Can they question my son at school without notifying me?

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My sons cat was killed by another animal the Saturday after Thanksgiving. He is 8 years old and of course was upset by it. He just told me today that when he went to school the following Monday someone called him in to the hallway and asked him why he was upset. They also asked him if either me or my fiance ever spanked him,if we smoke,drink,etc. And what kinds of shows he watches at home and what games does he play. That was a couple of weeks ago and he didn't tell me until this morning. Can school employees question my son without telling me either before or after? Also I called the principal and she said she knew nothing about it but would ask and call me back and didnt call back today

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Ashley - posted on 12/18/2012

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well, it happened weeks ago, and if they were still concerned after talking with him, then they would have called dfs, which would have had to respond within 24 hours. i dont think you have anything to worry about. they might have asked about what shows you watch to make sure he is not watching innappropriate things. you smoking is none of their business. the drinking would be a concern if it was around the child, in excess, or could be considered dangerous. but you dont drink, so there is no problem there. it does seem they asked some questions that were none of there business. maybe, you should find out exactly who it was asking the questions, and then go to them to find out why and what there concern is.

Ashley - posted on 12/18/2012

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if they have a reason to be concerned, then yes they can. why are you so upset about this? but, i would think that if they asked him why he is so upset and he said it was about his cat, then they should not have asked the questions they did. are you sure that is what he told them, instead of something else that could have prompted those questions?

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Melissa - posted on 12/18/2012

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I agree with you. I called his principal and like I said,she had no idea. So tomorrow I will call back(going to the school would do no good you have to make appointments). Hopefully we will get everything straightened out. I have nothing to hide but it still worries me when they call my son out of class and question him. If they are seeing signs of a trouble with my son I should know about them.

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2012

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I am upset because i feel like if they are asking my child questions I have a right to know. I don't think it's anyone's business what shows I watch on t.v. I understand why they would ask if him anyone yells at him or hits him,that is to check for abuse. However,I don't think what I cook for dinner or what games I allow my son to play has anything to do with it. I am not sure what he said to them because he just told me today and said it happened after Thanksgiving.

I know for a fact nobody in my home abuses him. I do smoke but either outside or in my room with the door closed and the window open. I don't drink. And I don't spank my child.

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