Changing my daughter's last name.

Alana - posted on 10/29/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Okay so, I want to change my daughter's last name to mine instead of her father's. He's on her birth certificate though, and I've seen stuff where I have to get some sort of forms and mail them to him, only I have no idea where he is and where he lives. The last time I saw him he was homeless and that was in June. That was the last time he saw our kids and then he didn't see her or try to contact her before that from July 2012-March 2013. And the only reason he contacted her in the first place, so I believe, is because I begged him to. When we were together, he was never there for us, and I supported all 3 of us until I was pregnant with our son. Then I was stuck, and then he cheated on me 2 weeks before he was born and he's not on that birth certificate. Anyway, he's not legitimized and in GA being on the birth certificate doesn't give him legal rights, it's just easier to get child support from him, which I will not do, I mean, I've been doing it on my own for 3 years now, why should I need his help now when he never bothered to offer before. The most he's given me for the kids is $80 in the 2 years....so...yeah. Basically, how would I go about changing my daughter's last name to mine.

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Enna - posted on 10/31/2013

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Yeah, I'm not sure how it works if you change a child's name. When I got married it was as simple as filling out a form. I would agree with Shawnn, call vital statistics.

Ev - posted on 10/29/2013

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Rights or not is not the case here. What is the case is the name change and it is a long process to go through. You still have to get her doctor records changed, social security card changed, and all this other stuff changed. And there are a lot of kids who have their dad's last name but not the mother's and they do just fine. As for getting picked on, that is part of life. SHe could still get picked on because her name is not popular or something. I am not trying to be mean here just saying the reality. My sister's child has her maiden name but my sister has her married name. My niece grew up with a different name than mom her whole life and not once was she confused. But what gets me is the idea that you do not want his support for those kids. If he is obligated to supply that support why not take it? One day you might find yourself and your kids in dire straights and without much money to live on. What would you do then if you did not have the support coming in? You need to think about them not what you think about your ex. That is not important. He may not see the kids ever again but he should be paying his half of their expenses.

Alana - posted on 10/29/2013

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My daughter is 3, she's not in school yet. I just don't want her to start school with the last name she has, not only because it's her father's and she would realize that she doesn't have the same last name as me and her brother, but it would also bring several cruel jokes to her, and almost sounds like a pornstar name. I tell her her last name is mine, but legally it's not and I want to change that.

Ev - posted on 10/29/2013

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First, how old is your daughter and if she is not old enough do you not think that changing her last name will cause HER confusion? It will also cause a lot of having to change everything on forms from the doctor's office to school records. Its hard enough on a kid to have two parents with different last names let alone having their last name changed over.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/29/2013

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contact your states Vital Records department. They'll tell you the steps that need to be followed for a legal name change.

For example: In Wyoming, you must publish a legal notice in the paper for 6 weeks. You don't have to hire an attorney, the county clerk's office will give you examples of how to write up the notice, and then you have to have it notarized. In our case, we stated that (not real names) "Josef Liveli, with his parents Susan and Josef, petition for a change of name from Josef Liveli III to Josef Liveli II" Had the document notarized, published it for 6 weeks. If there was no response within those 6 weeks, the name change was automatically filed by the court system, and we got an amended birth certificate. If there HAD been a protest, then that person would have had to have shown what negative impacts changing the name would have.

Granted, that is in Wyoming, and since my husband and I have been married for 23 years, and are bio parents for both of our children, we had no objections occur. You'll need to start with the records dept in your state, and proceed from there. Here, the newspaper notification is all that's needed, and it didn't have to run in a specific municipality. I could have run it on the other side of the state, and it wouldn't have mattered.

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