Ashley - posted on 07/29/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
My sons is 2 and his father has not been involved since the begining. I asked him to be involved and help he said thats my job and the state would have to locate him. After months the state finally finds him and when cs is approaching he threatens custody. Since Aug of last year i have been in a custody battle. I have an attorney he doesnt and he did not respond to the petition which a default was entered. The judge still gave him a chance and he lives and 2 hrs a way and requested 50/50 (half the year). The judge has order financial info to be turned in and he hasnt complied he petitioned the court to reduce his cs mind you he only been paying at the time 3 mnths then says he is barley making it but manages to take out an auto loan & go on trips while on house arrest. He told me his counter petition was only out of spite bc i pursued cs and asked me to remove him from cs and i told him no. So now he has been bringing some girl to court and bragging how great his relationship is (i dnt care or ask he volunteers) and how he is a great father to her child (her dghtrs fthr is in prison) and will never do anything else for our child. He was on house arrest for drugs and is still on probation. He has been to prison as well and since being off house arrest he has had 12 supervied visits and missed 7. A contempt motion was filed against him bc he refuse to turn in his fncnI info and while i have to pay attorney fees & court cost and the court waives his bc he lies about his income. At this point i am stressed out bc I am taking this seriosuly but this is a game to him. He started texting me late at night early morning that he wants to share his feelings with me and he loves me no matter what but since the court is involved i am trying to run him into the ground. Down to pics of me when i was preg. Now if you have a gf i dnt get why a person would be texting and calling an ex! My question is to anyone who has experienced this do you think he will get standard visitation even since he is not making an effort to see our son with 2 supervised visits per month (5hrs total)? My attny sd she he will not get shared but im starting to feel like he is using my son as a tool to hurt me.I dont bother him or call him but he loves to text or call me when he feels. My thing is he claims he is barley making it then how can he support a child? He did ask to be in a relationship and i told him no bc he was becoming a prblm with being their for our son and i knw it would get worse do you think this is also why? Do anyone have similar issues & your outcomes or any advice....?