Can my ex stop me having a new partner because our daughter lives with me

Teresa - posted on 07/16/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have recently met a lovely new male friend. Nothing serious we are just friends but in time im hoping it to become more as we get on so well. Ive made my ex aware of that I have a new male friend but at the moment thats all we are. I love spending time with him as we make eachother smile all the time. He dont sleep over or anything. But im now being told by my ex he dont want a male around our daughter. I jusr dont know is he allowed to actually stop me seeing someone. Surely im allowed friends in my home even if my daughter is there. She is two and a half so she is always with me. Am I just meant to live the rest of my life never moving forward. Please any advice would be great.


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/16/2014




Perhaps your ex is thinking that new relationships need to be kept on the QT until it is certain that it will be a committed relationship, and not just another boyfriend (or girlfriend) that could cause more harm than good with all the disruption.

Quite a few couples that I know actually put a stipulation in their divorce orders about exposure to future partners and the conditions in which that should occur.

I'd recommend that you see if you can't do some mediation on this one, because while your ex doesn't have the right to dictate your relationships to you, the child in the situation needs to be thought of, and new partners need to be carefully considered before introduction into the 'family' unit.

This applies to both sides of the divorce, btw...He can't have a double standard on it.

Serene - posted on 07/16/2014




No he cant stop you from dating, having men in youre house or being in a relationship with someone.
These threats sound like jelously and there is NOTHING he can do. The only way that he can keep another man away from his daughter is if he can prove to the courts that youre an unfit parent.

Chet - posted on 07/16/2014




Many parents decide to keep their dating completely separate from their children until they know for certain that the relationship is serious and long term. It can be extremely disruptive to children to form attachments to the people their parents date, and to have the relationship break down.

I don't know anybody who has had this ordered though. I only know people who have agreed on their own to keep their boyfriends or girlfriends out of their children's lives.

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