Changing babys last name to my name

Raquel - posted on 08/27/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies, i'm in a bit of a rough situation, i really need your help please. I had my daughter in march 2015, she was then after in the hospital for a month & came home to my residence. Me & the father were not married, we were just boyfriend & girlfriend. Since then, he has lost his job, she has no insurance & since she came home from the hospital he wants nothing to do with her, he doesnt support her & i do not receive child support. I agreed to give his last name to the baby on her birth certificate because i thought we were going to be together, he was going to ask me to marry him. Also, after i gave birth, it was rough, i was totally out of it, not thinking at all, especially because she aspirated during birth. She was in the hospital for a month & a half, the day she came home, he was there for about a week, then decided he wanted NOTHING to do with her. This was all in the state of New Jersey. I would really like my daughter to have my name since she's going to be on my insurance & i fully support her. How can i go about doing this, without him? we don't speak & again, he's not around. I would really appreciate your advice if anyone has gone through something similar or may know. Thank you all so much and best of luck to every single one of you, may you receive exactly what you ask for, for your children.

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Raquel - posted on 08/27/2015

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Thank you so much hun! I really appreciate the advice! Yes i want to get this done asap! But i was just worried that to be spiteful he might not agree to it, but yes i guess court would have to become involved. Technically it's abandonment

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/27/2015

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Best thing to do is get a lawyer. Even if he currently wants nothing to do with her, he is still just as much his responsibility. He also may change his mind down the road. Set up a child custody agreement. You can certainly petition for 100% custody with visitation. You can also discuss the name change. He should be paying child support no matter what. Having it legally documented, even if he isn't paying, will be in your childs favor for all future issues.

Don't slack on that. Just get it done. There are so many women in here on a daily basis with this issue, and mostly it is due to not setting up a legal agreement through the court system.

I am so sorry you and baby have had such a rough start. Congratulations on her homecoming! I hope you are both doing well, and best of luck love!

Raquel - posted on 08/27/2015

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Even in nj? Because i read that if a child is under one year of age you don't have to go through the courts ... Plus he's not involved in her life ugh :( this is so difficult thank you though

Sarah - posted on 08/27/2015

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You can't do it without him if he is listed on the birth certificate. You would both have to request a name change to the court. If he is not on the birth certificate and did not sign am affidavit of paternity then you can request a name change to the court. Any name change now has to go through the courts.

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