2 years old, so off I went to the chiropractor again and her neck was out too. A coupe of sessions and she was all better no vomiting in the car any more It's all to do with child birth putting the babies neck out the chiro said. My daughter is now 10 and I havent looked back.



Regards Naomi

Asawari - posted on 02/06/2009

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I had/have the same issue with my 6 1/2 month old son. I had posted on this forum and I used pretty much all the advice i got from here. So, I cannot really pin point which one of it is really working, but I can pass on what all i am now doing. He is pretty much sleeping through the night, and the problem has passed on from sleeping through the night to falling asleep easily. But, like I said i am a work-in-progress, and the way everything is going, I am positive it is just a matter of time.



So what am I doing? Dear husband comes home at 10.30 pm. I know it is really late, but it is important for me and him that the baby gets good night kisses from both his parents..So there is a schedule through out the day. When he wakes up at about 8 am, he gets his breakfast and at 10 am or so milk. He sleeps for a couple of hours - this is his longest nap of the day. He wakes up at about 12.30 and eats his lunch, and milk by 2.30. When he is not doing anything, he is playing vigorously. I give him tummy time a lot - to remove gas from his body and he uses his feet a lot when he is left in the walker. After the milk at about 3.30 he goes into his walker where he moves about th ehouse till he is tired. Which is about 4.30 or so. Then he goes down for a nap for about an hour. Once he is up..I take him out for a walk, some grocery shopping (we walk there) and then the children's park. What is most important here is that he gets the right kind of exercise. I have noticed that if he is sitting inside the stroller, he does not tire out. So he goes with me in the infant carrier....on my shoulders...this ways he is moving his arms and lefts and really tires himself out. We come back home by 7.30 pm or so and he is very hungry and really tired. His actual process of going down for the night starts right here even if it doesnt really seem so. He takes his dinner between 7.30 to 8 and at about 9 a massage with any warm oil. Sometimes a quick bath (if it is not too cold, it is winters right now) and then a bottle around 10. 30 pm or so. What is very important is that he doesnt go down with a bottle. That leaves a lot of gas in their body and will add to the restlessness. After milk we watch the baby einstien dvd, the lullaby video. Mind it - he doesnt sleep, but he calms down A LOT. infact he takes to his pacifier, burps all he wants, farts all he wants and listens to some stories. By that time his father comes home. He gets very excited then and plays til about 11 pm. But by that time he is really tired. He does not go to sleep very easily and I think it is because he over-tires. I am working on it.



When i put him into his bed, i lay down on my bed. His cot is in our room. He knows i am there. He tosses about noiselessly for a long time, as long as an hour. When he starts crying i put my hand on him and it calms him down. As soon as his limbs flop, I take my hand off again and "go away". He does it again, and this routine we perform so many times. After some time, his eyes close and then he tosses and turns from side to side -  A LOT. but he finds a comfortable position at some point, and just stops moving. After this he wakes up at 5. 15 am for his feed. And then sleeps till 8 am.



What is most important is that there is no gas in them when they go down. They are relaxed. I am also playing the lullaby classics cd in the room. it makes him drowsy. i am also using the pacifier. the massage - bath routine. also the cry-it-out method, but i dont let him cry and get agitated. he is changed, not overheated, not too cold, lights are out/dimmed, and most importantly let him toss and turn. But be there to see what position he finally falls asleep in. That will be his most comfortable one and we need to know that. Help him get there early next day and he will sleep through the night.



Most important advice I got from one of the moms here, break the bottle and sleep immediately routine. I trust, that helps a lot.



Let us know if anything worked...hang in there!!



 



 



 

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Renae - posted on 02/09/2009

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does he snore also, maybe you need to see an ENT. my son was the same way ,he had a T and A done and he has slept soundly ever since

Carolyn - posted on 02/09/2009

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I would try the grobag little sleeping bags. My little girl is nearly 4 mths and has been sleeping for 9hrs at night from 7wks. She seems to love it and she looks so cute and cosy whenever she is in it! Good luck

Kelly - posted on 02/09/2009

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My little guy is 5 yrs old and still wakens alot during the night.  We found by putting a sound machine in with him, he sleeps longer.  Homemedic has a good one and offers 6 different channels. 

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2009

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your son mite be more hungry if so just add something more to feeding time also when he feels settled you do to, also i find that if i keep my son awake nearly all day and only let him have about an hour nap then you all get a better nights sleep, i dont let my son go to bed untill i do which is around 10 to 10:30 at night, which my health visors tell me im in the wrong but at the end of the day i need the engry to keep him happy during the day try it it might work for you to

Tracy - posted on 02/07/2009

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is he in a cot or a bed, my son used to wake up a lot at night until i put him in a bed which had more room

Leanne - posted on 02/07/2009

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There is a natural product called "Rescue Remedy" part of the Bach flowers range that is very good for helping restless little ones sleep.

Sam - posted on 02/06/2009

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I found that my son slept better when I put him in a sleeping bag. That way if he kicked the covers off he was still warm. He was waking because he was cold but as soon as I strted using the sleeping bags he slept much better.



I also agree with the chiropractor, give it a go, you have nothing to lose!



Good luck with it, you have been inundated with sugegstions, I hope there isone or two on here that give you and your son some relief.

Denise - posted on 02/06/2009

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My daughter had reflux (sometimes this can be silent), we used to give her 1ml of gaviscon (doctors orders) before each bottle.  Also as she was a quick delivery, i decide to take her to the chiroprator at about three months. Couldn't handle the sleepless nights and days - like you was out of medicines to try. Took her home and she slept for about two hours that afternoon aaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh it was heaven. Might be worth a try.

User - posted on 02/06/2009

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My doctor recommended a book, "Solve your child's sleep problems" by Richard Ferber. I would be concerned about using medicine. My son has night terrors and was also very restless at night. This book helped me and I hope it helps you too!

Jana - posted on 02/06/2009

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Just incase you need another thought...here is mine.  Is he too hot when he sleeps?  My daughter 17 months is like her Dad, she is a liitle bundle of heat when she sleeps.  I have noticed with her, she is very restless at night when she is too warm.  Almost like she is looking for a cool spot in her crib.  My daughter can sleep almost anywhere, but I have noticed that if she is sleeping in a crib that is/has a rubber mat she sweats too much and wakes up.  Our matress cover has a "felt" top, then we have the crib sheet on top and she stays cool.  We were just on vacation and we had to fold a blanket up in the crib sheet to replace the pack-n-play "matress" because it was too hot.  Once we did she sleep all night.  

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I don't know if you have a baby monitor in your room or not but you may want to remove that. You will be able to hear him when he cries but you won't hear all the movement. There are some babies that just move around a lot but if you leave them alone they will just go back to sleep. When my daughter was about 4 months old we put her in her crib and had not monitor because she moved around so much that it kept us up and I thought she was waking up. Once there was no monitor I couldn't hear all the rustling. You will have to let him learn how to put himself back to sleep. If he thinks he will see you in the middle of the night if he wakes up he will wake himself up instead of turning over and going back to sleep. I am sure you have heard that you will need to let him cry. When I did this with my little one, I would go in every 15 min. and tell her that it was bed time and lay her down. But I never picked her up or gave her a bottle. It only took 2 days and she started to sleep all night long. I hope this helps. All babies are different but a typical 1 year old should be sleeping 10-12 hours straight in the night. And the more restless their sleep the worse they sleep so make sure he is on a good schedule during the day as well, especially a good nap schedule.

Kate - posted on 02/06/2009

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Hey what about complete darkness and a fan or a sound machine. It worked with both of my girls.

Emilee - posted on 02/06/2009

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wrap him tight with a blanket tucking in all extremities.  This will help some.  He may not like it at first.  Otherwise he is old enough to fall back asleep.  Use the 5-10-15 minute rule.  Let him cry for 5 min check on him, tuck him back in, let him cry for 10 min check, tuck, let him cry, then 15 min until he falls back asleep. 2-3 consistent nights of this he will be a good sleeper.  Also make sure that there is a nightime/bedtime routine including meal, play and bathtime.  KEEP ALL ROOMS DARK to give him the feel of bed time especially in the middle of the night

Megan - posted on 02/06/2009

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I did the CIO or Ferber method with my daughter when she was 11 months old.  It was really hard to hear her cry....I'm not gonna lie to you.  (My Mom came over to help me and I cried right along with her.)  But after the first couple of nights it was done.  She is now 20 months and is sleeping through the night (mostly).  If she has a cold or teething I have to adjust it but for the most part she does good.  Below is a little synopsis on the Ferber method.  



In a nutshell, Ferber says you can teach your baby to soothe himself to sleep when he's physically and emotionally ready, usually sometime between 4 and 6 months of age. He recommends following a warm, loving and then putting your baby in bed awake and leaving him (even if he cries) for gradually longer periods of time. Putting a child to bed awake, says Ferber, is crucial to successfully teaching him to go to sleep on his own.

Parents are instructed to pat and comfort their baby after each predetermined period of time, but not to pick up or feed their baby. This routine is called "progressive waiting." The suggested waiting time, which Ferber charts in his book, is based on how comfortable you are with the technique, how many days you've been using it, and how many times you've already checked on your child that night.

You can buy his book, "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" at Barnes and Noble (online and in the store).  I really hope that this helps you.  Just take deep breaths and know that this will not hurt your child.  I kept chanting to myself, "she's not hurt, she's just mad",  it got me through.  Good luck!

Layla - posted on 02/06/2009

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;-)  Are you getting enough advice?  In case you do try leaving him to fuss, know that it was the hardest thing I ever did.  You're standing right outside the door thinking he's choking or something :)  You'll probably cry more than he does.  BUT from that moment on I never had another sleeping issue and that happened before the first year.  Cam has never felt the need to sleep with me, he's always been content in his bed, and he prefers to sleep alone so it's worth it if that's what's going on with him.

Angel - posted on 02/06/2009

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Quoting Anet:

Can anybody help me. My son is almost a year old, but since birth, he is very restless at night. He still wakes about 7 to 8 times during night, he moves around a lot in his sleep, and i think that is what wakes him......please help, i have tried almost all the medicine i know of




My daughter is 5 and she still doesn't sleep thru the nite. Yea we're really sleepy. I'm not a fan of meds, have truely thought about it. Have you tried all the lavender lotions, bath gels and givin him a massage at bedtime? I use the lavender linen spray from bath and body works on  her pillow and sheets. Sometimes it helps and sometimes not. I haven't found that miracle cure, sure wish i could. Try all the suggestions they give adults, no caffiene after 10 am, not putting him to bed until he is completly worn out and so on. I wish you the best, and if you find something let me know. 

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What is the opinion of your pediatrician and does he have any other health problems?   Allergies,  etc.  When is his last meal and what was it?

Tammy - posted on 02/06/2009

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I have a 20 mth old with similar problems. He has had a lot of issues with stomach problems and he doesn't sleep well. I have been working with a homeopath and we have helped him through a lot of his other problems. The sleep is the hardest.



For me CIO is not an option.  Yes sometimes he cries when there is nothing wrong but to make a baby cry for hours at a time isn't right to me. My son is very demanding all the time not just at night and has always been restless. Even if he is in bed with me he flops all over.  My other 3 kids slept through the night when they were ready and I truly believe he will too, but the homeopathy is a way to figure out why he isn't sleeping well.

User - posted on 02/06/2009

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Is he on a schedule for bed time? If so try some soft music in his room...give him a bath with some sleepytime johnson and johnson baby wash right before bed time and just let him relax a little. A night light and some music that should calm him down a little. No more medicine he's too young for all that...does he sleep better when you're around if so you might want to get him a teddy bear or something to sleep with.

Rachel - posted on 02/06/2009

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Do you have a night time routine? Since the day my daughter was born (she is now almost a year), every night we do a bath with Johnson's bedtime bath, then a massage with the lotion, a bottle (or the boob!) and then right to bed. Has worked wonders for us! It's worth a try!

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does he have gas, is he hungry, is he cold, is he hot, if hot make sure room is at 65 degrees no higher.

will he sleep in ur arms at night or next to u

if so he probally need security next to him'

let me know

Michelle - posted on 02/06/2009

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Quoting Anet:

Can anybody help me. My son is almost a year old, but since birth, he is very restless at night. He still wakes about 7 to 8 times during night, he moves around a lot in his sleep, and i think that is what wakes him......please help, i have tried almost all the medicine i know of




hi unfortunatly they say kids have restless sleep patterns until there five, but try nice warm bath with some of that johnstons baby bedtime bath stuff, and some warm milk, try nt to leave light on, prehaps a small plug lite, a cuddly and warm blankets to snuggle into, dont go to him unless he really crys, dont put lights on, dont speak to him, and offer him water to drink, be patient and im sure it will pass, if not speak to your health visitor, xxxxx



 

Lisa - posted on 02/06/2009

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Honestly.... you have to employ CIO (Cry It Out). He is at a stage in his life where he totally CAN sleep through the night without you.

If you hear him, allow him to be up moving around w/o you going in there....

Hey may cry, but leave him to self soothe. I have done this with my daughter who will be one year old in less than a week, and my daughter now sleeps from 630 at night til 730 am.

Her bedtime routine (which is an absolute MUST is):

bath
lotion massage
lullabies turned on CD player on sleep mode for 90 minutes
turn on lights on mobile (for nightlight purposes)
bottle
goodnight kisses

She's out cold as soon as she finishes her bottle.

Hope That Helps!

Tina - posted on 02/06/2009

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My son is 11-months-old. He seems to fidget and make noises a lot at night. Every night he seems to wake often, but when I go to him his eyes are still closed and I watch him squirm, wiggle, move and sometimes even sit up and lay back down. His doctor called it "self comfort". He usually will grab a blanket or his bunny, stop and often will go back to sleep on his own, this goes on several times a night. I hope that helps.

Farah - posted on 02/06/2009

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hi...let ur child not sleep for a long time during day,just for 2 hours and let it between 12:00pm and 2:00pm this will let him sleep during night,and if u let him awake all day its better.or make a check at the doctor for his nose and throat.i faced this problem with my daughter since she was newborn,now she is around 5years,i took her to the doctor and he made her an operation for throat and nose and today she is fine and she doesnt wake at night.thanks for GOD.i hope u will find the result.

Jill - posted on 02/06/2009

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Quoting Anet:

Can anybody help me. My son is almost a year old, but since birth, he is very restless at night. He still wakes about 7 to 8 times during night, he moves around a lot in his sleep, and i think that is what wakes him......please help, i have tried almost all the medicine i know of




My son was the same way. He is now four and his sleeping is better. He still wakes up a couple of times during the night ,but nothing like when he was little. I found that he seemed to be lonely in his crib or bed, so his older sister started sleeping with him, that helped. Music in the bedroom also helps and maybe a big teddy.

Amber - posted on 02/06/2009

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My kids all toss and turn but that's natural, it sounds like your little guy has restlessness.  Have you tried to give him a warm bath with some of Johnsons Bedtime bath bubbles and the after his bath use the bedtime lotion and massage  it onto his skin but his legs and arms and belly and back, but the lavendar might help relax his muscles.  Then wrap him up tight when putting him to bed.  I would have to agree with the Grandma, don't drug your child so he'll sleep.   Your a mom now and us sleeping is out of the question.  Maybe if you are  stressing or something else in his environment is making him be restless.  But please don't  result to giving him medicine unless advised by a pediatrition.  Hope this helps.....

Angelina - posted on 02/06/2009

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Hi my name is angelina i had similar issues with my son i bought the johnsons baby lotion and baby wash and would give him a bath right before bed and read a story it helped me a lot. hope it works for you.

Keira - posted on 02/06/2009

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Have you considered non-medicinal options like chiropractic? It is amazing for getting kids sleeping as their spines are in alignment & the body is comfortable.

Bridgette - posted on 02/06/2009

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With my son, I would run in his room every time he made a noise. He was over a year old before he slept through the night. WIth my daughter, I put her in her bed, leave the night light on and walk away. She lays in bed until she falls asleep without making a noise. But if she gets cold, she wakes up. I put her in warm jammies all year long & she sleeps for atleat 10 hours a night. HOpe something helps

Katie - posted on 02/06/2009

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I agree with Laura, and it is hard to do in the begining, but just ignore him. It will only take one or two nights and you will both be much better rested! Left to his own accord, he will figure out how to self sooth.

Suzanne - posted on 02/06/2009

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You are not alone.  My son will be 2 in April and still does not sleep through out the night.  He is a restless sleeper as well.  Even when he is sleeping he is constantly moving around.  We have tried all of the stuff people have recommened to you, except giving him any medication.  The only advise I can give you is be patient.  I just had an other baby four months ago, and work full time.  So, it is trying on me when he gets up.  But my husband and I have learned to accept it and hope that one day it will come he will sleep through the night.  Best of Luck!!!

Laura - posted on 02/06/2009

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I know this may sound harsh but leave him to it. If he's still in a cot you have no worries of him falling out. Both my son and daughter done the same and I got fed up with running up and down the stairs every time they made a noise. Kids are going to move around in their sleep but if you are going to go to him every time he knows that you are going to go to him so he is just going to keep doing it. He will grow out of it eventually just give it time.

Estelle - posted on 02/06/2009

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Hey there, I suggest that what you are seeing is part of a sleep cycle (suggested by another mom also) I would fuss over my 3 year old when he was little and he learned that it got him attention. My youngest who is now 2 was totally ignored through the night at 1year old. You need to relax and not stress or worry and you also need to try and ignor the fact that your child has moved in its sleep. I think that we can worry about our hardly little children way too much. If you boy wakes fully in the night and sits up just lay him back down but don't say anything because you don't want to wake him anymore that he already is. If he sits back up just keep laying him back down with no noise from you no talking or singing nothing. Keep calm and be consistant. You will find that about 2 night to a week and your little 1 will sleep right through. good luck! x

Julie - posted on 02/06/2009

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i found with my son that if u keep making noise around them while they r trying to get to sleep instead of making no noise, its easer for them to sleep and not wake up every time u make a sound. you could also try putting a piece of ur clothing in the crib with them, makes them think ur near and they r safe.

Betty - posted on 02/06/2009

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This is a grandma speaking. Please do not medicate your baby in an effort to make him sleep. I agree that you might be the restless one. Do not go to him so often. He is now old enough to locate his toy or snuggle. Relax, Mom - it does get better. He can feel your anxiety.

Layla - posted on 02/06/2009

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I agree with Andrea.  It's a sleep phase so you have to create an environment that will soothe; music, or maybe no sound.  Determine what he responds to.  Is he looking for you?  Are you going in there?  If you are, see what happens if you don't.  You might be more restless than he is.  Hope this helps!

Aronda - posted on 02/06/2009

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consider swaddling.  some babies cause themselves to wake often and become upset due to their 

SIBAHLE - posted on 02/06/2009

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Hi there, try putting him to sleep in his tummy coz he's big enough to turn and support his head. I have noticed that with both my children, they sleep longer when lying like that. Also you can use those soft vibrating toys, they tend to help make them feel like they are being pat. Avoid small toys that will get lost in the crib coz they get aggrevated trying to find them. Hope I helped.

Beth - posted on 02/06/2009

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Did you talk to your doctor? I do not know much about herbs, so you can talk to a person from one of the shops and maybe that will help. Good luck.

Andrea - posted on 02/06/2009

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Does he take a pacifier? My daughter did that, I would have to keep going in her room to find it and put it back in her mouth and she would fall back asleep. Try soft music, or soft music and lights, they have toys that attatch to the crib that play music and have fish and stuff my daughter loved that and she would fall right to sleep and would sleep all night long. I hope that helps! Good luck.

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