can someone help me??

Mary - posted on 07/22/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My Grandma in law keeps pushing me to give my son water but i dont want to. I do not want to be rude, how do i say this nicely to her. I want her to know he is my son and she doesnt need to tell me everytime what to do when to do it. He is now 5 months old and is a mommas boy :)

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Melanie - posted on 07/23/2012

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Shawn C Foster, no offense, but you are totally wrong on this account. While it is definitely okay to give a baby water, at 5 months old, it is absolutely not necessary, especially if he is being breastfed, as Mary indicated. At 5 months old, all they need is formula or breastmilk, they don't even need additional food yet, much less water. Mary, you are doing a great job, smile at your in law and keep on keeping on.

Jennifer - posted on 07/22/2012

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I would suggest speaking with your pediatrician. Too much water can actually poison a baby. I had a similar issue with my MIL. She desperately wanted my child to start solids before she was ready. The pediatrician wanted her to wait for a medical reason. MIL didn't want to listen and pretty much accused me of being silly. I finally asked the doc for a NOTE! I never had to actually give it to her, but he wrote one just the same to help settle the dispute. Just a thought. Best of luck. I know these situations are so very hard.

Sarah - posted on 07/22/2012

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It's ok to give the baby water, I know how you feel though, I hated when people told me what to do with my kids, but I always took their advice and whether or not I did it, was up to me. I find that giving the babies water at that age help with keeping thresh down and such. I have five kids and have tried a multitude of things. I usually gave mine that vitamin water, and they loved it and it helped keep diahrea down too if they were sick.

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Dove - posted on 07/24/2012

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Shawn... babies not only don't need any water at all until starting solids (except in properly mixed formula and in breast milk), but it has the potential to actually KILL a child. A baby breastfed on demand will not dehydrate. Period. Otherwise.... I'd have three dead or dehydrated kids right now.

My girls did get small bits of water fairly early since they started solids early, but my son didn't have a drop of plain water until he was 7 months old and didn't have it on a daily basis until he was at least a year. Happy, healthy, 4 year old now who has never once in his life had even a hint of dehydration trouble.

Mary - posted on 07/23/2012

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Shawn C. Foster: I posted this for advice not to get rude comments saying i want to dehydrate my son.. Whats up with that? And on top of that babies can get water intoxxication, breastmilk is the way to go. Please dont be rude about this and accuse me of dehydrating my son, He is healthy and weighs 19 pounds where is the dehydration in that?

Shawn - posted on 07/23/2012

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R-e-s-p-e-c-t your Grandma-in-law! Go to the library to find out the importance of water to the body. Find out how it affects everything in and out of the body! Find out how long you will live if you do not have water. Come on now.
"You don't want to!"
Mary no offense but your son needs water, period. There seems to be a missing fact in the this scenario...Either you don't like your in-law, or you're borderline gonna dehydrate your son, deliberately and try to blame your in-law. What's up with that?

Mary - posted on 07/23/2012

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Thank you so much everybody! I told her I give him breastmilk if he is thirsty and that helps him. Plus i dont want to rush anything I was just a little frustrated because everytime she sees us she tells me he is thristy. If i drink water or something he stares so she thinks he is thirsty but honestly I could be drinking a beer and he would stare does not mean i should give him some :/ but anyways thank you! I loved the advice and hope we can all talk soon :)

Dove - posted on 07/22/2012

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It is not recommended to give a child under 6 months old any water at all (other than to properly mix formula in formula fed babies). Google 'infant water intoxication' and print out a few sites for her.

My son didn't have any water at all until he was 7 months old.. and that was just an ounce or two and not on a regular basis.

Elfrieda - posted on 07/22/2012

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Can't you just say, "That's interesting. I'll think about it."? Be nice but don't do what she says. If you want advice in some other area (like cradle cap, teething solutions, etc) you could shift topics so that she's still giving advice (which might be valuable, she's had some experience) but not on that particular subject.

Melanie - posted on 07/22/2012

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Why is she pushing water? Maybe say something to her like: "at our last check up, the DR told us to limit his water because right now he needs breastmilk/formula above all else right. The Dr said if he is drinking water too it might make him full and not want his bottle." Oh, and she is not going to be the last one to tell you what to do and when to do it. My MIL, who is like a best friend, is always giving me advice or telling me what she thinks is best. I just smile at her and do what I want...Grin and bear it!

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