cheating

Mimib - posted on 03/07/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my boyfriend and i have a 9 month old baby together,things has going great so far,i am a stay at home mom,we r looking for a bigger place,he is a loving father to his daughter,we are not married yet,yesterday he left to work and left his gym bag home(he forgot to take it with him)i looked inside and found shampoo,conditioner,soap from a hotel,unopened condoms inside and Viagra with 2 missing pills,i am very confused and don t know what to do,i gave him a lot of chances before,is it enough proofs to confirm he s cheating,what should i do?
he owns a restaurant so he s surrounded with women and meets tons every day,i had trust issues with him before but he never admits to anything,i really need some advice ladies,we also planned a trip this coming week.i relly don t know what to do?

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Kelsey - posted on 03/08/2013

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I was sad for my baby too. On the positive side of things; your baby will grow up thinking that have mommy and daddy not being together is normal. Your baby won't have to deal with icky issues when she's older.

Mimib - posted on 03/08/2013

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you are right,i am not staying i just need to get a job,i am already looking for places,i feel sad for my baby but she will understand one day.

Kelsey - posted on 03/08/2013

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Personally, I would just leave. He sounds like he's full of it because he has "friends" that sound like bologna excuses. Also if he's cheating; (it's a if because you have only suspicions and coincidences) you don't know if he's using protection. Even if he has condoms. Also why would he even have condoms in the first place when he's in a committed relationship? I wouldn't deal with. If you decide to get back together; will you be able to trust him again? I can guarantee he'll never leave that bag around you again. Does he seem very protective of his phone? My ex never let me touch it without him in the same room. Eventually I just knew what he was doing and that was one of the many reasons why I dumped him when my baby was six months. Men who cheat act like we're the stupid ones. You would be much better off without him. I'm just say it because if you forgive him, there's nothing but his word "promising, he'll never do it again." I wish you all the best and sorry if I sounded like anti-guy. My ex would cheat too, it gets me all riled up again. Some couples can move past it and some couples can't. Keep your chin up. If you decide to move on; you have to do what you have to do to take care of your baby.

Mimib - posted on 03/08/2013

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i did yesterday,so he said that his friend gave him the Viagra at the gym,and he gave his friend the missing condom to try it lol and someone that works in hotel gave him the shampoo conditioner soap,i am so upset and confused i want believe him cos it s easier for me than moving out looking for a job...but i refuse to do that i need couple of days to relax and organize my thoughts.

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