Shanda - posted on 03/09/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
My stepkids are 14 and 11. We only get them every other weekend. Their mother is impossible to deal with (we've tried). The kids are left home by themselves most of the time with no guidance what so ever from their mother and what guidance she does offer isn't the best. She bounces from one inappropriate relationship to another. My step daughter calls our house crying all the time because she gets treated different than my stepson as well as her younger brother. Their mother often yells and cusses at them. My stepson is very withdrawn. When he comes over he blatantly ignores mine and my husbands rules. He refuses to allow my husband to look at his phone or check his facebook. I threaten to take his phone from him for the weekend and I try to take the tv and stuff away to punish him. My husband doesn't punish him at all. My stepdaughter is better however she often goes behind our back and calls her mother when she doesn't like a rule we've set and of course her mother calls and tries start problems. Jen will often be wearing short shorts and makeup when we pick her up and we make her go in and change and wash her face( she's only 11) and then constantly posts things she's not allowed or goes behind our back to do things on the computer she's not allowed. My husband doesn't punish her either and leaves it all up to me. I am so fed up with it all please can some one offer me some advise.