Margaret Chiara - posted on 11/09/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
Where I live all children begin preschool m-f, 9-5, at three years of age. They must be diaper free by the time they start "school". We dutifully potty trained A when he was 2.5, and it seemed to be easy enough, until he started having regressions, wetting himself because he didn´t want to stop playing, etc. And then that fall he started school and was gone all day long. He came home everyday with three changes of clothing completely soiled. 3yrs later here we are and nothing had changed....till we finally went to a Urologist only to be surprised by what they told us. A had been potty trained before he was ready physically, mentally or emotionally, (he didn´t even start talking till he was 3.5yrs old). and this made him never develop any real sense of when to go to the toilet, plus the fact over time, he just got used to being wet. We were told that urologists are seeing more and more cases such as our son´s. With cronic incontinence problems due to potty training too early and then being away from home all day in preschool with no individual attention or followup on the potty issues. SO SAD! and so sad for many kids like my son. I never imagined what the problem could have been since my second child was potty trained at two with in a week, and has never wet herself since, neither during the day, nor at night. Every child is different, and has their own rhythm of development.
Just want to say to all mom´s out there, if you see your son or daughter is having problems with wetting, either at home or a school, it may be for the same reason as many children like my son,...it just wasn´t the right time...too soon, too fast.
why is the whole world in such a rush to make children into adults at such early ages. It´s a messed up cruel world we live in. Here we are with A at 5ys of age, doing what we should have done with him when he was three, keeping him home, giving him love and attention, and taking him to the bathroom every other hour.