Can I move to my home state w/my baby if dad isnt on birth certificate

Mariana - posted on 07/17/2017 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I want to move to california with my daughter and he keeps threating me with parental kiddnapping . I dont want to be with him ,I am not happy with him. He does not take me out. I know he works , but that doesnt mean he cant help me out a few hour with the baby. He never helps out at night with the baby. I am stressed out that my hair has fallen I have no friends I dont know anyone but his family. His mom is rude and his stepfather as well, so I dont even talk to her. she has told me to leave the house but the baby stays here. She has woken up my baby and I have to even stay up longer because her son doesnt even take care of her. I hardly sleep. She is always drunk and comes until 3-4 am and her husband too. my about to be ex- boyfrined drinks, smoke,and hasnt moved us out of his parents house, I have missed job interviews because he doesnt even take me to buy proper clothes. instead he sleeps over his frinds house and comes until the morning. he wathes pornographic videos after work instead of going to the room to help me with his daughter. I wasted money on a car i bought, he doesnt even want to teach me.can relocate to my home-state? with all this that is happening.

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Ev - posted on 07/21/2017

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Natalie--there is no guarentee that the odds will be in her favor to get to move out of state with her child.

Natalie - posted on 07/19/2017

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Make sure to do everything the legal way, go to the court and find out how you can legally move with the child. Do it the legal way and the odds are in your favor:)

Dove - posted on 07/17/2017

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Horrible advice, Linda. I did state that he currently doesn't have legal rights, but they ARE very easy to get and if he takes it to court and she has left the state w/ his child... she could risk losing custody and be the one fighting in court just to visit w/ her child.

Michelle - posted on 07/17/2017

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Linda, that isn't very good advice. If she does up and leave and he takes it court it will go against her and she may not keep custody of her child.

Linda - posted on 07/17/2017

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Leave !! he has no claim on the baby right now. If he really wants to see his child, he will have to track you down and go through legal channels.

Michelle - posted on 07/17/2017

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Like Dove said, get out of that house but you will need to go through the legal channels before moving states.

Dove - posted on 07/17/2017

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Regardless of the situation between you and the child's father... that man is still her father and he still has rights. If he is not on the birth certificate he doesn't, currently, have legal rights, but it would be very easy for him to get them and quite easy for him to pursue parental alienation if you leave the state w/ his child.

Check out if there is a woman's shelter nearby and get you and that baby out of the house. You do need to have a court order for custody, visitation, and child support, but you do not have to stay in that home w/ these people. The woman's shelter should be able to point you in the direction of all the resources you have available to get yourself and your child into a stable situation.

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