Can they really take my baby boy?

Rebecca - posted on 10/13/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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A few Weeks back I found out My son wasn't the biological son od the man that has been raising him for the 1st yr of his life. So I called the only other man there were chances with & yes he is his. Now this man & his new wife are raving about getting my son every weekend from Thursday to Monday. Givin My son doesnt stay with anyone My mom has to struggle to pull him away from me so I can go to work. So I ask this man & his wife if we could just take it slow give my son sometime to get to know you both before I just send him away with yall. well they get SO mad start talking aout how Im a pathetic mother & that they are gonna take my son from me & he will never know who I am. This man isnt on the Birth Certificate & do not want him to be can he do it without my say so & even tho he & his wife cant prove me to be a bad mother BECAUSE I AM NOT, but could they really take my son away?? ohh yea & this man is a preacher, but wasnt married at the tiime.... HELPPPPPP im stressing myself stupid over this!! Until all this stupid high school drama started I had no problem with him being in our sons life.... now I just want him to vanish!!!

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Dove - posted on 10/13/2012

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As the father he has rights and the court WILL give him rights. In MOST courts (I won't speak for all... some do stupid things) the most he could get is joint custody unless he can prove you unfit... and he would most likely have to start out slow with visitation... the way you are asking.



Document EVERYTHING with the father and his wife. Everything they say to you or about you/your son, everything they do in regards to this situation, etc... Communicate (nicely) with them in writing as much as possible letting them know that you WANT your son to have a relationship with his father, but since they don't know each other and your son has separation issues.... you want to take this slow for his benefit.



And get a lawyer.



That's the best advice I can come up with... Good luck!

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Dove - posted on 10/13/2012

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It might not be you being new. COM likes to 'eat' posts at random. Happens to me ALL the time.

User - posted on 10/13/2012

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this is my first day using this & I was trying to figure out how to make it work lol. it kept telling me Dove was posting on my thing but I couldnt find it.... newbies :)

User - posted on 10/13/2012

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Thank you! I have been looking into a lawyer. The man that thought he was my childs father is still here he is hurt but he says he will always be here that dna or not thats his son! I figured the joint custody. Ive saved every txt & won't answer the phone cuz thats when they want to say hatful things so im doing everything over txt I have already filed for child support, but just to look better should I txt & say would like to go for dinner keep a recorder on me at all times. I dont mind him being in his life but i WILL not be bullied into this. & it will happen slowly.

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