Can someone please tell me what I can do to help my friend get her son

Peita - posted on 09/25/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My friend is 20s old and her son is 10 months old . The father of the child is a drug user and so was the mother. They are now separated. The child is now living with the fathers Auntie. And is not living with the birth mother or the father . The mother wants the kid back . Has been doing childcare courses. But for some reason has no caseworker which I don't understand. She gets visitation for an hour and a half once a week I think a fortnight ? The mother grew up in foster care herself and is aboriginal. So what needs to happen for her to get her kids back .? She is unemployed and on Centrelink and is also classed as homeless . She is staying with a friend to save money up for when she gets her son back so she can get her I am place for her and her son . I live in Department of housing and am happy to put her on my lease will that help her in providing a permanent home for her son. I am also 35 years old and disabled and the mother Of the child is my care. We felt if she can show she can be responsible for disabled lady that would help her case. But I am also happy for her to be on my lease as I feel this would help her case. But she is unsure of everything which makes no sense to me. How's anyone and ID how long until she will get her son back and any think that would Help please. She has been clean for 10 months now since the birth of her son and is trying her best to get a job but just wants to look after her son full-time which I can understand is the whole point .

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Sarah - posted on 09/25/2016

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The only way to find out is to actually track down her caseworker. There has to be someone, and if you may have to go back thru the court papers from when the child was removed from her care and given to the Auntie. If she has visitation, and was directed to take classes and go to rehab, then someone is setting those rules.

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Sarah - posted on 09/25/2016

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And she needs to have good documentation of her sobriety. Random drug tests, records of meetings etc.

Dove - posted on 09/25/2016

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The best thing she can do is find out who is in charge of her case and follow everything they say. The best person to ask these questions to is the person in charge of her case as none of us know the details and specifics to her case and area.

Ev - posted on 09/25/2016

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{My friend is 20s old and her son is 10 months old . The father of the child is a drug user and so was the mother. They are now separated. The child is now living with the fathers Auntie. And is not living with the birth mother or the father . }
-----I am guessing that is the reason the child is living with the aunt not either of the parents. Drug use can do that.

{The mother wants the kid back . Has been doing childcare courses. But for some reason has no caseworker which I don't understand. She gets visitation for an hour and a half once a week I think a fortnight ? The mother grew up in foster care herself and is aboriginal. So what needs to happen for her to get her kids back .?}
-----If she is taking classes and is getting supervised visits, then she must have a case worker who is working with her on things. She needs to do what the courts or state she lives in deems is necessary to get her child back.

} She is unemployed and on Centrelink and is also classed as homeless . She is staying with a friend to save money up for when she gets her son back so she can get her I am place for her and her son }
-----If she is homeless and unemployed---where does she get money to save back for a place for herself and her son plus pay the bills to have a place and food?

.{{ I live in Department of housing and am happy to put her on my lease will that help her in providing a permanent home for her son. I am also 35 years old and disabled and the mother Of the child is my care. We felt if she can show she can be responsible for disabled lady that would help her case.}}
-----You had better check to be sure you can even have her on your lease. If your housing is set according to your income levels then adding her might change that and you might not be allowed to have her in there. Also just because you are disabled does not mean her helping you out is what the courts/state is looking at for her to get her kid back.

{ But I am also happy for her to be on my lease as I feel this would help her case.
-----She needs to prove she can do this for herself.


{ But she is unsure of everything which makes no sense to me.}
-----She may be unsure of things. It is not uncommon to be like this when doing things.

{ How's anyone and ID how long until she will get her son back and any think that would Help please.}
-----I did not understand this but for asking how long she has to wait until she gets her son back. That is up to the courts and or state.

{ She has been clean for 10 months now since the birth of her son and is trying her best to get a job but just wants to look after her son full-time which I can understand is the whole point .}
-----It is good she has been clean for 10 months but that may nott be long enough to get her son back. She needs to following all things set out for her to complete to get the child back. Ten months is not that long.

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