Can some one help me how can I get my mother-law to stop control control my husband life?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/10/2014

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But here's the deal. If he won't stand up to mommy, then it will never stop.

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tell him he is married to you not her. That YOU should be the most important person to him now. If he doesn't want to agree than there is no point to the marriage. It is better to go through a divorce than be unhappy for the rest of your life.

Mary - posted on 02/12/2014

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well if he is making you feel like you are nothing why stay you just said yourself life is hell for the last year and a half you can stay but your life will only get worse and it will wear you out a divorce is not the end of the world and you are not just getting it lightly you have already thought about it im sure.
you could be free of this rubbish you are being put through but at the end of the day its down to you we can talk to you until the cows come home but sweetie its your life and how much you value your own self worth. keep strong.we are here to listen and support you.

Dorothy - posted on 02/12/2014

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thank you I am sorry to hear about you divorce in the way than look I will be getting one..He don't care so there Nothing life for me to do I have a son that 25 years old I am not like that with my son it all come down to there mother don't want to let them go feel that no other woman is good enough for there son and the husband let there mother take control I have been married for one and half year and it's been Nothing but he'll. I pray to God that you be able to have a bound with your daughter the hard part for me is to no that I have to get a divorce!

Soni - posted on 02/11/2014

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I've been down this road. Eventually my MIL won and my husband and I got a divorce, now she is pushing him to get joint custody of our baby. I'm going through hell. If I swallowed my pride a year ago and just kept my head down, I would've been able to raise my child still attached to its mother and if I played my cards right I would've been able to show that child that my mil put me through so much grief and it's bc if her that daddy and I fight and don't have a beautiful loving marriage anymore.

Then when the child is all yours and understands, I would divorce him if he doesn't change his act.

Mary - posted on 02/11/2014

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you need to do what you feel is right this is clearly going to have a negative effect on you for the rest of your life sounds to me that you know exactly what to do (leave him) but you are too afraid to do so, but leaving him will either make him realise he has to stop being a push over and start spending time with you and family or he will run to mammy then you will see where his intents lie.
you need to stand up for you before you realise your life has slipped by and all you done was sit around worrying about your husband.

Dorothy - posted on 02/10/2014

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Thank you I go to a Couselor but he refuse to go he tell me he will go off on me in the Couselor!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/10/2014

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Well, this is something that should have been painfully apparent from the time that your relationship with this man started.

You should have addressed it prior to agreeing to marry him. If he won't stand up to her now, you don't have any recourse. I recommend counseling, and if that doesn't resolve the problem, divorce.

Dorothy - posted on 02/10/2014

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I go thew so much with this man sometimes I ask my self do I need to get out this marriage it's real bad she have so much control over him he feel he don't have to listen to Nothing I say when he get his check he lie about how much he get or don't give me no money at all I have alot of bill that are all on me when he don't do his part it put me behind its if he don't want to be responsible for this family his mother words just because you are married your wife can't tell you what to do remember his mother don't have no one in her life

Dorothy - posted on 02/10/2014

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he will not stand up to her she play with his mind mentally he believe her over me it's if I am married to both of them!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/10/2014

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Yep, hubby needs to stand up to his momma.

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