Can anyone help me?

Cassandra - posted on 10/10/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So here is my story. I have a 4 1/2 year old son. His father hasnt seen him since March 24, 2009. Since the day i found out i was pregnant i tried to make him be a father to the extent of moving into his parents house when we were not together. No matter what i did he was not interested. From the time i gave birth to my child until March 24, 2009 his father had only seen him about maybe 10x. every time was at my house with me there and usually he only seen him because he was coming over because he wanted something. After trying for a year to make him be a father i gave up and moved to another state and didnt tell him where, i figure if he wanted to see my son he could have emailed me, when he did email or text me it was to threaten my bf at the time who is now my fiance and the one who has taken care of my son since he was 6 months old or to ask me why im doing this to him, NEVER to ask to see him!!! Now my son is almost old enough to go to school and my fiance wants to adopt him after we are married. I talked to a lawyer for 20 minutes about it all but it only confused me more. Oh and he has a daughter with another girl who he doesnt see or take care of and lost his case to see her. Anyways the lawyer told me to either ask him to sign off of the birth certificate and i did he said no way, or take him to court and get sole custody without parental visitation. Im thinking about doing this but im worried that later on he can appeal to the visitation and get to see my son who doesnt have any idea who he is!!! What should I do? Should I get a lawyer? Will he be able to appeal the visitation? Do I even have a case? Please help!!

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/10/2012

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One thing I will say, never EVER lie to your son about who his real father is. It will complicate matters later in life, even if the bio father gives up parental rights. Regardless of what you may think about "doing the best by your son" hiding the truth will be a disaster down the road.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/10/2012

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Yes get a lawyer. If you choose to take him to court, that is up to you. But if he fights to have rights of his son, that is his legal right. If he gives up his rights, your fiance can adopt when you marry. Otherwise he can be his step dad.

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