can my daughters stepfather be put on her birth certificate even though he not the bio. father

Damedria - posted on 11/30/2013 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend, soon to b husband is my daughter step father even though when we got the DNA test done it came back that , he was not the father, he still wants to be on her birth certificate as her father, how do we go about doing this and can it be done ? We live in buffalo ny im not sure what the state laws are

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Amy - posted on 11/30/2013

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If you dont want anyone to know that then dont tell anyone and just put him as the father i dont think it matters unless the bio dad wants to get involved and be put on the certificate other than that as far as anyone is concerned that is her daddy. I do believe you can put who ever you want on the certificate.

Enna - posted on 12/03/2013

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I don't understand why you would want to put him on the birth certificate if he's not her dad.

Jodi - posted on 12/02/2013

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If he is documented as not the father, you still actually have to have the agreement of the biological father for your boyfriend to adopt him. Sorry, but you need to it legally, not sign a stat dec telling a pack of lies. The father is going to have to sign his rights away and your boyfriend adopt him. But whatever you do, these are legal documents and the law is the law. I'm just saying, make sure you do it legally. It is likely to be a lengthier process than just filling in a form. I am simply suggesting you follow the law. Yes, plenty of people falsify their birth certificates - that doesn't make it legal.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/04/2013

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To find out what your state laws are, contact the state's vital records department. They will tell you what you need to do to have the birth certificate amended.

However: If the two of you divorce, will the step dad be willing to pay support for the child he wanted to put his name on? If he's not ready for the full responsibility, including the possibility of divorce and support, I'd recommend you get paperwork for support from the biological father.

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If your bf wants to claim her as his own and support her as his own, GREAT! Good for him and for your daughter. But personally, I think it's a bad idea putting the wrong name on the birth certificate. That is an official record of her birth and where her biological make up comes from. Her biological father may be long gone, but there may come a day when your daughter or even HER children down the road need that record of family history for medical or other purposes. Besides that, is there any possibility that her biological paternal extended family would ever want a relationship with her? Obviously there are documents you can obtain and sign to declare your bf as her father, and that's your choice, but a b.c. is an official record of her as an individual and you don't know if one day SHE might want that her true biological father was named on it. Naming the correct biological contributor to her existence on her b.c. does not make your bf any less her "daddy" and it won't change their relationship.

LalaBoom - posted on 12/02/2013

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Why is the father not involved that you need to put the barely stepdad on the BC? His choice or your choice? Also, if you want child support, I suggest you put no one's name but the REAL father.

Another thing to consider, if you and your BF part ways, he will be legally responsible for your child regardless of anything.

Damedria - posted on 12/02/2013

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And we already received DNA so theres no we could lie they already have it down he's not the dad he's doing this voluntarily and we're going to tell whoever this to see if it can be done

Damedria - posted on 12/02/2013

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Her real father is not around and its plently of people who has their children step parent on the birth certificate

Jodi - posted on 11/30/2013

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The birth certificate is a legal document. Lying on a legal document is against the law.

Besides, if you read that link, you need an Acknowledgement of Paternity document, which is like a Statutory Declaration, another legal document. If you fill that in falsely, you are again breaking the law.

If I were you guys, I would seek legal advice about the consequences of lying on these documents.

And what about the REAL father? What if he comes back on the scene wanting his rights?

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