Amanda - posted on 02/23/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am in kind of a tough situation with my ex "Dave". My parents, and all of my friends and family think that Dave is such a looser and always say how I can do so much better, even though they have never met him. They have no idea how much I love him. A while back there was an incident (he didn't physically harm me in any way) that caused me to go and file a police report, and then get a restraining order against him. Now I am realizing that I was very pressured into getting the order, by friends and family. I think I also somewhat did it out of anger towards D at the time for what happened. Now I wish that I hadn't filed the restraining order because I don't feel that he is a threat to me. He has never done anything like that in the past. I think I did it to please my friends and family, and none of them know that I have been seeing him since the order was placed. I am having his son in just a few weeks, and he really wants to be there for the birth of his son, and I want him to be! Like I said earlier, everyone seems to think he is a big jerk and such a loser, they don't know how much I really care about him, and if they actually took the effort to get to know him, they would see the kind of guy he is. I have thought about going down and cancelling the order, but I know that by doing that if I ever need to get another order, I won't be taken as seriously. Also, I know that my friends and family would be very upset and hurt if I were to cancel it. I had thought about just not telling anyone if I were to get it cancelled, but it would cause a lot of drama and hurt if he was in the delivery room, and everyone thought that I had an order against him, and they found out I had it cancelled. So my problem is, I really want him present during the childbirth. I really do love him, he loves me, and I think he would be a good birthing partner, and know that he is not a threat to me in any way. I just really don't want to hurt my friends and family though, and I could see where they would feel disrespected if I were to cancel it. I'm 32 weeks pregnant, so I don't have a ton of time. Also I am still living at home for the time being, if that makes a difference. I coul really use advice!