Can I be made to pay child support after high school..

Maureen Lynn - posted on 06/11/2013 ( 14 moms have responded )

5

0

0

My son has not talked to me in over a year. He decided 4 months before his 18th birthday that he was gonna move in with his dad. I have raised this boy by myself his whole life. I paid child support for a year and a half. He has lived with his girlfriend for a year of that. Well now he wants to take me to court for college support. Hes 19 and works a job and lives with his g/f and her family. Can I be made to pay this. I wouldn't care to help him if he treated me with respect and even acknowledged me.. Please help me..

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

Mary - posted on 06/14/2013

3,348

31

123

I think it's a pretty safe bet that you can't be forced to pay this. If you could, it would mean that every child, including those whose parents are still married and have never had any type of custody arrangements, could sue their parents for "college support". I know that some states have wacky laws, but I'm pretty sure that none of them mandate that all parents put their kids through college. A college education is not considered mandatory for anyone.

14 Comments

View replies by

Enna - posted on 06/14/2013

521

10

204

OK. First, you can't be forced to pay child support if he's been living with his girlfriend.

Second, this doesn't necessarily pertain to your question, but I read through some court cases and North Dakota will not make people pay child support for children going to college unless it's included in their original child custody agreement. And obviously that's not the case here. These were older cases though. I don't know if the law changed. I have heard though that college child support is an up-and-coming thing.

I don't know what state you're in, but I don't think it matters. I don't think you have to pay anything.

Meagen - posted on 06/14/2013

74

34

3

My son is crying that his ear hurts, but it's,3am is there anythingi can do?

Lakota - posted on 06/13/2013

710

0

192

I live in North Dakota. Child Support ends when the child turns 19. Mr. Custody Coach is wrong about that state.

Maureen Lynn - posted on 06/13/2013

5

0

0

I live in Tennessee and and spoke w/the Tn Child support services and she did tell me it ends when they graduate. If he does persue it, it will have to go thru civil court..

Kristen - posted on 06/13/2013

66

70

25

I was always told that a child can receive child support til age of 25 as long as still in school and don't get married. I don't know if this is true everywhere. I grew up in kansas

Enna - posted on 06/12/2013

521

10

204

Quoting from Mr. Custody Coach .com:

"Seemingly impervious to economic conditions, be they poor or excellent, college costs and tuition continue to rise to astronomical levels. While more people than ever in recent history are suffering from job losses or reductions in employment, if you’re living in a divorce and child custody situation in the following states…

Alabama, Connecticut, the District of Columbia, Hawaii, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Massachusetts, Mississippi, Missouri, New Hampshire, New Jersey, New York, North Dakota, Oregon, South Carolina, Utah and Washington

…you may be surprised to discover that your legal responsibility to pay child support for your “children” extends to college tuition and expenses (in part or in whole). "

Lakota - posted on 06/12/2013

710

0

192

I think in all states, child support ends when the child turns 19 regardless of where he lives. Unless, like Roxanne said, you are behind in payments.

Enna - posted on 06/12/2013

521

10

204

It depends on your state. Google it. If you're in the states that have that law then you can be made to continue paying child support while he is in college if he's living with his dad. (You can also be made to pay if you're behind on child support, but I assume that's not the case). I know the laws can be very different, so you have to do the research, or call a lawyer for a consultation.

Maureen Lynn - posted on 06/12/2013

5

0

0

Hes definately not disabled. He was the star football player of his school. He got all county and all state. He didnt have the grades for a scholarship tho. I went to every game and even the awards night by myself and supported him and he never acknowledged me. Also his graduation was the worst. May was my last child support payment. I can breathe a little better now.. Everybody says he will come back but I dont see it.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/12/2013

13,264

21

2015

The only thing, and this would be a long shot, would be if he was disabled in some way, which was requiring your continued financial support. He very obviously isn't, though, and I'm pretty sure that any judge would laugh him out of court, if they even allow the suit to proceed. (and don't charge him court fees for a frivolous lawsuit).

Ok, I guess I should say I know that the judges in my area would throw it out, and have a good laugh in the process, all the while telling your son that he needs to act like the adult that he claims to be.

And, him spurning your contact or support for the last year will NOT help his case.

I truly wouldn't worry about it. I'd be furious with my kid, but I wouldn't stress the legal stuff. But, most attorneys will answer a few questions over the phone without a charge, so you could call and sound them out. But still...I'd not stress.

I know it's heard, they are your very life...

Maureen Lynn - posted on 06/12/2013

5

0

0

Thank you so much for your response. I know he had to get the idea from his g/f mother. She rules the roost. He just graduated high school and he did get a fafsa grant. He just wants me and his dad to pay his expenses. Hes taking me and his dad to court. This is something I heard thru the family.. I used to txt every morning and night and tell him good morning and good night and that I love him until he had my number blocked. He dont talk to me bc I tried to get him away from his gf and her controlling mom. I thank you for your support and advice. Its a heartbreaking deal.. I love him more than life..

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/11/2013

13,264

21

2015

I highly doubt it...that's what student loans, grants and scholarships are for!

Nowhere is it written that you shall support your child until he's 40...

Good luck with your struggle!

Lakota - posted on 06/11/2013

710

0

192

No, you can't be made to pay this. He is an adult and he is working. Even if he wasn't working, no court is going to make you pay for his college. I can't even imagine where he got that rediculous idea. I agree, I wouldn't help him until he respected you. When he contacts you, tell him that you love him and that you will always be there for him, but, only if he treats you well.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms