Can my sons father have my 13mth old son over night

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Stacey - posted on 01/29/2015

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If there is no court order, it depends on what kind of a father he is, if he is a good father who you believe will take care of him, and you trust him to do this, regardless if you are breast feeding, (you can always put it in a bottle for just an overnight visit), if he is not a good father who is prone to get aggravated after long periods of being alone with a 13 month old, or who just doesn't take care of his needs, then ABSOLUTELY NOT! Follow your instincts, after all the baby has been with you longer than with his father. You carried him for 9 months. If the latter is the case, you might try going back to court and get supervised visitation, because after all, a father is entitled to see his children too, just not always by himself.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/29/2015

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@ Stacy Few: Saying "ABSOLUTELY NOT' and encouraging parental alienation is not sound advice.

The OP needs to get orders in place, if there are none, and if they are currently contemplating orders, and the judge orders overnights, she will be in contempt of court if she withholds ordered visitation.

You seem to be forgetting that, once a split in a relationship happens, vary rarely will either party admit that the other may be a good parent...I see more refusal to allow a non custodial parent visits and overnights than I do cooperation with orders, it seems.

Dove - posted on 01/27/2015

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And on the other side (w/ just my kids as examples)... my girls COULD have handled over nights at that age. It wouldn't have been ideal because.. Yes, they were still breastfed and not fully night weaned, but they were way more secure AND eating regular food at regular intervals throughout the day. So it would have certainly been survivable... ;)

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Sarah - posted on 01/27/2015

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It would be helpful if the Op would clarify what she means. I had breastfeeding babies at 13 months. Would they survive without me? Sure. I suppose if the father has a legal right to see his child and is capable of providing adequate nutrition, then yes the child can go for overnight.

Dove - posted on 01/27/2015

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We don't actually know WHAT she's talking about... cuz she hasn't clarified anything. ;)

My son at 13 months wasn't eating solids more than once a day regularly and was breastfed from the tap... so he quite literally could have starved w/ longer visitation like that.

Now, I'm not at all speculating that this is the case w/ the OP... just putting a little spin on how it 'could' be possible depending on the child and working in the child's best interest.... but until she actually gives us more than one sentence... I'm going w/ the general thought that typically... yes, the father could have the kid overnight.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/27/2015

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Actually, unless you are exclusively breastfeeding the child, he's old enough to stay with his father. After all, he's old enough for you to keep, isn't he?

I know that sounds callous, but it's the truth

Dove - posted on 01/27/2015

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I think she means he's not old enough to stay overnight.... and my son at 13 months wouldn't have been either. Technically none of my kids would have been since they were all still nursing at that age, but I didn't have a divorce/separation situation with overnight needs at that age anyway.

Do you have a court order? If so... what does it say? If not... why not?

Technically there are some courts that will order overnights for a newborn... some that won't order overnights under a year... and some that won't order overnights (for a breastfed kid) until the child is weaned. It really just depends on your court and your situation... and w/out any of those details... no one can help you have any ideas of an answer.

Jodi - posted on 01/27/2015

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What do you mean? There are no court orders? Or the court orders state he is not to have him overnight?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/26/2015

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Depends on what the court orders regarding visitation is.

Is he old enough to stay without you? Yes.

Dove - posted on 01/26/2015

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If the court grants him overnight visitation or has given visitation details to be worked out amongst the two of you and you feel they both (son and father) can handle it... yes.

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