can someone help me with a ex thing to my unborn child

Danica - posted on 05/29/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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basicly he has said that he would take me court for the baby that not here yet, plus he trying to keep people out off my unborn child's life that has nothing to do with him really as he wont be around when their see her.

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Dove - posted on 06/05/2012

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Well, that would've been useful information to have in the op. If he hasn't changed from when he had his last two kids taken away and you have a way to access all the evidence... it 'shouldn't' be too much of a problem to get supervised visitation... which is what I'd be going for if he's doing drugs and was a danger to his other kids.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/29/2012

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Is there merit to his concern? And REALLY think about this! Is he truly trying to keep you from hanging around someone who could ultimately be harmful to that baby when it's born?

Because, I've seen men in this situation. Usually, in my experience, the men who were doing that (with an ex) were trying to either 1) get the ex to stop destructive behaviour that could hurt the baby, or 2) remove influences from the ex's life in order to help them have a better time at parenthood.

I'm not saying that you are an addict, or hang out with losers. But, in my experience, that's usually what's going on.

Now, if he's just being a jackass...establish paternity as quickly as possible, get an attorney, and be prepared.

Dove - posted on 05/29/2012

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What does he have against the people he is trying to keep away? As long as there isn't any merit to his concerns... don't worry about that. He can only 'dictate' (through court orders) who is or isn't around your child if he has solid proof that they are a danger to her.

As for taking you to court... as her father he should have the same rights to her as you do... unless you have solid proof that HE is a danger to her. More than that though, she has an equal right to have both parents as involved in her life as possible. As long as neither of you are a danger to her... many courts (though certainly not all) like to go with 50/50 custody whenever possible. While she is an infant he 'may' get limited visitation time, but maybe not. It really depends on your case and your judge. I know many courts won't do overnight visitation with breastfed infants, but some will.

Good luck with it all!

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Danica - posted on 06/05/2012

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to be fair with you both i don't know what he could do because the fact is that his last two got took off him because he was a danger to them and he still has no rights in seeing them plus he does drugs and many other things as well.

now i don't want to stop him from seeing her but the way he being with everything and that is not good.

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