cant deal with 2 year old daughter. giving up help!!!

Dulce - posted on 05/24/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am 20, have a 2 year old daughter who will be 3 in august and am 7 months pregnant. My fiance and i just moved to a town far from our hometown and are renting a room from some family members. We both work, i work part time 4 days a week from 2-8 and he works 12 hour shifts starting qt 7 am about 5 days a week. With all those details out of the way, let me tell you about my daughter.

She is a very smart child. Sh learns quickly and has always learned faster than other kids her age. I love that about her but with that, she is also very hyper and defiant. Wr dont give her candy. No soda just some natural apple juice or stuff like that but she never stops. She is always doing something. She cries for cartoons and then when theyre on shell roam about the room and grab things she shouldnt. Its always a struggle at nighttime. Nothing works. Baths, stories, cartoons, cuddles, turning off all the lights... nothing. She cries and throws fits and just keeps at it all night long until like 2 am.... it doesnt matter what time she wakes up either. When i tell her to do things and she doesnt agree she talks back and yells or throws things. She hardly
ever listens the first time i tell her to do things and she always backtalks. When my fiance is around she listens to what he says no questions asked and she wont talkback. Its only with me or shell misbehave around him only when other people are around. All he has to do is be stern with her and shell listen but even when i tap her bottom shell laugh in my face. Idk what to do with her anymore. Pediatrician says shes fine and doesnt need meds for hyperactivity. I always was against saying kids are bad, just misbehaved but she is slowly changing mymind. Im going to have another baby soon and until we are fully settled and have saved enough to move we are going to be sharing this room. Im tired. Im stressed and im bummed out. Idk what to do with her anymore.... please help.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/24/2014

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And if you're considering sending her away at the age of 2, I'd say perhaps you should consider some parenting classes before your next is born.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/24/2014

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You need to apply some consistent redirection and discipline. When she continues to act out after you've redirected or corrected her, do so again. If she continues to push, then you need a time out method, or something similar that you ENFORCE CONSISTENTLY.

You are letting your 2 YO rule the roost...what are you going to do when you have 2 kids that won't behave because you won't be consistent?

The reason that she listens to her father is because he most likely follows through with discipline if she does not.

Now, to address your 2nd post...Why do you leave things that she can get into in places that she can reach? Not the best decision there. Be thankful it wasn't a cleaning solution and you didn't awake to a dead child. Learn how to keep EVERYTHING that she and your subsequent child can get into either locked up, or put up where they cannot reach it,

Dulce - posted on 05/24/2014

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&& just as i posted this.... i fell asleep at 2 am after she laid down next to me and at 3 i woke up to find my powdered tea all over the floor tv and 2 counters plus my lipstick in the empty can. We have a serious ant problem so now i had to spray raid everywhere. At 7 months pregnant..... its safe to say if there was something like military school for toddlers id pay a pretty penny to send her.

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