can weight issue be a threat to relationship??

Sabna - posted on 06/15/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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hi
i am a mom to a 5 yr old...i am 29 yrs old and weigh only 42kgs..and appear very anorexic.i am married for 6 yrs now and somehow i feel tat am not satisfyin him sexually.he watches porn often ...tat really kind of tips me off....cos i feel i am not able to give him tat pleasure which a person of normal physique would provide.he mentions this many times as to y am not puttin on weight like my peers..i try my best to eat healthy and all but nothin seems to work.i had gained a healthy amount of weight post delivery..but i shed them all within 2 months..looking after the baby.i really dont know wat to do

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√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/15/2011

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Porns fun, I watch it sometimes on my own. I wouldn't care if my boyfriend watched it sometimes either. Sometimes it's fun to just fufill your own needs. I would say there is something else wrong, that has nothing to do with weight or porn. Are you tired all the time? Is he? Is your bedroom cluttered? Have too much girly stuff going on? Is it too uptight? Any number of things could make him not want to do it more often. I saw a girl drag her poor guy into Marshalls and buy some frilly blue/green shiny bedset with freakin ruffles and damask print. All I could think of was, there goes their sex life! Guys don't like what we like and I respect my boyfriend in this in the bedroom more than anything because it can affect a sex life. I painted posters of sexual positions, people cuddling and random swirls, ribbon and 1 or two hearts in red white and black to set the mood. I also asked him to find me some photos of nudity he liked that I could paint........... you just have to try. Work together. Figure it out?

Sabna - posted on 06/15/2011

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@nicole
ya i have checked fr a thyroid imbalance but tat doesnt seem to be my problem...

Sabna - posted on 06/15/2011

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It bothers me when he makes such comments...otherwise i wouldnt say i am ok with how i look but i would say i really could do with a little more weight gain.i tried energy pwders like proteinx and stuff. i have very well mentioned abt his porn- watching-habits once or twice but he says tat this has nothing to do with how i look .its just a guy thing.do u think hes speakin the truth? but i would really want to gain a little more weight.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/15/2011

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Have you been checked for a thyroid imbalance? It causes my aunt to be a size 1. Talk to your doctor about this possibly?

Have you tried buying lingerie that's sexy and spirited? Have you gone toy shopping with your husband? Bought a book on positions? Tried finding porn you like to watch with him?

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2011

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Firstly you need to decide whether your weight bothers you, because of how it makes you feel rather than how it makes your husband feel. If it is bothering you because of health issues, I would suggest seeing your doctor. Maybe you could be referred to a dietician who can help.

Secondly, have you talked to your husband about how his comments and watching porn make you feel. It seems to me he is being disrespectful of your feelings. Talk to him about how you feel.

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