Anna - posted on 01/15/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )
Hello. I'm new to this forum. My soon to be 4 year old daughter is smart and witty. Since about 18 months old, she's been having angry tantrums. If we took something away, she'd get this look in her eyes that sometimes scared me. While I've seen a big difference in the last couple of months, there is an issue that I just can't solve. She's been in preschool since September: 2 times a week for 2.5 hrs. Since then I can only count 2 times that she left there without hesitation. She never wants to go home. It's a bit of a struggle for me as I have a 1 year old as well. Yesterday, she refused to leave. I had to put lo in the car and leave him alone and go back and carry her out screaming and kicking. All I get from the teachers/aids is this pity look. They used to help me try to convince her to leave. I'm so lost with her. Pediatrician called her strong- willed (understatement). I feel like we've done everything right: redirecting, time-outs for hitting, kicking, biting and talking, looking for solutions together. We stopped time-outs because they just made her angrier and pointless. She doesn't care about consequences. If I take something away, she'll care for a few minutes and doesn't even ask about it later. I could go on and on. I can deal with her tantrums at home and they're getting less frequent. I want to tackle the preschool exit. I should say, she doesn't like to leave anywhere: play yard, grandparents, aunts, stores, etc houses unless she's ready to do so. Thank you for any input.